to ask how you prevent outing yourself?

[NarkyKnockers]

I've posted on here for quite a few years now but namechange regularly just because I sometimes post personal stuff and I don't necessarily want ppl in rl to know all my business if they recognise me. I've noticed some people on here for years though. Do you accept being recognised? Do you just make sure you only share stuff you're comfortable with people in rl knowing. I've thought about changing minor details about my personal situation but I doubt I'd be consistent and the troll hunters would have a field day with me I think. Plus I like thinking of new names. Means I am always a newbie tho...

I try to avoid posting on threads where it's necessary to provide a lot of personal background information. I tend to gravitate to threads where you're mostly sharing impersonal experiences or opinions.

I used to tweak details, but figured that if the details were of so little contextual consequence that they could be tweaked, there isn't that much point providing them at all.

I've probably still given out enough info to be identified though.

No wonder you were upset

I'm upset with me as well El Gitface name posting person.

Still kicking myself at how bloody easy I made it for them.

I really miss the camaraderie I used to have on here. But that's impossible to get back when you change your nickname more often than you wash your sofa covers.

iPost, was the person banned for revealing your name on here?

You would think that this was a prime example of not being in the spirit of the site.

I just can't think of who could do it. They'd have to be on here for a start

See, in RL, the only person I talk to about being on Mumsnet is DH. I don't talk about it to anyone else, so my friends and acquaintances could well be posting all sorts of stuff on here, blissfully unaware that I've so much as heard of Mumsnet.

I did see a thread I'd started pop up on the Mumsnet FB page a while back. Not really an exciting topic either.

I don;t really care if I get "outed", i talk a load of waffle on here. But for identifiable stuff I use another NN (I have lots and lots)

I don't have a FB account so don't access the mumsnet page where any chat might spill over into real life and real names.

I won't post anything personal, two nights ago [I was dog tired] I was on on the verge of starting a thread related to work but my gut instinct kicked in and I thought better of it.

I like frothy threads and don't worry too much about being outed, although I was quoted in the press and approached by the BBC over a funny Jeremy Corbyn thread , I declined the interview!

I NC once. I doubt I would be identified by anyone on rl.
What I never understand though, is why people start a thread saying 'i have NC for this'
Why do they bother announcing they have?

iPost, was the person banned for revealing your name on here?

Yes.

I'm sure that if anyone I know thought "I bet Susan is on Mumsnet, she's that sort of person, wonder if i can find her?" that they could track me down in half an hour. So this username doesn't post anything too controversial - I identified a friend a few years ago who certainly could find me in a few min from a certain thread. I have a couple other accounts as well as usernames which I sometimes use.

What I never understand though, is why people start a thread saying 'i have NC for this'
Why do they bother announcing they have?

Probably because of troll hunters who say things like "that's an interesting first post " if it's a subject that might be emotive or likely to stir up debate.

Preferable to say "I've NC!" than have a raft of people using advanced search and then suggesting that you're a troll who created an account 5 minutes ago. (Although of course there's nothing to stop a troll claiming to be a long established poster who's name changed)

I say I've NC at the beginning of a thread so I don't get troll hunted.

I'm sorry that happened to you, iPost.

Some people, eh?

Some people, eh?

Yeah.

On the bright side, I don't think they are that common.

Probably most people would at worst chunter a bit at the screen if they recognised somebody, or were pissed off at another poster who had left a tempting breadcrumb trail of information.

You just get the odd one who takes things to a whole 'nother level.

Zombie posts openly on MN. She also posts openly on FB. Hell she even runs an occasional ZombieFM music fest on FB. There's really nothing left for anyone else to 'out'.

Name change every couple of months. I would never post my profession or DC's names or home town. I sometimes fudge DC's sex and ages. Use a one-off name change for potentially identifiable posts but basically follow my usual rule on social media - how would I feel if my mum/boss/person I'm referring to my post saw it?

MrsJoeyMaynard

Thanks,...I didn't know that.

EverySongbirdSays is my original name and when contributing in general, I post as this. But I have changed my name for specific things, merely because the accumulation of info would out me SO :

NCd about a row with a friend
NC over frustrations with family
NC on embarrassing topics/things I'm not proud of.

DB spotted me on this nc within a couple of days of starting using it so instead of using it as another throwaway, I've kept it as my WYSIWYG name. If I want to say anything I wouldn't say at the school gate / in a busy cafe / in front of my inlaws then I have a bank of ncs, eg a one and a one and so on.

But tbh I post maybe 90% in _Chat so an AS of my username wouldn't be at all representative of my posting in general.

IIRC DB busted me by reading something, thinking "that sounds like DSis" and having a quick AS - other posts also sounded like me and none didn't.

I think it's unlikely a stranger could read my posts and work out my real name (possible but not likely) but someone who knows me and knows I use MN would probably work out that MrsHathaway is me.

NC and DeReg frequently. Having been on the receiving end of some batshit stalking it's just not worth the trade off between building up connections on here v some twat deciding they are going to do a Nancy Drew because their lives lack a certain Something.

Anyone who has been outed, how did the outer let you know they knew it was you? I have recognised (I'm pretty sure) my friends sister, but I will never mention it.

I was going to say I've never been outed but I've just found out H knows my username so maybe it's time to change.

I got outed. A friend of a family member showed them, they then searched my user name and read all threads before I realised.
It was hideous. Felt like my diary had been read

DownUnder - DB texted me to say "are you MrsHathaway on MN?"