facebook "wisdom" that makes my teeth itch

[bigmouthstrikesagain]

This was 'liked' by a FB friend and I had to share on here as it had thousands of likes and far too many comments in agreement. I would hope there are people that find this as meaningless and pointlessly aggressive as I do?!?

I 'love my kids' as much as the next Peter Andre, but that doesn't mean they always 'come first' they are my priority but 'too each according to need and from each according to ability' is the creed I am trying to teach them. I love them but I don't live to serve them and neither does the rest of humanity. Maybe I am overthinking it...

Other examples of FB bollocks are welcome

[IrishSea456]

Even worse than the happy bday ones were the "how about we view this house (with link to house)" posts an ex (!) friend of mine would post to her DH's wall. Because obviously that's the only way she could communicate with him about houses she'd seen, and not a really obnoxious way to show off what their budget was...

[Catmuffin]

An unpleasant one that I saw on a fb written by a very unpleasant mother at my children's school was
"Here's the thing. I'm a nice person, so if I'm a bitch to you need to ask yourself why."

As it happened she was a bit of a bitch to me, but she definitely wasn't a nice person. Thankfully I'm no longer on fb so don't have to read her stupid comments!

[DoinItFine]

Here's the thing. I'm a nice person, so if I'm a bitch to you need to ask yourself why.

😂😂😂😂

[IWILLgiveupsugar]

I am a bitch. I would have corrected that sentence.

[NannawifeofBaldr]

Cat I would have been sooo tempted to reply "what a clever post, it completely works the other way round too!"

[Whatwhatinthewhatnow]

Some are controversial but can we add to the list;

• Chronic illness ones. ie I can't always respond to your texts/Will be late/Cancel plans without notice etc. Which translates to ; Please understand that I will do a lot of stuff that you wouldn't tolerate in any one else, and if anyone treated me like it, I'd dump them immediately but I'm ill so my needs trump yours.
  
• Stuff you only know if you XXX (insert elitist thing here)
  
• Retail is the worst job ever, OMG I hate working in retail, OMG, but I won't do anything to change my lot because I like moaning
  
• Real women do XXX or look like XXX
  
• Posts that start with Some people are so XXX..." followed by some crappy behaviour usually perpetrated by the very person posting about it!

[Catmuffin]

Nanna. I think that would have gone way over her head. She wasn't the brightest.

[katemiddletonsnudeheels]

I interpreted it as 'speaking' to a prospective new partner.

[spankhurst]

I am old and grumpy, but I don't get why anyone would feel the need to put such trite nonsense on their FB page. What does it actually say about them? They love their kids a lot? So do most people.

[StableButDeluded]

God, I detest Face Ache. And these pointless meme things are one of the myriad reasons why.

[ToucanPlayThatGame]

"I 'love my kids' as much as the next Peter Andre" is my quote of the year.

[HoggleHoggle]

I agree with OP completely. I love my dc wildly and think they're the the most wonderful, special, intelligent, brilliant people. But I don't think they're more important than anyone else.

[Toddzoid]

I found a meme a couple weeks back with a pic of Marilyn Monroe and the quote was "I never said that" made me laugh.

It's just corny nonsense like the tripe exMIL used to send to exH about him being her beautiful precious son and how nobody can mess with him cause they'll have to get through her first . Sending that to a grown man. Sad.


To me there are women in the world that don't have a life outside of their children. Everything surrounds their kids. The only thing they feel able to post about online or talk about in person is their 'beautiful amazing' children that they're so proud of and love so much. It's not harming anyone else so knock yourself out, not for me though... I like having my own identity, personality, beliefs, opinions and also a bit of time away from being 'mum'.

[MetalMidget]

Could be worse, it could have been overlaid on a picture of a Minion. Little yellow bastards.

[PirateFairy45]

I agree with it. My DD comes before anyone. X

[NannawifeofBaldr]

Cat yes but it would have been wonderfully passive agressive though and everyone else could have had a chuckle.

I wouldn't really do it but I'd want too

[youknowwhattodo]

The best shares on facebook are "share if you love your daughter" they make me cringe.

[NannawifeofBaldr]

Does she Pirate?

Does she come before the disabled/elderly/pregnant person who needs a seat on the bus?

Does her need to run around a restaurant come before the need of the wait staff to be safe?

Does her need for an expensive toy come before the families need to pay the gas bill?

Does her need not to be bored come before your need to visit an elderly relative in hospital?

Does her need to talk through the film come before everyone else's need to listen?

I suspect not, because I'm sure you're nice, but the above is what the meme implies.

[herecomethepotatoes]

NannawifeofBaldr

To the people who post those memes, in my experience, the answer seems to be an emphatic 'yes'.

[CaoNiMao]

Bravo, NannawifeofBaldr

[NannawifeofBaldr]

I worry that children brought up like that will find the adult world extremely difficult.

My children are my whole world but my job is to bring them up to be excellent, happy adults.

[LunaJuna]

What about this travesty:

It was posted by a woman!!!!

[steppemum]

well, at the risk of being flamed, no, my kids don't always come first.

eg, two summers ago, my mum was in hospital. My dad couldn't drive as he had just had an op. Visiting times were 3-4 or 6-7.
Great, school pick up or dinner time. Pick up dad and drive him to mum was 1 hour trip.

For 6 weeks my mum came first. of course my kids got lots of attention when i was home, and we did our best to make it work. Dh works form home, so that made it easier (although for him it meant loosing 3 hours work per day, which meant I arrived home, we ate and then he had to go back to work all evening, so I then had to do all kids and then we hardly saw each other)

Kids were young - 6, 9 and 11, but they were amazing. It was good for them to know in a crisis other people's needs come first.

Another example, at times I tutor form home, after school. My kids know that for that hour, they may not interrupt unless someone needs an ambulance. They get this, they understand that at that moment work comes first. Obviously if I did this all the time, they would suffer, but 1 hour 2x per week, is actually good for them to learn about priorities.

Actually, to me it means bringing my kids up to realise that they are not the centre of the universe, and that other people, at times, have needs.

[DoinItFine]

OMG vom!

That's how you can tell a good man, he's the one who treats his wife as a slave.

[steppemum]

love your list nana