AIBU to wonder what the purpose of mumsnet really is?

[dogsdieinhotcars]

All I read are vile comments from folk. Commenting on BMI of someone who gyms 3x a week. Hinting they are bordering on overweight. Or lying about what size they are.
Asking how much you have in savings?!?! Then reading BS answers such as 20k! Who gives a shite? Is it a keep up with the Jones' network?
And what car you drive?!? Honestly. The answers were amazing and though insiteful to such ignorance, just titilatting! And bloody useless.
The good threads are usually political these days.
The only threads that people take any notice of are those that cause aggro. I've asked for help with a sleep issue for my child, and with all you mums out there I got hardly any replies. Yet put something up about an awkward wedding invite and 15 boring pages appear. Just saying what happened to them once. YAWN.
Guess it's time I left mumsnet. Or does anyone agree with me? Evil place really?

Really though, why do you care? It's just a website. Either use it or don't! I'm sure there are many other places and people who can answer your sleep questions

Surely mumsnet is for all sort of topics and I do think mumsnet can be helpful to first time mum like me with parenting stuff.
If you only like the political threads then only look at those don't open ones that are called what car do you have or wedding invite question.

Yes you do get some nasty posters on threads but it's like anywhere in life, some people are just nasty for no reason. A lot of posters do offer nice advice in my experience on here

Aye we're the product, a bit like barn reared hens.

No need to flounce though OP, you have to be persistent,

Nah some advice is good. You do get the occasional nasty idiot who is just looking for attention but just ignore them

Yabu. You should have posted in Flouncer's Corner Have a for the journey

MN has been a really positive experience for me. I have been given great advice and comfort on the elderly parents thread. It has opened my eyes to how to behave as a MiL. Especially how things meant kindly can be misinterpreted.

I have been thanked for advice I have given on the gardening threads and dementia threads.

It is made me laughed and made me cry. I have found that the majority of people here reflect real live. Mostly good, kind and helpful. I lead a fairly isolated life and enjoy glimpses into the lives of others. It does make me realise how much I have to thankful for.

Yabu. I think the exact opposite of you. I can't believe how many people so frequently are kind enough to spend their time giving advice to absolute strangers. What's worse, you often get a poster who greedily is constantly asking for advice, yet never thanks or helps others on other threads.

I have left all the sleeping baby stuff behind, I have no desire to offer advice on it because I wouldn't even open that thread.

I have had some great support here. When my teen had a bad experience so many MNers went above and beyond to support us. They were amazing.

I have also had some shit comments, I have posted shitty comments.

Some people are arseholes for the sake of being arseholes.

Some people spend a lot of time supporting others.

All in all I love it. I spend a lot of time here so I get something out of it. I think the main pull for me is that while it's a parenting website it isn't all talk about children and babies and we have discussions about all sorts of things.

I've been here for quite some time, long enough for a few name-changes! I do think at times people on here can be vile
to other people and I don't like the way men are viewed in general however I have had some amazing advice on here too and I've seen threads that have literally turned posters lives around for the better! You have to take the rough with the smooth. I am interested though at your problem with people saying they have 20k in savings. Is because you think talking about money is crass or because you don't believe them? I completely believe that some people
have that, and more!

Had a quick peep, and i see you made the mistake of posting your sleep thread in the correct topic OP

Post it again here, or in Chat and i bet you'll get plenty of responses

Ha ha to flouncers corner! I might persevere as some of you have left some pretty decent answers to my question-what is the purpose?
...flouncing off (school run)!

I've asked for help with a sleep issue for my child, and with all you mums out there I got hardly any replies. "you mums"

I spent about a year on a bad sleep/early riser thread. Not sure I would have go through it without MN. I was broken. We were all in the same boat and supported each other.

I don't wish to relive that time. I also don't want to give patronising and ill-remembered tips. You just have to be a little patient and wait for people to comment on your thread.

Stick with it, like everything there is good and bad. Just learn what annoys you and don't click on those threads. Also, as with everything, there are some people who are just nasty for the sake of it but the majority are lovely and very very helpful.

Don't be like that OP . Give us another go.

Off you piss, then.

All I read are vile comments from folk

We don't read those ones then!

Read the nice ones.

You having a bad time with no sleep, dogs ? ,I feel your paint, but the fact is, seeing as DD is 19 and has recently had a prescription for sleeping pills, it's still that bad... Any advice I could give is right up there with chocolate fireguards in terms of usefulness.

Besides, if the thread is not in active when I check MNI won't see it,bthe place is just too big to look eveverywhere.

I am loving the image of us all as barn hens though.

I have to agree though with the wedding threads they are SO boring, I never understand why they get so many post.

and I dont have children so I never answer the kids ones unless they are teenage things which I sometimes do because I remember being a teen.

It does shock me sometimes how bloody nasty some folk can be but aside from reporting the real shitbags, nowt you can do!

Let it go over your head and hide the threads! Hiding threads is great, stops my active feed from getting clogged with shit I ain't interested in.
No pets so doghouse and litter tray get zapped immediately.
Anything about the referendum is too at the moment - far too many referendum threads so they get zapped without opening.
If I read the opening line of any thread and instantly think Twat!! ... Zapped.
Quite often zap really highly replied threads. I can't be arsed RTFT if there are already hundreds of replies at the first time of seeing it. Unless I've kept up from early on I don't bother.

I have kids but as previous posters have said. Sometimes you just can't offer advice as its either too identifying or long winded and I just don't have time. I do try though, if I can.
I've been flamed for offering alternative points of view though so if I can see there's a poster in there that's dicking about and being argumentative with everything people say unless I'm also in an argumentative mood I'll stay away!

I have a theory about children and sleep threads. The people most ardently pushing their methods are probably eith undergoing sleep training or have not long finished .... so are posting without proper brain functionality.

Post it in chat, you'll get a lot more hindsight and sympathy.

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