About kids out playing at this time of night?

[EvansAndThePrince]

I'm aware that this is partially my issue (1yo teething horribly and taking an age to settle, warm house so windows have to be open in order to breathe) but AIBU to think that next doors kids (5&7) shouldn't be out playing and screeching at this time of night on a school night?! They often stay out until 9, even 10pm!

There should be a word for the unreasonable irritation and judgement of children parents of Dc older than your eldest dc. Those awful rough toddlers when you have a new born. Those enormous year 2 kids running round the playground where your reception age child is etc. It goes on til your child reaches the age then you see things very differently ...

My DD is out.

It has actually stopped raining for at least 5 minutes so she's out in the front garden with all our neighbours kids. She'll come in when the rest go in - about 9ish

Making a racket is unreasonable.

They should be sleeping? I'm afraid you get to decide when yours go to bed, but everybody else's kids will go when their parents see fit.

School starts at 9, alarm at 8, so bedtime at 9 from age 5 in this house.

God I don't know what planet some of you are on :o
planet me
Children do generally play out in their own gardens when it's light and dry

Yabu. Playing out is exactly what kids should be doing. And because all dc are different nobody can say they should be in bed/ settling down at this time. Mine never was.

That said, if you mean high pitched screeching that isn't ok any time of day. And I think as a one off, it's perfectly ok to say to the kids parents something along the lines of 'I'm really sorry to be a pain and I'm really not complaining, but tonight my baby really won't settle, is there any chance that just for tonight you could ask the dc to be a bit quieter? I promise I won't be asking every night'. Something like that I'd happily accomodate, whereas regularly doing so or the expectation older dc should work round you as a matter of course, I would dismiss.

Yabu. Its summer. Its light and warm.

Yanbu, I've had little sods knock on my door at nearly 9pm wanting their ball back, waking my also-teething baby. Not once, several times. When I get cross and say no, they then open our heavy gate (that makes a noise when you do so), and can hear them running up and down our alley way .

I actually don't mind kids out after 8, but I think that play should be 'winding down' at that time, especially during the week. Living in a neighbourhood requires compromise and respect, it works both ways.

Mine are still out (age 2 & 4), I much prefer them to have a long lie as it allows me to get things sorted in the morning. My 4yr old has a afternoon nursery place.

Yabu. My six year olds go to bed at 9.30. No screeching though.

Salene really? 7pm?

Wondering where the nice weather is
oP they shouldn't make a racket, that's not on

Edmund, opening the gate is so rude!

My 3 year old has just finished watering the plants and has only just gone to bed. . Sorry not on glue!

Mine never went to sleep until gone 9, so they played out up until then.

I had a neighbour who loved to point out that I "didn't put mine to bed".

Very often mine were just finishing the sports/clubs that they did, at the time she put hers "to bed".

Have they been to school today? Our local schools were shut, because they were polling stations.

The noise does annoy me but as a PP said, the world does not revolve around my baby so I certainly wouldn't say anything. I've had the parents out partying in the garden till 11 on several Monday nights with lots of shouting, swearing and sweaty music and have not said anything so yes I'm being judgey but quietly

I totally get that life changes as your kids grow up and you see things differently, I'd have laughed myself silly if the me with a 1yo had told the childless me what I would do. I'd have also judged massively.

I just genuinely (I mean that) have never experienced kids that young being up that late on a school night. My younger sister is just hitting teens and I know for a fact she was in bed (reading, not sleeping) until she was at least 12, and as a kid myself, none of my friends were out at this time (or 20:18) playing on a school night.

We also always had a fair bit of winding down, hence the estimated 30/60 mins between coming inside and getting to sleep, and organising 2 kiddies that young with breakfast and getting dressed must take a little while in the morning, they leave the house at 8, I see them.

Just to add, they were told to keep the noise down, though.

One day your own child will be the one out playing in the garden at 8pm, in the sun, getting fresh air, it's what kid's should be doing.

Tbf we've had weird weather today
Rain
Cloudy
Muggy dry
Rain
Dry muggy
Massive storm
Now muggy dry again

I've sent my kids to bed though now

I'm between planet relaxed and full moon tonight