AIBU to be offended by Hubby's rating?!

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Context:

I asked hubby to rate a film (Life of Pi) in regards to how much he enjoyed it overall; I was baffled by his rating as he said the film was 'ok' and then gave it a 'solid 7' out of 10. He then rated a few other films (his favourite reaching a 9.2).

Out of curiosity, I then asked him to rate how much he liked this girl he liked for ages at the time of liking her (the only girl he actually liked other than me. However they never dated as she rejected him when he asked her out a few times) when he was much younger (20). He claims he never loved her but liked her; her rating was 7.3. Obviously I had to have a current rating for myself (his wife for over a year and a half but happily been together for over 5 and a half years) and he gave me a 9.9 (probs an exaggeration!).

Question:

AIBU that I'm a (fair) bit offended that he liked her only 26/27% less than how much he loves me?!?

Note:

I usually do ask him some hypothetical questions (some comfortable and some uncomfortable/that will make you think) and we rate stuff all the time so this is not that weird a thing to do for us.

It reminds me of the joke about the man recovering consciousness and the doctor asks him what happened.

"My wife and I were talking about fantasies and when I asked her about who she thinks about sleeping with she said Tom Cruise, then she asked me the same and apparently 'Your sister' is the wrong answer"

Hmm....so the maximum score your "hubby" (bleurgh, disgusting word) could have awards you was 10. Given that he had already awarded this previous woman 7.3, the maximum amount you could have exceeded her by was 27%. So it seems that your problem is not that he doesn't like you enough, but that he should have liked her less.

So you are expecting your hubby (gross, yucky word) to have known BEFORE HE EVEN MET YOU not to like anyone more than, say, 5 out of 10?? OMG, OP, can you not see how MASSIVELY MENTAL that makes you sound?? Why would you say things like that that, OP??? Out loud?? WHY??

WON'T SOMEONE PLEASE THINK OF THE CHILDREN??

Still laughing at the sea sponge comment!

Yabu calling him 'hubby' pop the lid back on the glue would you.

This is all beyond me. Me and DHs last conversation like this went, "if I was a packet of crisps, what flavour would I be?"

Apparently I'm plain with no salt. He said it's because I don't need artificial anythings added. I just got stuck on the word, plain.

I'll ask him about sums when he gets up.

All the people I've met IRL who ask stupid ratings questions are horribly insecure and generally massive PITAs.

OP don't ask stupid questions if you might not like the answer. Lame.

I've read this twice now and I still don't believe rating girlfriends is something an adult would do. The "hubby" bit is bad enough but rating girlfriends? That's the sort of thing insecure teenage girls demand so they can set some bewildered lad up to fail! Bonkers.

You'd have a point if he rated her more than you.

It was unrequited love. I wouldn't have been surprised or upset if she'd been rated anywhere up to the same as me.

And this is why they should Bring back Jackie magazine.

Sorry, Maths isn't my strong point. So, if he'd said the maximum 10 for you, what would the % difference be? Sounds like he can't win.

Also, in Maths can you compare 2 different categories and still work out a % difference. To me 'Like out of 10' and 'Love out of 10' are not comparable. Surely you need to give them some weighting. But I am not a Mathematician.

Years and years ago when I was young and stupid I pushed and pushed now-DH to tell me which of the girls from Friends he fancied most (what I meant was more than me). I still hate Jennifer Aniston. The moral of the story is don't ask questions you won't like the answer to.

First world problems 😯

Totally fucking bonkers - and 'hubby' - vomits forever

The rating thing is weird but the fact you are still focusing on a woman your dh liked but never dated who rejected him is desperate.

You need to look for your own self worth and put it in a safe place.

Always a bad idea to fish for compliments. When I was 25, I teasingly asked my newish boyfriend if he'd noticed any of my defects yet. OBVIOUSLY the only correct answer was 'you haven't got any!', but no, his actual response was patting my stomach and saying 'not exactly a slim-jim, are you?'.

My BMI was about 23 (although admittedly I do store my fat around my middle). I never let him forget it. He did eventually see the error of his ways.

He's so obviously still seeing her. Check his phone while he's asleep and put a tracker in his car.

Yep op, you are being very unreasonable
indeed.

You what?

Pitless: I'm thinking it was a Gaussian distribution but who knows?!

Thanks for the replies everyone. We actually have done the best sex question and other things. I do think it's pretty interesting to talk about even though one of us may get offended but I realise I should probably not post things online after a few drinks . Will still call the hubby hubby though

Banana peanut - I was thinking a 6.8/7 before he answered! But yes I probably underestimated his feelings which have obviously long gone.

You are still sat on the pedestal. I wouldn't worry.

This reminds me of Stan the statistician who briefly appeared in Viz.

Worst compliment I ever received from DH was that he viewed me as a trophy wife.

CuntingDMjournos - that almost made me spit my tea out! Haha I'm of the same mind that ratings are highly variable! Hubby is laughing hard right now.

He actually did say you can't easily rate a qualitative experience but did it anyway. I mentioned the mathematician thing as I knew people were going to WTF at the decimal places.

Also, I know this is going to sound like an excuse but I was actually surprised I hit a 9.9 - I think that's unrealistically high and told him so. My rating I provided is actually lower

But he's comparing apples and oranges. He liked this girl but he loves you, so neither of you have any business providing ratings on such an uneven playing field. Like is like, love is love. Therefore he can compare two women he likes quite accurately and two women he loves quite accurately, but a like v a love should never happen. Therefore you are both BU.

Weird!