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AIBU?

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To tell my sons mother it's non of her business?

57 replies

ProundParent2009 · 19/06/2016 18:59

To cut the long story short, I am a full time daddy and carer to a beautiful little man.i am a stay at home parent so I can support my son (7) around the clock with all of his additional needs.

My sons mother has seen him a hand full of times ( she handed him over to me the moment he was born) and after many years of no contact at all fhe court told her she could only see him supervised ( she agreed .. Then refused)

Today we were out with " friends' when I told them we planned to have a take away with little man and chill and watch a film... Somehow this has got back to my sons mother who has sent me a rather horrible text saying how dare I give HER son a take away, he isn't allowed one and he should be only eating healthy ( he eats lots of fruits and veggies daily!) and that I am a terrible parent and that she must be the only one who cares about him( even though she doesn't see or ask about him!)

AIBU to say it's non of her business what I feed him? She hasn't seen him for a very long time and hasn't even asked about him ( no Xmas card from her or anything) and that she should keep her nose out?!

Ps I don't give my son take aways often, it's often when we have one its a treat!

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DownstairsMixUp · 19/06/2016 19:33

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TheWeeBabySeamus1 · 19/06/2016 19:34

My ex (who pays no child support) tried this with me, and it went down like a lead balloon.

She gets no say in what you feed your son and you don't have to justify it. Sounds like she was jealous that you and your son are having a lovely day together.

Ignore and crack on with your evening- she's not even worth a second thought.

sleeponeday · 19/06/2016 19:36

Block her and ignore. Tempting as it would be to respond as she deserves, it sounds as though the last thing you need is her deciding to make any sort of point, or to try to seek contact again. Don't stir the wasp's nest even if one of the little fuckers has stung you, essentially.

Whocansay · 19/06/2016 19:36

I also suggest you ignore the text and distance yourself from such 'friends'.

I think it sounds like a lovely evening, to be honest. What's wrong with having a treat every now and again?

LittleReindeerwithcloggson · 19/06/2016 19:37

Makes me wonder if she's planning something. Trying to make you out as a bad parent so she can go back to court etc? Or maybe she's just horrible! Either way I would ignore it!

wizzywig · 19/06/2016 19:39

Agree with another poster. Text back "sorry but who are you?"

FetchezLaVache · 19/06/2016 19:40

I remember your previous posts OP, you're doing an AMAZING job and it's frankly nobody's business if you enjoy the odd take-away with your son. YADNBU.

Aeroflotgirl · 19/06/2016 19:41

I would totally ignore it, delete it, silly woman.

x2boys · 19/06/2016 19:46

Is this the same women who wont change her disabled son,s nappies ? She sounds charming i would ignore .

NeedMoreSleepOrSugar · 19/06/2016 19:52

Delete it. Enjoy your evening!

miraclebabyplease · 19/06/2016 19:54

Ignore. Yhe cynic in me suggests she is trying to get evidence against you of how horrible you are.

Totesgawjushun69 · 19/06/2016 19:56

Ignore.

What takeaway are you having? [greedyemotion]

Notonthelawn · 19/06/2016 19:58

Ignore.
Ditch friends.
Have ice cream after takeaway every weekend

Pinkheart5915 · 19/06/2016 20:03

Ignore. People like that are best ignored it annoys them more than a response.

Absolutely it is none of her business. She isn't a Mother she walked away from your little guy and doesn't want to see him.

A take away now and then doesn't do any harm

NeedAScarfForMyGiraffe · 19/06/2016 20:03

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FledglingFridge · 19/06/2016 20:07

Ignore. But ditch whichever cock is posing as your friend and feeding back to her.

YY to screenshotting too.

Iamthegreatest1 · 19/06/2016 20:14

Do people really have so little going on in their own lives that a bit of information about a dad and his son getting a takeaway is suddenly ground breaking news to be passed on back to the dad's ex wife? How terribly sad.

Damselindestress · 19/06/2016 20:21

Are you the same poster whose ex wouldn't even change her own child's nappy? She clearly can't or won't care for him and is compensating for that by criticising the way you care for him. Ignore her and enjoy your evening but be careful about the 'friends' you talk to in future if they go gossiping to your ex.

KitKat1985 · 19/06/2016 20:21

I agree with ignoring it. She sounds unhinged and you sound like a lovely Dad.

WorraLiberty · 19/06/2016 20:38

I agree with others, just ignore.

Grilledaubergines · 19/06/2016 20:42

Ignore. And chuck the friends, they're bastards.

she doesn't get to decide how you raise your son.

Grilledaubergines · 19/06/2016 20:43

Maybe send her a photo of your DS eating the food.

starry0ne · 19/06/2016 20:44

Hope you are both enjoying your Takeaway.. Another ignore vote

Leggytadpole · 19/06/2016 20:45

Ignore.

Happy Fathers Day, you sound like a fantastic dad.

Lovemylittlebears · 19/06/2016 20:48

Ignore

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