To change my son's name (kind of) at 2 years of age.

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DS is 2yrs and his name isn't particularly uncommon but nor is it an overly used one either. Prior to having DS my DH was really keen on this name, me not so much but I did agree to it on the premise that we wouldn't spell it in the typical way because that way can lead to a pronunciation of the name which I really don't like.

But anyway, two years down the line and people are still using the typical spelling and it's driving me mad. Anytime he comes home with something from nursery they've labelled it with the typical spelling, they use the typical spelling when writing in his daily journal, when people text me regarding him they spell his name the typical way and I still get birthday and Christmas cards and they have his name spelt the typical way. He received a certificate yesterday after some activity he'd done at a toddler group and as soon as they heard what his name was they automatically wrote it on his certificate but in its default form so now I feel bummed about that because it my eyes it's not my DS's name.

I have told people soooo many times how we spell his name but it's still constantly spelt in its most common form.

It's really starting to grate on me now.

BTW - the spelling of his name is perfectly legitimate but it's just not the spelling that people associate with the name.

I don't particularly blame people because they just spell it as they assume it's spelt but it's starting to get me down now.

As an example of what I'm trying to say, imagine there's a boy called Luke, but instead of his parents wanting to spell it that way they want to spell it Luc but everyone still writes his name down as Luke because that's the typical spelling. That's probably a rubbish example but I just wanted to try and demonstrate it a little

Anyway, despite me really not liking the common way of spelling his name I'm seriously considering changing his name to it because this misspelling of it is driving me mad and I have a feeling DS will be dealing with this all his life and it will no doubt piss him off in the same way it's pissing me off.

I'm going to see if I can get a replacement certificate

Pottymouthed my aunts still write my name wrong and I'm nearly 40, I've stopped reminding them about the spelling years ago lol

Both my girls have foreign spellings of names that are known, but unusual here. DD1 has only one L in hers not 2, and DD2 has no O in hers. We just acknowledge that theirs is spelt differently.

I would however be on top if the nursery spelling it wrong and would pull them up on every single occasion.

When DD1 started school I had to remind them about the spelling, the other classes reception teacher was very apologetic, saying she should have known, as her husband is also Spanish.

People spelling names wrong drives me insane. I have quite a common, normal name that has a couple of different spellings. People always get it wrong even when I've written it down for them or they're replying to an email that shows my name. Someone that works a EE had an argument with me on the phone once when I was spelling my email address out to him, he said I must be spelling it wrong as they had spelling as something else, I asked him who he thought knew the spelling of my name better him or me?? It's so ignorant, I always check the spelling of someone's name and make sure I get it right. Its similar to people shortening someone's name without the person ever having used the shortened version in their life.
Don't really have anything useful to add just wanted to say I feel your pain.

You have to jump in there with the spelling. Always.

My name is Katie that's K A T I E

Haha 2nds is that what we've got to look forward to?

Is he called Rafe?

It is annoying when people reply "hi Katy" it's in the fucking email address!

Name not actually Katie.

When it's spelt typically, it's pronounced differently?? Is it like Bucket pronounced Bouquet?

Pottymouthed yes, but by this point you are that used to it you just don't give a xxxx and if there's a tenner in there all is forgiven lol

Flogging, in the instance of my DS name - the incorrect spelling people use is actually a completely different name.
Think of an Actor who's surname is Baldwin and a King who was termed as "...... The Great"

what is the name?

floggingmolly - I suppose that it a similar thing. When DS's name is spelt typically there are two ways that it can be pronounced, one is the way I pronounce it and the other is the way I don't like.

I really wish I could tell you DS's name so people would understand my dilemma 😄

You need to pull the nursery up. They shouldn't be spelling his name wrong. He needs to be learning to recognise his name when it is written down. How is he supposed to do that if they write it wrong all the time.

I think you should be correcting it every time they get it wrong.

For everyone else you just live with it. I have a traditional but uncommon name and when I was at school the family used to play a game where we'd bet on how many different spellings I'd get on my birthday/christmas cards...

Whois I have a feeling your name is Katie and this makes you slightly twitchy

Lol 2nds! That is absolutely the case. Cue my son "aw my names not ... Oooh look, twenty quid "

Im assuming the little boy is called something like Louie.

OP writes it that when instead of Louis which some people would pronounce that the same as Lewis.

I'm Hannah with a fucking h. I can't tell you how many times people reply to emails calling me Hanna. I don't even bother to correct them. I wouldn't take it personally - it's just laziness/disinterest on their part, and probably won't change. So have it however you want it, and accept that you (and he) will continue to be irritated by it, but on the scale of things it's not that bad.

Can I just say I xxxxing cringe every time I hear Americans say my name in TV shows/ movies etc. They pronounce it so differently to the way it's said here in the UK and I shout at the TV every time I hear them say it.

Just tell us you can name change and we wont remember anyway

So in the interest of 'being different' you chose a silly spelling that no-one can be expected to know - and are now complaining that no-one knows the silly spelling you chose.

Well at least you didn't make up a stupid name.....

I have a Hannah the dropping of the h annoyed me but only happened a few times

My proper name is Antonia everyone calls me Toni I hate my name as doctors dentists etc shout 'Antonio' that's a boys name do i look like a boy really gets on my nerves

T4gnut - I didn't do it to be "different" - I did it to avoid it being pronounced in a way that I do not like. And nor is his spelling of the name "silly", it is a recognised way of spelling it.