My partner left when my DD was 10 months old. Since then he has seen her once or twice a week for a couple of hours. But he is also away a lot so some weeks he doesn't see her at all, and he is often away up to a month at a time.
She is 13 months old now and he wants to have her overnight twice a week. He's hired a really pushy lawyer to send me quite aggressive letters too.
I want him to come round and see her as much as he can so they form a proper attachment but I think with his absences and her age, it will be too inconsistent and bewildering for her to stay overnight.
She's also going through a clingy phase. I'm awake right now because she woke up and then every time I settled her and tried to leave the room she went hysterical. She's asleep now but don't know how she would cope at his.
AIBU?