To tell my sons mother it's non of her business?

[ProundParent2009]

To cut the long story short, I am a full time daddy and carer to a beautiful little man.i am a stay at home parent so I can support my son (7) around the clock with all of his additional needs.

My sons mother has seen him a hand full of times ( she handed him over to me the moment he was born) and after many years of no contact at all fhe court told her she could only see him supervised ( she agreed .. Then refused)

Today we were out with " friends' when I told them we planned to have a take away with little man and chill and watch a film... Somehow this has got back to my sons mother who has sent me a rather horrible text saying how dare I give HER son a take away, he isn't allowed one and he should be only eating healthy ( he eats lots of fruits and veggies daily!) and that I am a terrible parent and that she must be the only one who cares about him( even though she doesn't see or ask about him!)

AIBU to say it's non of her business what I feed him? She hasn't seen him for a very long time and hasn't even asked about him ( no Xmas card from her or anything) and that she should keep her nose out?!

Ps I don't give my son take aways often, it's often when we have one its a treat!

[ProundParent2009]

Thankyou everyone for your suggestions.. I have ignored her but it's very difficult because she has really annoyed me!

And for the person asking if she was the one who refused to change her son's nappy during a supervised visit a while ago the answer is Yes.. She is the " mother'" who would happily leave her own child in a soiled nappy rather than change him.

He have enjoyed a lovely take away which involved sausages , chips and extra tomato sauce.. And some of my pizza :D

[MothertotheLordsofmisrule]

Hope the takeaway was good!

I really want a pizza now.

Ignore and don't respond.

And yes I would be checking which of your 'friends' is a stirrer.

[LaBelleOtero]

Don't engage. I know it's tempting, my son's DF used to swan in once a year and give me the benefit of his parenting 'wisdom' and it's so hard not to bite back, but it's best to just block her.

[LaBelleOtero]

Maybe send her a photo of your DS eating the food.

Don't do this, it would just cause more drama.

And yes, have a word with your friends and ask them not to run back to your ex with every little thing you say. Or just block them too.

[BoatyMcBoat]

Tempting though it must be to do smething like send her a photo of your son enjoying his take away, make that an imaginary text (and enjoy it to the full in that form). Nothing wrong with a take-away treat, it does you good from time to time. I'm sure your son has a great diet and a fun life.

Any revenge against his mum's interference is more fun when it stays in the mind - no consequences is one of its beauties.

[Grilledaubergines]

Sorry, I was saying about the photo in jest but probably inappropriate. Just upset for the OP and upset with the behaviour of his child's mother.