To tell my sons mother it's non of her business?

[ProundParent2009]

To cut the long story short, I am a full time daddy and carer to a beautiful little man.i am a stay at home parent so I can support my son (7) around the clock with all of his additional needs.

My sons mother has seen him a hand full of times ( she handed him over to me the moment he was born) and after many years of no contact at all fhe court told her she could only see him supervised ( she agreed .. Then refused)

Today we were out with " friends' when I told them we planned to have a take away with little man and chill and watch a film... Somehow this has got back to my sons mother who has sent me a rather horrible text saying how dare I give HER son a take away, he isn't allowed one and he should be only eating healthy ( he eats lots of fruits and veggies daily!) and that I am a terrible parent and that she must be the only one who cares about him( even though she doesn't see or ask about him!)

AIBU to say it's non of her business what I feed him? She hasn't seen him for a very long time and hasn't even asked about him ( no Xmas card from her or anything) and that she should keep her nose out?!

Ps I don't give my son take aways often, it's often when we have one its a treat!

Ignore. Don't even dignify her comment with a response - seriously, she is just trying to wrong-foot you and get you "apologising" to her, and deafening silence is the only sensible response.

I wouldn't respond at all.

I think that's probably a message to ignore.

Any idea why she has become interested in your DS after so many years?

Maintain radio silence... watch that old Bruce Dern film Silent Running, you'll get the idea

That's a really odd text for a totally disengaged parent to send.
Ignore it.

Agree, radio silence. I don't know how she dares send you this message!

I'd respond with a quick "it's not up to you", and leave it at that. Sometimes people need to be told the truth.

She doesn't sound disengaged how did she find out.
Ignore the text anyway

I wouldn't respond. I would feel confident that you are a good parent and she has no idea what your parenting is like. Don't rise to it!

What a loon.
I'd not respond to her, but if you must you could simply reply, "Don't be silly."

I remember your last post op. Ignore her she's not worth the cost of a text. Bitch.

Your last thread I should've said.

She doesn't sound disengaged

Someone who doesn't send their own seven year old a Christmas card is the very definition of a disengaged parent!

Ignore the text and then re-evaluate your 'friends'.

Agree with PP -don't answer. It's not worth getting wound up over. She's a shit parent, has no idea about your son's diet or lifestyle and it just spoiling for a fight. Enjoy your takeaway!

Yes ignore the text, she is not worthy of a response.

And distance yourself from these'friends'.

The mature sensible thing would be to not text back.

I would personally rip her a new one and ask why the fuck she thinks she has a say when she clearly really doesn't give a shit.

Ignore. I'd be rethinking your friendship too.

It sounds like she's trying to goad you into a row. Ignore her. I know it will be hard and you will want to send all sorts of shirty messages back, as ChillyEgg said but that's what she wants, to get a reaction from you and open up a dialogue where she will just spout venom to make you feel crap.

If you really want to piss her off and get the upper hand just totally ignore her.

You could reply with "who is this ?"

Delete the text and ignore her. And I would want to know which of your 'friends' told her you plans for the evening.

Blimy - I'm seriously fanatic about healthy food and even I wouldn't begrudge my kid having a take away on Father's Day when his dad looks after him all the time! She's being ridiculous and I think I'd just ignore. Enjoy your take away!

What a shame you never got her text eh OP?