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To take some proper coffee to playgroup?

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Givemeabone · 19/06/2016 15:18

I go to only playgroup each week. It is on a monday morning and starts at 9:15. I usually drop ds off at school and head straight there with dd.
Most monday mornings are a bit manic and a lot of the time I find myself getting to playgroup having not yet had a brew of any sort.
I could really do with a coffee at that point.
The coffee they have is cheap shite nescafe instant stuff. It's horrible.
Wibu to either take my own proper coffee & cafetiere, which I don't mi d sharing as a little goes a long way. Or atleast take a decent instant coffee, which I won't want to share!

What 'type' of mum bracket would you put me in at your playgroup?

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Givemeabone · 19/06/2016 19:13

Never heard of the bosom ones procrastinator Grin

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Sallystyle · 19/06/2016 19:14

What isn't shit coffee btw?

I have heard Neros, Starbucks, Costa and pretty much every other chain sells shift coffee.

So those who think they drink good coffee, what are you drinking, out of interest?

Off to buy DH a Bodum.

CrushedNinjas · 19/06/2016 19:16

Presumably only when you were breast feeding?

ShatnersBassoon · 19/06/2016 19:19

I would either drink the coffee offered (I've managed to drink 1000s of crappy coffees at playgroups and other gatherings over the years), or stay completely on my own and take an insulated cup of something palatable.

Setting up a new option with the associated equipment could look a bit ungratefuI and railroady. It might make the organisers feel a bit embarrassed of their offering. I just think sometimes it's easier to go with the status quo than to potentially aggravate people over something that is as inconsequential as supping a rubbish coffee or asking for a water instead.

Alternatively, join the group's committee and make suggestions about improving the quality of the refreshments.

HelenaJustina · 19/06/2016 19:20

I run a toddler group on a Monday morning and I don't think we serve shit coffee... But I drink tea so maybe we do!

We charge £1/family to keep it affordable for everyone, there are two of us left on the original team and we fund all of the milk, biscuits, bread sticks, rice cakes, tea, coffee, bin bags etc from our own pockets cos we're nice like that

I wish people were a bit more appreciative of the week in/week out slog of running the group... If they want to critique the quality of the coffee, they can bloody well man the kitchen and make some for the hordes!

RubbleBubble00 · 19/06/2016 19:25

Take some decent coffee plus couple of big cafetiere's if they are going cheap in charity shop. Smartie style small cookies/biccys are a huge hit at ours - they vanish in minutes

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Givemeabone · 19/06/2016 19:31

Thanks helena but your post doesn't apply to me

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TheSkiingGardener · 19/06/2016 19:32

I used to take the coffee bags or the one cup filter things. No one batted an eyelid that I know of. If they did well then clearly we weren't going to click anyway so that saved some time

katiekrafter · 19/06/2016 19:35

This playgroup manager would kill for a parent like you, especially if coffee came too ....! We do have instant coffee, but if a proper cup came in it would be welcomed :)

JenniferYellowHat1980 · 19/06/2016 19:38

Azera is a great instant IMO. I prefer it to most filters I've tasted. Big standard Nescafé is gruesome though. OP I would definitely take your own in a ceramic travel cup or just take water and wait til you get home. Anything else is a bit offensive really.

ateapotandacake · 19/06/2016 19:38

I think it depends on if you've friends there. If you could get away with saying 'I'm so sorry I'm a massive coffee fiend and I've brought this...' And be prepared to share then go for it. If they know you it might be ok?

HighDataUsage · 19/06/2016 19:44

lyonscoffeeuk.com/

I buy Lyons coffee bags when I'm travelling or for the office. They make a lovely cup of filter coffee with all the faff of coffee making paraphernalia. There are about 18 bags of filter coffee in a box and you make it just like you would make a cup of tea.

Shesinfashion · 19/06/2016 19:44

Is it really so important to you to have a decent coffee for the short time you're there? I'd think you were a stuck up knob.

HighDataUsage · 19/06/2016 19:45

Should read without all the faff of

trafalgargal · 19/06/2016 22:08

Heck I'm a coffee snob and if I saw you with your cafetiere mumbling away about "shite coffee" me and my travel mug would give you a wide berth as I'd think you were precious and a bit short on tact..

When you are dealing with mixed income groups a bit of tact and diplomacy is needed to avoid making those who can't afford more expensive choices from feeling uncomfortable. That can turn into some pretty nasty comments if someone picks up on you looking down your nose at them (which some of your comments have come across implying saying they drink shite....only have shite coffee at home etc)

You might be absolutely lovely in every way apart from your coffee obsession but people might miss that if your foible becomes the centre of attention.

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Givemeabone · 19/06/2016 22:17

I'm hardly a stuck up knob shesin
It's just nice for the 1st coffee of the day to actually taste good.

That's the thing I don't understand trafalgar fresh coffee can cost just as much as instant coffee, and the packet lasts longer as one scoop can do 2 people. It also only takes like 3 minutes longer to make than instant.

Since I've started this thread I'm now wondering why there is angst about someone using a cafetiere?

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Givemeabone · 19/06/2016 22:19

Also, who said I'd be mumbling away about shite coffee. Of course I wouldn't be.
I was thinking I could just wander in, let people know I'm making a fresh coffee and if anyone wants one, then make them one. I plan to share.

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Playduh · 19/06/2016 22:21

Flask. My DH is a coffee nut so makes a very over complicated flask full of the stuff for me admittedly delicious that quite often I drag around with me half the day. No one bats an eyelid.

A cafetière is asking for trouble IMHO.

ICJump · 19/06/2016 22:25

Take the proper coffee and ask if anyone else wants one. You'll probably make a couple if friends who also don't want the shit coffee.
Liking nice things isn't pretentious provided you don't wank in about them and share where possible.

ShatnersBassoon · 19/06/2016 22:27

Take along a few toys that are better than those the group have. Put some good handwash in the loo.

NarkyKnockers · 19/06/2016 22:34

I think a lot of the 'angst' has come from the fact that a lot of people haven't read all 8 pages to find the rip feed post where you say that the group has an open kitchen and that you take turns to host including being responsible for refreshments!
If you turned up at the local Surestart, on the other hand, with a cafetiere and muscled your way into the kitchen you would look rather foolish.

hollyisalovelyname · 20/06/2016 17:55

I like Millicano by Kenco as my instant coffee. I far prefer it to the Nescafe Azzerro one.
I use it in my coffee 'mug' thingy with the spillproif lid.

whois · 20/06/2016 17:58

Can't you just pick up a coffee like Costa on the way? Would look less odd!

This!

whois · 20/06/2016 17:58

Also, who said I'd be mumbling away about shite coffee. Of course I wouldn't be. I was thinking I could just wander in, let people know I'm making a fresh coffee and if anyone wants one, then make them one. I plan to share.

Changed my mind. This is the way to go :-)

I would be all over your fresh coffee offer

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Givemeabone · 20/06/2016 20:17

Grin whois
There is no takeaway coffee shops near me or the playgroup

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