Who IBU in their definition of lying

[Rarararaa]

1. Omitting information isn't lying - so if asked 'what did you do today' and you answer 'went to work' but skipped the part where you went to a bar/robbed a bank/hired a hitman that wouldn't be a lie

1. Unless you're asked the exact right question it's not a lie to deny it. So if i ask you if you spent £250 in a bookies but you spent £250.50 then denying it isn't a lie.

1. Promising to do something you have no intention of doing 'for an easy life' isn't a lie.

For context, DH and I are separating (amicably - both too young, shouldn't have got married yada yada) and we both think the other will have a hard time finding someone who subscribes to the others definition of lying.

DH thinks the above are fine, I think they're lies. Who IBU?

Anything said with the intention to deceive is lying. If a person's answer is disingenuous, or obtuse and its twisting things round to make their actions better than they are, then that's an intentional thing and they are lying, or deceiving or stretching the truth.

Six of one, half a dozen of the other, it isn't being honest!

Agreeing to do something you have no intention of doing is also passive aggressive

They are very odd examples because most people don't converse that way. They'd ask what you did today or how much you spent, not give a specific statement for you to say yes or no too.

If someone said, how much did you spend in the bookies, and you said any other amount than what you actually spent, it'd be a lie. Or, "we seem to be £250 over our budget. Did you spend it gambling?" Then saying no would be a lie.

If you actually communicate in a statement followed by affirming or denying it, I think there's probably no love lost between you anyway. It's a very disengaged and cold way of talking!

You're right anchor, it's been so long that I've forgotten that it's a ridiculous way of speaking to your other half. I tried vague, I tried specific... now I'm trying divorce