AIBU to be offended by Hubby's rating?!

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Context:

I asked hubby to rate a film (Life of Pi) in regards to how much he enjoyed it overall; I was baffled by his rating as he said the film was 'ok' and then gave it a 'solid 7' out of 10. He then rated a few other films (his favourite reaching a 9.2).

Out of curiosity, I then asked him to rate how much he liked this girl he liked for ages at the time of liking her (the only girl he actually liked other than me. However they never dated as she rejected him when he asked her out a few times) when he was much younger (20). He claims he never loved her but liked her; her rating was 7.3. Obviously I had to have a current rating for myself (his wife for over a year and a half but happily been together for over 5 and a half years) and he gave me a 9.9 (probs an exaggeration!).

Question:

AIBU that I'm a (fair) bit offended that he liked her only 26/27% less than how much he loves me?!?

Note:

I usually do ask him some hypothetical questions (some comfortable and some uncomfortable/that will make you think) and we rate stuff all the time so this is not that weird a thing to do for us.

Are you TRYING to start a row? What a silly question to ask.

Mirror Mirror on the wall...

This is a joke post, right?

Why would he have pursued her and asked her out multiple times if he didn't think she was worth pursuing?

Serious question though - are you joking, or are you incredibly, incredibly insecure?

WTF........ I'm actually PMSL at this! Why just why....... Don't fish for compliments unless you warn the OP before that they must give a total biased answer. Why is this even relevant, he married you?!!!

You might not think it is weird but it is. try and get a life

On the basis that my partner is in a band and by far their greatest song is one he wrote about his ex and HE'S NEVER WRITTEN A THING ABOUT ME - breathe - you are not being unreasonable.

Never ask you partner anything about their exes! It's just danger zone for your own emotions. Unless you're sure you can handle anything he might say, or do it in an extremely safe and jokey fashion, I'd advice it's always better just to stay off the subject.

Enix now that he's rated you against someone else he fancied, how do you rate him against someone else you really fancied? And please rate his favourite film too :-)

Yes, you are being completely unreasonable and unfair. You asked him a question and either wanted/expected him to lie (in which case why ask the question anyway?) or were trying to find something to be annoyed at him about. This kind of question is very unfair to ask unless you're secure enough to be ok with any response they give. I don't even think it's ok then, as it is something that could potentially play on your mind later if your relationship is ever in difficulty.

He is with you, why would you even ask this question?!

If you ask questions like that, you get what you deserve. :)

I don't think you asked out of curiosity tbh, I think you asked because you still have a hangup that your husband had an unrequited love for another woman prior to you.

Why would you want to compare yourself to a woman that he fancied when he was 20? You are his wife, he choose to marry you, etc etc. Is it because he never got to date the other woman, therefore you worry he may wonder 'what if'?

Asking comfortable/uncomfortable questions are perfectly normal and show trust and healthy communication - but being even slightly offended that your 9.9 score is only 27% higher than her 7.3 rating is frankly, a bit crazy. The fact you have to overqualify it and expect a rating of yourself (i.e "score is based on how he felt at the time of liking her") and that your DH had to assert that he never loved her but loves you really does expose the possible insecurity you have.

Sounds like poor bloke can't win - the problem wasn't with your rating, but that he rated her higher than you wanted him too.

To be honest, you and your Husband have far too much time on your hands.

Comparisons are odious!!
Really, there are more important things in life and anyway he married you, did he not?!!

I would be more offended if he rated her lower cause he would be lying. If you won't like the answer don't ask the question

Thread bollocks-ratio = 9.9
Op batshitcrazy factor = 9.9

Are you 6? Because that's a kind of a question I'd be expecting from my DD. Who is six.

You share 70% of your genome with a sea sponge. Unclench.

I agree. Comment of the year.

As others have said, you're trying to compare the difference between two different things.

So let's say he liked her 7.3, let's call like x
He loves you 9.9 let's call love y

So you have 9.9y - 7.3x which even a Year 7 student knows you can't simplify any further.

If you want to simplify further, you need to decide how much more loving you is worth than liking you. I'd guess you could be divorced but still amicable, ie still like each other, so I'm guessing him loving you is worth much more to you than him liking you. Only you know how much more, but I'll pick an arbitrary figure - say 6.75 times more.
This then means that y=6.75x
Therefore you can substitute the y in your original equation for 9.9 multiplied by 6.75 = 66.825

So he likes her 7.3x and you 66.825x, making him liking you 9.15 times as much as he liked her (to 3 significant figures)

Job done. No need to worry

Grow up, OP!

He's bu giving life of pi a solid 7. It's a 4 at most and that's being generous. I hated that duplicitous, panic attack inducing, bollock of a film.

Actually I withdraw that 4 and give it a 1 for special effects.

Life of Pi I would rate no higher than a 3 tbh. I was really looking forward to watching it too but what a monumental pile of shite it was.

And you are being childish. I don't know how old you are but the OP doesn't sound like you are old enough to actually be married to begin with! This is the kind of things very young teenagers argue/mope about

And I did not mean that to come across as nastily as it did, I apologize. Just read it back and it sounds very wrong.

Really?