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AIBU re: sandwiches

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ItsBritneyBitchhh · 27/05/2016 22:18

My friend is turning 30 soon and one of her work colleagues, let's call her Lucy, but I don't really know her, has organised an afternoon tea for a group of us to celebrate.

For a bit of background, Lucy took our money for the Afternoon Tea upfront (fine by me) and booked an offer using some kind of voucher for a fancy place. It does state clearly on the voucher that it is a 'set' afternoon tea and dietary requirements or requests cannot be catered for.

However, Lucy will only eat plain cheese sandwiches. Cheddar sandwiches. Not cream cheese, or Feta which are both on the menu, just cheddar. Cheddar is mentioned nowhere on the menu. The venue has said it is set menu and alterations cannot be made under any circumstances as its terms and conditions and advised at time of booking. I think maybe they are being awkward. Lucy is very cross about this and the way she feels she has been treated over the cheese sandwiches so now wants to cancel the whole event, which is not her celebration anyway.

AIBU to think that as a grown woman you should just eat the bits you like fill up on scones and champagne and get over yourself?!

Sorry for the rant, I can't deal with the melodramatics over cheesesandwichgate as it is now know.

OP posts:
AuntDotsie · 27/05/2016 22:20

She should be grateful - fewer carbs, more booze, get sloshed quicker.

NeedACleverNN · 27/05/2016 22:21

She doesn't have to go?

I can't eat soft food so feta cheese and cheese spread is a big no.

I don't like scones or champagne so would gracefully bow out

OTheHugeManatee · 27/05/2016 22:22

She should suck it and extra prosecco up.

NapQueen · 27/05/2016 22:22

Anywhere that does not offer any amendments or changes in the offerings for dietary or allergen or just plain taste wouldn't be getting my business anyways and if lucy was organising it and she is the fussy one then more fool her for picking somewhere that can't offer what she wants.

She can go without the sandwiches or sneak in her own.

crazymammy · 27/05/2016 22:28

Tell her if she's that fussed then to either sneak in her own cheese sandwiches or stay home Halo what is the point in moaning over a sodding sandwich?

HunterHearstHelmsley · 27/05/2016 22:31

Would they make cheddar sandwiches if she supplied the cheese?

Is it two slices or four? 😂

Teresalosingtheirleaves · 27/05/2016 22:33

Lucy should make her own boring plain cheese sandwich and eat that. She booked it, daft sausage for not checking !

OwlinaTree · 27/05/2016 22:34

Seriously?! You don't go to someone's event based on whether or not you like the food, you go because of the person the event is for. If you know you don't like the food you eat before you go.

I don't like scones or cream but have attended many afternoon teas!

lalalalyra · 27/05/2016 22:35

Surely Lucy needs to suck it up since she's the one that booked it? Surely if they won't do any alterations and she used a voucher they won't be offering a refund? So does she actually expect all of you to be out of pocket because she's incapable of choosing a place that suits her own dietary requirements?

YNBU at all.

MintyChops · 27/05/2016 22:36

Lucy is a fool for booking this.

myownprivateidaho · 27/05/2016 22:37

I bet there's been a falling out at work or something.

Gileswithachainsaw · 27/05/2016 22:45

Yanbu

but then to ne fair she's not asking fir truffle oil or smoked salmon.

it's fucking cheese.what cafe doesn't have cheese. how far in advance are these sandwiches made that doing one cheese sandwich is so impossible.

Gileswithachainsaw · 27/05/2016 22:47

I'd be tempted to cancel. not to be awkward but with such an easy swap I'd have serious concerns about freshness of the food or where the food provided is coming or the competence of the staff when something my 5 yr old could do is not an option...

Elledouble · 27/05/2016 22:48

It's a bit silly that they can't make her a plain cheesewidge. But in her shoes I'd probably suck it up and fill up on cake.

pictish · 27/05/2016 22:49

The place are being pricks - they should be happy to accommodate her and her simple cheese sandwiches.
She is bu in wanting to cancel. Knobs though they are, it's arranged so she'll have to make do.

serin · 27/05/2016 22:55

Lucy is looking a right pudding in front of her work colleagues. She needs to work on her organisational skills as this ranks along the lines of 'couldn't organise a piss up in a brewery'.

ExitPursuedByADonkey · 27/05/2016 22:58

She booked it. She needs to suck it up and get over it.

IHaveBrilloHair · 27/05/2016 23:01

I'd smack her in the face with a giant block of cheddar.

DailyFaily · 27/05/2016 23:14

Lucy is being ridiculous, I'm sure she could have an extra scone/cake and give someone else her sandwiches - failing that she could have a cheese bap beforehand. I'm a reasonably fussy eater but I don't bother other people about that; it's my issue to manage not theirs (though, if I was planning the lunch, I would have definitely have checked the venue catered for my needs before I booked). You're possibly not going to get your money back anyway if you cancel so it's a non issue.

I think it is a bit stingy of the venue however if they catered for her then, presumably, they lay themselves open to a load of other people in the party chipping in and asking for changes.

foursillybeans · 27/05/2016 23:18

She can just eat the other stuff and suck it up really. The place is going difficult but no alterations is pretty standard with offers. They are usually strict about it too. I understand she can't alter it but can she not just buy a cheese sandwich separately?

StrictlyMumDancing · 27/05/2016 23:26

I was a fussy eater, still am to some extent, and I would always suck these things up. Though had I been Lucy I would not have booked somewhere that wouldn't cater for changes like that, not for fussiness but more because there's always someone who needs some specialist catering somehow.

Iknownuffink · 27/05/2016 23:27

Lucy needs to put her big girl pants on and suck it up..

She is the organiser after all.

blowmybarnacles · 27/05/2016 23:31

Being cheap has hit her in the chops.

Gazelda · 27/05/2016 23:31

Oh come on guys! I came on here expecting to see an abundance of cheese-puns.

A Laughing Cow reference at the very least.

Queenbean · 27/05/2016 23:33

I can't eat soft food

Isn't all food soft once you've chewed it...?

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