AIBU to wonder what the purpose of mumsnet really is?

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All I read are vile comments from folk. Commenting on BMI of someone who gyms 3x a week. Hinting they are bordering on overweight. Or lying about what size they are.
Asking how much you have in savings?!?! Then reading BS answers such as 20k! Who gives a shite? Is it a keep up with the Jones' network?
And what car you drive?!? Honestly. The answers were amazing and though insiteful to such ignorance, just titilatting! And bloody useless.
The good threads are usually political these days.
The only threads that people take any notice of are those that cause aggro. I've asked for help with a sleep issue for my child, and with all you mums out there I got hardly any replies. Yet put something up about an awkward wedding invite and 15 boring pages appear. Just saying what happened to them once. YAWN.
Guess it's time I left mumsnet. Or does anyone agree with me? Evil place really?

Oh TheJolly How I cringed at all that bloody bull after your post but could see you'd gone but they went on and on didn't they? Aren't posters self-indulgent at times!
Old people can be rude sometimes. Political correctness wasn't Caroline in their youth! We have to forgive them ! X

I don't understand the £20k savings comment. It isn't an unlikely sum to have saved at all, many will be saving for a reason like a house deposit or extension. Or an inheritance- that can easily be six figures these days.

I can't offer anything but sympathy for sleep issues - six years on and we are still woken several times a night.

I do think people can read things wrong or massively project from their own experience, making presumptions which are completely off the mark and they say it with such conviction. I tend to have an open mind and can be easily swayed and empathise with opposing view points, the very strong opinions are surprising, especially on fairly unimportant issues.

Caroline?!?! Around once.😂

Bloody auto correct. Around just bloody around not Caroline or once!
The actual question about savings made me cringe to be true. Not the answers. I was ranting when posting op!

I didn't see the savings one, I've spent the weekend having palpitations that I've caused 300 mnetters to develop eating disorders I do agree though, I've asked for serious advice before but it's boring so no one replies, try being more controversial, maybe add that you were parked in a disabled bay, despite not being disabled while your child wouldn't sleep? I haven't read your thread - could you maybe get something like that in?

ego it is good to express opinions on those threads though, I often don't as I feel I have little to add but it's interesting reading others opinions, often it's useful to read posts from posters who are looking at life from a different perspective or getting their information from a different source, don't stop posting, there will be many, like myself, who find it interesting but don't join in. Perhaps I shall start

• often I feel I have little to add. Not don't.

Oh I thought it was going to be a cunning conspiracy theory about HQ using us all as a cover for their criminal dastardliness. Disappointed now

Oh I thought it was going to be a cunning conspiracy theory about HQ using us all as a cover for their criminal dastardliness. Disappointed now

I'm influenced by mumsnet, and I may unwittingly influence other people in a 'butterfly's wings/six degrees of separation' kind of way.

Some posts are quite memorable so the posters name sticks in the brain and probably biases you a bit for the future, though I think if you can extrapolate a character from choice of username and a few random posts there's a place for you with 'time team', or MI5.

Did you put it in the Sleep topic OP? Because I don't go in there, that place is a fucking bearpit!

I posted there once and never again. I got my arse handed to me for suggesting alcohol! Oh they're all sweetness and Cath Kidson on the outside. But suggest giving booze t'baby and viper in them comes out. Some of the things they said were completely unwarranted. Bunch of fuckers. I swear it's faddy, modern PC parenting gone fucking ma. So I have the topic hidden.

And I didn't see your post OP. Or I would have answered it. What age is the child? Have you tried giving it booze?

"you can't give baby booze" !

Yeah, they get more pissy when you point out you can perk babies right up again by putting espresso in their bottles. So rude.

Traditionally I believe it's a tot of whisky, but I find Bailey mixes much better with their milk

Or a bitter orange liquor for a summery twist...

If you're going to do it, you might as well do it properly OP

HTH :)

Ooh, is that like a white Russian?
In the olden days allegedly (ie according to my mum) the midwives encouraged - encouraged! -you to have a pint of Guinness for your iron and
milk supply. Not sure a post partum Black Velvet would count.

Olden days?

My midwife put me on the Guinness and Ds is 13!!

Three kids honey three kids!!! I want your fecking Guinness!

I had some malt beer for dc3 but that was self-prescribed

Drunk babies..... :o

On a serious note, a friends DP who is a secondary teacher was teaching a class of 12 year olds and he had a probationer teacher in the class, while friends DP was writing on white board, one of the 12 year olds clearly forgot that probationer was facing front to the class, took a quarter bottle of vodka out his pocket, topped up his water bottle and sat and sipped at it until probationer was able to speak to friends DP about it!

Anyway OP, this place can be a delight or a horror, it's unpredictable. If you don't get help the first time, change with board you post in, change the time of day, change your wording. Sometimes it's just the luck of the draw as to whether it catches someone's eye in Active posts.

I thought its purpose was for people to validate their own lunacy.

I thought it's purpose was to fuck around on forums all day about things irrelevant to your own life, to stop yourself from having to be a grown up. Never considered there might be, you know, actual reasons for its existence.

I've had great support over sleep issues, discussions on flan bases and musings on string theory, the black hole information paradox and brexit this week. I'm not sure where else on the web I could get that.
I think if you stay off the cattier bits, mn is a fantastic resource. It's genuinely pulled me through a few really horrendous, sleep deprived times. It's generally populated by decent folks - there's a few bad eggs, idiots and hairy handed truckers but this is the the Internet... I've no doubt it makes HQ a fair pile of dosh and I don't have any objection to that.
I've also made two actual real life friends through it. Which is nice,

They did indeed prescribe milk stout - my mum was given a bottle of Mackeson's a day!

A word of warning: If you are mixing martinis for the baby/child, remove the olive before serving. Olives can be a choking hazard for the very young.

Its not the olive thats the problem its the stick.

If it wasnt for MN then the Daily Fail would have literally no news to print. I reckon some of the stuff is by trolls, some by journo's, some by psychology students and some by people who got drunk and wanted a laugh. It makes much more sense.