To support DD 17 who wants a breast reduction?

[MumOfSadDD]

DD is 17, nearly 18. For years now she's been talking about wanting a breast reduction, I put this down to teen low self esteem, thinking she would get over it.

I don't see her naked very often because she feels so self conscious but we're on holiday now. Yesterday we were talking about it and she showed me what she was talking about.

We're due to go for a proper bra fitting when we get home, her last one 18 months ago measured her as a 36G and she's much bigger than that now.

Not only that, it's the shape of her breasts that's the problem, I don't want this thread to attract trolls and voyeurs so I will just say that they need uplifting.

My poor, poor girl. When I saw them I immediately understood.

Her BMI is 27, we have discussed ways to reduce this before she can have an op but she can't run or do any exercise that causes bounce, even with a good sports bra it's painful.

They are also causing back pain and bad posture.

Any advice/opinions/experiences would be appreciated.

As DD asked me to start this thread I have name changed so she can see your replies.

Defiitely support her and get a bra intervention! Though I have no experience so can't really comment on the op itself!

However, RE swimming, would she consider wearing a rash vest? A lot of pools don't mind people wearing them it's just that people don't often wear them. And early morning swimming would be a good solution as others have said!

I'm grossly overweight and am a 38JJ. (Bravissimo and R&P fan)

She is not a 36 anything

The problem with trying to lose weight is that if you store fat in your breasts genetically, it's the last place to 'let go' of the fat. I lost 2 stone some years ago and it wasn't until I was well under 8.5 stone before my cup size shifted by just one size. I've recently been peri menopausal and gained a bit and yes, my bloody bra size has gone up again. It's so uncomfortable, matronly looking and restrictive in what you can wear.

I'd support the surgery totally and in view of the fact that breasts do seem to regrow to some extent, I'd be asking for a generous reduction.

Best wishes to your DD, I'm glad she has confided in you and you seem really sensitive and sensible. Thank god we live in a world where we don't actually have to suffer a lifetime of misery from health problems like this.

You're totally reasonable.

As someone with rather small breasts (I don't need a bra at all) I could never understand why someone would want to have larger breasts. It is possible to live a happy life with barely there breasts.

But large breasts do cause a number of issues in the real, physical world. It's not just self-esteem.

Obviously you need to make sure she's safe, as surgery is surgery and always somewhat dangerous. Look for a good clinic, etc. (I wouldn't trust someone who does cosmetic surgery for a living, to be honest, I'd try to find somewhere that specialises on medically necessary surgery.)

DD had reduction 1 year ago at 19. I had breast reduction in March. Best thing we have ever done.
I would support your daughter as this will be life changing for her,
Happy to answer any question if you want to PM me.

You should absolutely support her, but she will probably have to wait until she has really finished growing for best results. Once she's there, just go for it.

If you can afford to get a couple of bras made for her while she waits it might make all the difference to her back.

Best of luck to her.

I'd be concerned about them growing back if she has it done too soon. Definitely worth considering as a medium term goal though.

I went up a cup size every 6 months until I was about 20 ending at a GG. Became a H when pregnant and have ended up at j/jj post baby.

There is a young american actress Ariel Winter who had it done she was on something talking about it I thought good for her showing young women they dont need to suffer Support your dd she is almost an adult and is in discomfort

My friend got a reduction on the NHS speak to your gp about it

DD and I wanted to say thank you to everyone for their responses, we've read them and spoken about them all.

As I said in a previous post we will go to our GP when we get home, we'd like some professional guidance, our GP is understanding and pragmatic and GPs often have knowledge about surgeons too. So that's a good place to start.

Thank you for the tip about swimwear, we will definitely look at that as DD had formed her own burkini to sunbathe in as she is so self-conscious.

I can't pm as I'm on my phone but I would appreciate that when we get home next week.

Again, thank you everyone

Brastop are having a swimwear sale on just now - they are great (and reasonably priced) for larger sized lingerie and swimming stuff.

Good luck. Your DD is lucky to have you by her side

Yanbu.
I have always regretted not having one. G cup melons on a size 8 body is hell.
My dsis had one and she was a size 8 with j cups.
It's changed her life 100% for the better

Id like one so yadnbu.
I wanted one at 22 post pregnancy but was scared, i should have done it. Mine are not really affected by weight gain or loss 4 stone difference means a 34 or 36j instead of the current 38jj/k that i am.

One reason not to tackle my weight is big breasts get evened out with big stomach whilst weightloss shows how truly huge they are.

I wish they went down when i am slimmer but they dont. Ive said ill do it at 45 now, i went to the consultation and doctor said it was technically a breast amputation so that and losing weight put me right off.

Shes young so wait till there size is settled but definitely do it and support her.

OP I get the not going into detail but if they are tubular it's actually a condition and would likely be funded on NHS

You are not being unreasonable.

I'm 24 and a 32M my bra size isn't sold in the U.K.and I am going to ask my gp as it is really something that makes me feel horrible and I can't exercise.

There is a Facebook group called boob and bust bra measuring page they are excellent at helping you find your size and where to get the best possible bra for you.
I recommend asking them for help for a comfortable bra in the mean time.

Please do I wish I had mines done when I was young. Very much on the cards now I've had my family. I'm a 38/36 g-h depending on the bra and find shock absorber level 4 a great sports bra. I've doubled up with 2 in the past!

I think you're doing absolutely the right thing. Good bra fitting now, talk to GP, and start to plan. I suspect they could make her wait until she's a little older, but at least a plan will give her something to plan towards (losing weight, having an end date).