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Another parking one (sorry)

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WTAFF · 20/06/2016 09:36

AIBU to think that telling me to piss off was not an appropriate response to me questioning why a woman had blocked my driveway this morning?

Slightly longer story - I love opposite a sought after nursery which has been rated 'Outstanding'. This nursery is located on an A Road with single yellow lines.

This morning I left the house to go to work and a great big long car was parked over the whole width of my drive. My flabber was well and truly gasted!

I waited for five minutes and a woman came out of the nursery. I asked her if this was her car and pointed out that she was blocking my driveway. She told me to piss off twice. I was

Anyway, I realise that I need to hand myself a grip but writing this down has been a bit of therapy for me.

I suspect I will see her again. Any suggestions as to how I can prevent her from blocking my driveway in future? Not sure I want to go down the penguin bollard route just yet......

OP posts:

londonrach · 20/06/2016 09:39

Talk to the nursery. Was your car on the driveway.

namechangeparents · 20/06/2016 09:43

Put your own car in front of your driveway?

And no she was a silly sweary idiot. Of course you don't ever block people's driveways*. What gets into people? Oh yes they have big expensive cars and precious darlings and believe the combination gives them rights to inconvenience everyone else.

*And that includes parking opposite on a narrow road too. If someone has driven into their driveway I go elsewhere. If they have reversed in, and can therefore drive out and manoeuvre around me easily, I may park on the other side of the road opposite their driveway but it depends how narrow the road is.

PanGalaticGargleBlaster · 20/06/2016 09:44

Take photos of the car every time it blocks a driveway, not just yours, complain to the local authority and to the nursery EVERY time it happens.

Arkwright · 20/06/2016 09:46

Describe her to the nursery so they can tell her off. It reflects badly on them if their parents are behaving like that.

OvariesForgotHerPassword · 20/06/2016 09:48

I kind of want to ask why the ofsted rating of the nursery is relevant it's like how the daily mail can't report on a murder without saying how much the victims house was worth.

Marymaymay · 20/06/2016 09:50

As you did ask Ovaries, I'm guessing because this means that the nursery is busy, just like stating the road is an A road...

Owllady · 20/06/2016 09:54

What a rude woman yes, I'd tell the nursery

I don't know if anyone remembers my parking dilemma....a woman has been parking ON MY drive for almost TWO YEARS. Every night for two years… we've knocked on her window many times and she just stares ahead, completely blanks you, even my gardener has asked her to move, again she blanks him.

Anyway last week she was on there again blocking me in. I got in my car (didn't bother knocking her window as I'm a bit wtf about it) but she wouldn't move her car. I think she expected me to reverse out of the other end of my own driveway. I saw red at this point and drove up to the side of her car in a piss off my drive way. She SCOWLED AND TUTTED AT ME then shook her head and drove off, but went to go into my drive again behind me (it's a sort of in out drive) but you can't get in in one go, you have to reposition at least once...red mist descended I'm afraid. I reversed up to block her in and got out of the car to 'uh oh' off the children

Long story short, after a furious mother type telling off from me she hasn't done it again

schbittery · 20/06/2016 10:06

I always find that weird about the house prices as well.

Anyway, she was an idiot of the highest order. You don't block people's drives and if you did decide to chance it for a second, I'd expect anyone to be hugely apologetic.

I think you were very reasonable. I'm afraid if it were me the red mist would have descended and I would have gone absolutely ballistic at her and driven right up to her car leaving millimetres between them, shouting abuse at her out of the window (not that I am recommending this course of action but that is what I would and have done). We live on a fairly busy road with houses that have bollards all along apart from mine and my neighbours house. People often swing in across our drives to make a phone call, drop people off etc. Almost universally, as soon as they see me come out of my house to get in my car (as this morning) they move out of the way sharpish, often with a quick apologetic wave. This is largely ok with me. However one guy once pulled in right across my drive, totally blocking me in (not halfway across both like they normally do) to take a phone call and refused to move, winding down his window and shouting "I'm on the phone!" when I pipped at him after waiting for a minute of two. I can't describe my response, suffice it to say I had no conscious control over it and it culminated in him getting out of his car and then getting back in sharply shouting "you need to control your woman!" to my DP and brother who had come out to see what was going on (which just goes to show what a complete wanker he was). Never seen him since.

Anyway, I think the sensible thing to do is go and tell the nursery immediately and describe her and her car and tell them what she said. If she does it again lean out the window, take pictures and repeat.

ElBandito · 20/06/2016 10:19

Complain to the nursery.
Draw us a diagram, it's not a proper parking thread without a diagram.

dowhatnow · 20/06/2016 10:22

I like a good parking thread.

ApostrophesMatter · 20/06/2016 10:24

Another vote for a diagram.

Bravada · 20/06/2016 10:28

Owllady Actually on your drive? As in not just on the road blocking it (bad enough)

And yes OP please complain to the nursery. They will tell off the parents on your behalf.

And please report back if dickish woman does it again (love a parking thread too!)

tiggytape · 20/06/2016 10:36

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Pythonesque · 20/06/2016 10:38

Third (or fourth) the suggestion to talk to the nursery. To be honest the safety of how their children are being dropped off will be of concern to them too, and parking across a driveway across the road isn't a safe way to do it for that agegroup!

DontDead0penlnside · 20/06/2016 10:39

People are always using my drive to do 3 point turns and it gives me the most serious rage. For starters, the road is plenty wide enough to do it there, secondly, if you can't do a 3pt, don't be driving; and thirdly, not only is there enough room on the road, there's also a wide pavement they also use up AND then encroach on my drive as well.

Unfortunately (without outing myself), I can't explain why the lie of the land makes it impossible to block/gate it off. I just tend to rush out the door and glare at them as they hurriedly drive away.

It's the sheer volume that pisses me off, like water torture.

DontDead0penlnside · 20/06/2016 10:42

I also once had to go and ask a neighbour I don't know to move his car off my drive. I went out down the side of my house (i.e. invisible from the road, blatantly nothing BUT my own personal land) to see his wanky car there one fine day.

When I went and asked him to move it, he said he had to park there as his own single car drive was full and he didn't want to park on the road.

Well next time buy a house with better parking then you prick.

ingeniousidiot · 20/06/2016 10:49

Just slowly drive up close to the car blowing your horn continually until she moves. Each and everytime. The horn is there to alert people to your presence, she clearly has problems seeing your car on the drive. You are therefore helping her. You are very kind.

NavyAndWhite · 20/06/2016 10:49

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WhatchaMaCalllit · 20/06/2016 10:56

I'm with Ingeniousidiot here.

Definitely the way to go in a situation as you've described.

You are being most helpful not just to her, but to the other parents who may not be aware that you are there either.

All in all, you are doing your bit for the community if you will

Owllady · 20/06/2016 10:56

Yes bravada, actually on my drive.
When I had words with her last week (given she has not responded to any of us in years) she practically said I was being unreasonable as she was only there waiting to pick someone up and she shrugged

I'm afraid at that point I lost it.

JudyCoolibar · 20/06/2016 11:05

If she does it again, photograph the car tell her you are going to the police as it's an offence to park across someone's driveway when you're blocking them in.

t4gnut · 20/06/2016 11:22

To all the people saying complain to the nursery - just what is it you expect them to do? They have no control on what happens outside their gates on a public road. All they can do is send a letter to parents asking them to be considerate to local residents.

She does it again: license plate and police called. Or get one of those stickers that's a real bugger to get off and slap that on her windscreen with a note explaining she's not allowed to block driveways.

Arkwright · 20/06/2016 11:26

t4gnut the nursery will know who this parent is. They are morally responsible for the behaviour of their parents. She probably throws her weight around with them as well. As I said it reflects badly on them.

LyndaNotLinda · 20/06/2016 11:32

The nursery can name and shame. They could ask a nice traffic warden to come along and hand out parking tickets to all the people parking like twats.

I think the outstanding bit is relevant inasmuch as people come from further away for outstanding educational provision. Or perhaps there is a higher proportion of entitled twattery?

t4gnut · 20/06/2016 12:10

"t4gnut the nursery will know who this parent is. They are morally responsible for the behaviour of their parents. She probably throws her weight around with them as well. As I said it reflects badly on them."

Quite possibly they know who she is - but they have no authority over her actions outside the nursery gates. They cannot do a thing about it. She is on a public highway and it's the legal structures that surround use of that provide any form of redress.

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