AIBU to put 2 small pieces of beetroot on his plate?

[Sapeke1]

Week in week out I cook. Seven days a week with a roast on Sunday the same boring food with the same boring vegetables (peas, carrots) that my family will eat but TODAY I cut a BEETROOT into chunks and steamed it put most of it on my plate but I gave the everyone else 2 small pieces to try. My husband reacted like it was a sheep's eyeball or something, shouting "WHY HAVE YOU PUT BEETROOT ON MY PLATE?" and scooped it into the compost caddy thus undermining any attempts to encourage the kids to try this exotic new vegetable. Should I just stop cooking or what?

[user1486156729]

Beetroot is the food of the gods.

[kali110]

Husband is u for shouting, food phobia or not.
However someone upthread said he can't have a food phobia as he wouldn't have been able to eat the rest of the food on his plate...
You don't speak for everyone with food phobias!
I have food phobias, i don't have to get a clean plate just because a certain food has touched it.
Not everyone is the same.

However The husband is also unreasonable because i loves me some beetroot.

[exWifebeginsat40]

ficbia, I'll put you down as a maybe.

[Bearsinmotion]

I want to hear the funny beetroot story now...

[ExitPursuedByBear]

www.lovebeetroot.co.uk/

I'll just leave this here

[Batteriesallgone]

I will definitely be starting my next thread after a name change with 'I'm a real mumsnetter, I am aware beetroot is very polarising'

[BillSykesDog]

This thread is hilarious.

[Allalonenow]

I feel like dead beet tonight!

(I've got a funny beetroot story but will tell it another time)

[BertrandRussell]

Can I ask who reported this thread and why?

[venusinscorpio]

I cannot help my reaction. What part of that do you not understand ?

I do understand that you can't help your reaction. But shouting at people is something which may cause them significant distress or as I said, be seen as abusive and possibly trigger their own PTSD which you in turn may not be aware of. If they had no way of knowing about your phobia, I really don't see why you wouldn't be apologetic for upsetting them. I would be quite distressed if someone shouted at me, especially if I'd just cooked and served them a meal. And I personally have been in numerous abusive situations and associate being shouted at with bullying behaviour.

As I said, it's unreasonable to expect not ever to come into contact with these foods, so to be brutal it is your own problem to deal with. I'm sure people who know about your phobia would make every effort to help and if they deliberately gave you beetroot to see your reaction, that is abusive and they are not people you need in your life.

As other people have said, there is absolutely no reason to assume that the OP's husband suffers from a similar phobia of beetroot and certainly not that he does and his wife knew about it, as you have implied.

[Queenbean]

Obviously not, no. But the op's husband hasn't displayed ANY sensory issues prior to this, pre-18 or after

Which is why it doesn't seem as though he does suffer from sensory issues

[Queenbean]

That seems to be your entire argument throughout this thread

[pearlylum]

oops posted twice.

[ExitPursuedByBear]

Good fucking grief.

I eventually opened this thread to say how much I love beetroot but

[pearlylum]

Beetroot and chocolate cake is heavenly. Works in the same way as carrot cake, making the cake deliciously moist and sweet.

[PresidentOliviaMumsnet]

Evening all
We understand that this AIBU but we would ask you all please to remember that Mumsnet's raison d'être is to make lives easier.
That if there's one thing that we can all do with, it's some moral support
Thanks so much
MNHQ

[pearlylum]

Beetroot and chocolate cake is heavenly. Works in the same way as carrot cake, making the cake deliciously moist and sweet.

[Queenbean]

Ficbia

You can't help your own reaction, but it's not reasonable to argue that anyone in any situation who is rude about food is rude because they must have sensory issues.

[venusinscorpio]

Clearly you have absolutely no understanding of sensory issues

Clearly you have no empathy for people being shouted at, which is universally recognised as abusive behaviour, something which giving someone a piece of beetroot to eat is not, except in very exceptional circumstances as discussed. Perhaps you, in turn, should educate yourself on the many other possible triggers for PTSD?

Your food phobia is yours to manage. You cannot help it, but you also cannot expect that you will never come into contact with beetroot, porridge, or pictures of beetroot or porridge.