and why would anyone vote to damage their grandchildren...
You should meet my grandmother. There are topics we don't discuss. For a reason.
She has already told my Uncle and Mother not expect any inheritance as she's leaving it all to charity after my uncle made an innocent passing remark about liking some glassware of hers and she interpreted this as eyeing up her property for when she dies. To put this into context he's a Quaker, and only bought a tv for the first time in 30 years after retiring last year and has spent his life living frugally as a lifestyle choice. It says rather more about her than him.
She firmly has blinkers on to the world around her and can be very selfish in nature. I have more examples than I care to mention unfortunately.
This is a woman who has managed to get 'sacked' by her care company for her unreasonable demands and behaviour. Her complaints have ranged from the sublime to the ridiculous. My mum who has spent years, driving the length of the country to sort out her mess and has fought her case in hospital when she has had some shocking care, thinks its more than fair under the circumstances and based on the nature of the complaints. (And she'll be the one paying for the more expensive care out of her own pension as a result). Her carers were fabulous often doing extra things for her off their own backs on their days off.
For this reason my parents and DH and I have talked at length about our connected futures, financial and otherwise, as we view them as linked not separate. If we are not set up, we might be less able to support their needs in time.
If my mum lives as love as her mother then, there is a realistic possibility we will be supporter her as pensioners ourselves. Potentially with little or no pension ourselves.
I really don't believe that all people have the best interests of their family members at heart. It works in reverse too. (Why would you clear out your own mother's bank account for example - but it happens).
If you've never come across someone who has no problem in stiffing their own family, then you have lived a long and charmed life.