And how successful is he likely to be?
My partner and his ex share a 5-year-old child. They split when he was about 2, for detail I will add that she left him for another man. She currently lives with her mother, 2 sisters and her brother-in-law and every so often seems to move between there and her elderly father's home.
They shared 50/50 custody until recently, but now my partner only sees his son during the weekends and during holidays as he is in school full time. The issue has been up to now that the ex never seems to be around, for pick ups or drop offs, that she does not reply to texts, and nor do her extended family, even when they are acting in her place looking after him. She requests that my partner takes him pretty much every chance she can get, and has even asked that he take him during the week when he is supposed to be attending school, and my partner has to be at work!
Last weekend when my partner dropped his son off, he waited for an hour outside of the home, even though he arrived at the agreed time. Nobody answered the door, and when they did it was the brother in law. He claimed to have been sleeping. This is a typical occurrence.
Today there was an issue with his son being ill at school and my partner was contacted, as the school were unable to get a hold of his mother, her sisters, or his grandparents. My partner had to leave work early to go and get him, even though he is not due to pick him up until Friday. When he eventually got hold of someone (the aunt), she claimed to be sleeping. The ex is on holiday and won't be back until June. Although he has contacted her to say their son was sick and he currently has him, the ex has still not responded!
My partner's son has been displaying lots of emotional difficulties, and this has been picked up on by the school. He cries often, and isn't able to express himself well. My partner is pretty worried about him, but is frightened of rocking the boat I guess. This evening we have had a long in depth conversation about things and I have suggested to him that perhaps he ought to push for what he wants and that is full custody, but I'm afraid that his case will not only be long and drawn out, but also be rejected, as seems to be the case for so many fathers.
If anyone has any words of wisdom I would appreciate it.
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DontPanicSir · 25/05/2016 23:06
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