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Original poster

AIBU to be offended by Hubby's rating?!

124 replies

Enix · 18/06/2016 01:10

Context:

I asked hubby to rate a film (Life of Pi) in regards to how much he enjoyed it overall; I was baffled by his rating as he said the film was 'ok' and then gave it a 'solid 7' out of 10. He then rated a few other films (his favourite reaching a 9.2).

Out of curiosity, I then asked him to rate how much he liked this girl he liked for ages at the time of liking her (the only girl he actually liked other than me. However they never dated as she rejected him when he asked her out a few times) when he was much younger (20). He claims he never loved her but liked her; her rating was 7.3. Obviously I had to have a current rating for myself (his wife for over a year and a half but happily been together for over 5 and a half years) and he gave me a 9.9 (probs an exaggeration!).

Question:

AIBU that I'm a (fair) bit offended that he liked her only 26/27% less than how much he loves me?!? Shock

Note:

I usually do ask him some hypothetical questions (some comfortable and some uncomfortable/that will make you think) and we rate stuff all the time so this is not that weird a thing to do for us.

OP posts:
Original poster
Enix · 18/06/2016 10:17

Piemernator - how cheeky!!

LittleLionMansMummy - that's very well put. He said that after his answer when I raised an eyebrow and made a Shock face

OP posts:
KissMyArse · 18/06/2016 10:21

Why would anyone invite this sort of comment and the inevitable hand-wringing that follows?

Just weird.

Original poster
Enix · 18/06/2016 10:26

KMA - I didn't tell him off or say anything negative - I asked him to explain the rating, we had a last glass of wine and laughed as I had my turn to rate him/ex.

OP posts:
KissMyArse · 18/06/2016 10:37

Ah, okay Enix

For what it's worth I'd give Life of Pi 3/10. That's 2 hrs 7 mins of my life I'll never get back.

Original poster
Enix · 18/06/2016 10:40

KMA - I thought it had incredible visuals and the story was really unique, but then I've always loved the book. Hubby said it was basically a man and a tiger on a boat for 2 hours lol.

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Sallystyle · 18/06/2016 10:46

I asked my husband similar at the start when I was stupidly insecure.

He refused to answer the question. He is sensible.

I did just ask him what flavour of crisps I would be. His answer? Lamb and Mint, don't see many of them about, has good taste and not too sweet Hmm

iminshock · 18/06/2016 10:48

My DP recently said to me
" you are beautiful. .........ish"
I'm still laughing at it.

Lighten up!

KissMyArse · 18/06/2016 10:48

I have to agree with your husband Enix. I only stuck it out because I was expecting something interesting to happen and didn't want to miss it.

Sallystyle · 18/06/2016 10:49

To be fair to the OP, I think she is being quite lighthearted about it.

Original poster
Enix · 18/06/2016 10:50

U2, just did the same. I'm paprika, he's ready salted (both agreed on this!)

OP posts:
PelvicFloorClenchReminder · 18/06/2016 10:52

Your grip is 98% empty and needs to be refilled as soon as possible.

Trills · 18/06/2016 10:53

you are trying to turn a qualitative experience (feelings) into quantitative data.

I agree with DeathStare.

Trills · 18/06/2016 10:53

Oh, and "He's a mathematician" in no way explains the decimal places.

OutwiththeOutCrowd · 18/06/2016 11:28

With a 9.9, it sounds like you are hubby's No.1 QTPi and you have no need to worry ... unless he encounters Bo Derek. Wink

TheNaze73 · 18/06/2016 12:38

I'm at a loss at how he scored Life Of Pi, so highly.

GoudyStout · 18/06/2016 14:30

"What flavour of crisps would you be?" is a whole new thread.

Who's going to volunteer to be Marmite flavoured?

PumpkinPies38 · 18/06/2016 14:34

Your OP makes my brain hurt.

How strange that you ask him to quantify his feelings for you and some other random girl he happened to like once upon a time. No advice on this board can help you I'm afraid, you're too far gone.

ReginaBlitz · 18/06/2016 15:49

You have issues.

ReginaBlitz · 18/06/2016 15:51

And plus I'd be pissed off with 9.9 that's a piss take surely he should say 10 even if He thinks you are a 5. You are a 10 for weirdness though so happy days!.

pollyblack · 18/06/2016 15:58

Ha I love this thread... are you genuinely upset about the rating.

I would like my DH to rate everyone he ever loves a high mark, whether before or after me, I don't want to have been his only good partner ever. If I am a 10 (obviously Wink) it still ok for his first girlfriend to be a 10 too, or if I die/LTB his next partner.

Sallystyle · 18/06/2016 18:23

Dh can rate someone else an 8, that's fine. A 9 would be pushing it. A 10? Well that's fighting talk! I have to be his only 10, it's the rules.

Actually, if he rates me he better tell me that 10 is just not high enough, there is not a number high enough in this world that can rate just how wonderful I am.

BumWad · 18/06/2016 18:27

Yes.

WEIRD AS FUCK.

(You btw)

WizardOfToss · 18/06/2016 19:17

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giantpurplepeopleeater · 18/06/2016 19:40

MrsTerryPratchet has given the best response to this.

Probably the best post I have ever seen!!

Gabilan · 18/06/2016 20:01

Get him to watch This is Spinal Tap. If he doesn't take the hint and rate you 11, LTB.