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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

to be cross with 'dog people'

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kensausage13 · 20/05/2016 23:27

Ok so ill probably get burned for this but anyway...here goes...

Picnic with DP and DS at a local nature reserve, which is popular with families and dog walkers etc. Please note that there are signs everywhere saying that dogs should be on leads.

We're all enjoying our food on the grass in the sunshine and all of a sudden a massive, smelly, soaking wet dog lumbers over and proceeds to lick me and my DS and trample over the picnic. Said dog's owner scurries over, laughing and seeing that we had aghast looks on our faces said "oh dont worry...he's really friendly!" to which i replied "I couldn't care less if he was bloody lassie...get him on a lead!" Dog owner then throws me a filthy look, tuts, and leads soggy dog away saying "come on darling, clearly not everyone here likes dogs"

Now, im not anti-dog by any stretch, but AIBU to think that this is bang out of order and 'dog folk' should realise that not everyone loves their hairy beasts, especially when they are dripping pond water over their scotch eggs?!!

This isn't the first time i have experienced this type of arrogance either. Like people letting their dogs sniff about at my DS when he was tiny in his pram...or letting them jump up when going to their houses.

Opinions please? xxx

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WhisperingSeagrass · 21/05/2016 08:34

I think it depends where you live. When I lived in a big northern city the parks were over-run with off-lead dogs. I was scared to push pram around the park alone as I was bothered by bouncy dogs so often.

Now, in a small southern town, most people seem to keep dogs on leads in the parks and often muzzled too. There are fewer dogs in general in parks, maybe because there's an abundance of green open spaces to walk them in. And the dogs seem smaller friendlier types here, not intimidating Rottweilers and Staffies.

I'm anxious around dogs. I usually shout 'get away' if one starts jumping up then give the owner a piece of my mind.

If you want to let your dog off lead, do it on your own land or somewhere remote like moors/hills/forest where it won't frighten people trying to enjoy the park!

maybebabybee · 21/05/2016 08:34

Wow! Who'd have thought a new poster would jump straight in with this for a first post

maybebabybee · 21/05/2016 08:35

And the dogs seem smaller friendlier types here, not intimidating Rottweilers and Staffies

I point this out every time one of these threads comes up but the dog most likely to bite you is a wee little jack Russell.

WhisperingSeagrass · 21/05/2016 08:41

Yes but a Jack Russel is hardly intimidating is it? You could kick it away if it tried to bite, or grab it. Whereas a big dog could inflict serious damage.

Costacoffeeplease · 21/05/2016 08:43

Maybe I will Ryan thanks for the suggestion

BombadierFritz · 21/05/2016 08:47

It surely should only be a labrador all dripping wet from a dip in the lake that then shakes itself all over the pork pies before scoffing them all
A jack russell wouldnt be half as bothered by a picnic

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kensausage13 · 21/05/2016 08:48

Its not always about being scared of or intimidated by the animal...some people just don't like them and don't want them near them. Why is that wrong?

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Myinlawsdidthisthebastards · 21/05/2016 08:51

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

maybebabybee · 21/05/2016 08:55

I find jack Russells more intimidating than Staffies actually as I've grown up with Staffies.

It's a matter of what you're used to.

Not that it matters as these threads just repeat themselves.

flumpybear · 21/05/2016 09:04

She should have retrieved dog and apologised not told you about the dogs personality

Luckyfuckyducky · 21/05/2016 09:40

Mrsryangossling - I didn't say they would did I? Missed my point entirely.

Whyissheontheship · 21/05/2016 10:01

I'm a dog person and I don't want a hairy drooly dog jumping on me and my picnic!! Yanbu there!

Although I've lost count of the amount of times people let their children run up to my sleeping well behaved dog and try and stroke it startling him. Luckily my dog is pretty placid but I know a lot of dogs would hate that.

Everyone should respect everyone's space

EponasWildDaughter · 21/05/2016 10:17

It's not wrong to expect to not to have to interact with other peoples dogs OP. YANBU in that respect.

The thing is you have started a thread labeling ''dog people'' as idiots. Lots of people are ''dog people'', a few of them are undoubtedly idiots but the majority wont be. It's best not to chuck labels around on a public forum.

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kensausage13 · 21/05/2016 10:20

Fair point Eponas. Apologies to all for any offence caused.

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OhYouAhole · 21/05/2016 10:24

YANBU. I'd be naffed off.

Can't be doing with other people's pets especially when they let them out in an un secured garden and the little rat beast uses mine as its only bathroom then gets its little miniature rage on at my children. Or when they don't pick up after them and it's left all over the path! Sure there are responsible ones but the ones who don't follow the rules and expect you to treat the dogs the way they do suck.

And people who come to visit you. And bring their dogs. That pee all over you living room carpet

Not a pet person.

harryhausen · 21/05/2016 10:32

My dog did this once.

I was walking him in a well known local woodlands where dogs are allowed off lead to roam. It's very very popular with dog owners because it's very enclosed and well away from traffic, it's a vast area and dogs can roam free through rivers, woods and rocky terrain (reasonably under your control of course). One day we were crashing through the trees and we rounded a corner to find a mum and 3 young children having a picnic. It was barely a clearing with lots of undergrowth and mud (bit of a weird place to have a picnic). As we basically rounded a tree and into them my dog was virtually into their picnic. I called him, but he's already had s sniff.
There's picnic tables and many other areas to have picnics nearer the car park of this area. I think I couldn't have avoided crashing into them.

However, in an area where it clearly states to have dogs on leads then of course yanbu. I not sure anyone, including dog owners who would think you were.

LumelaMme · 21/05/2016 10:37

Or when they don't pick up after them and it's left all over the path!
Believe me, those people piss off sensible dog owners, possibly even more than they piss off anyone else. Because the ones who leave their dog's shit lying are the ones who cause the parish council to have yet another meeting considering banning dogs from the playing fields, which are the only public open space in bloody miles where you can actually train your dog.

And OP, YANBU for being pissed off at the picnic invasion, but (as many have said) YABU for lumping all dog owners together.

harryhausen · 21/05/2016 10:39

Also OP, when you say dog people, I'm thinking something like this.

WaitrosePigeon · 21/05/2016 10:41

Oh for gods sake.

MrsRyanGosling15 · 21/05/2016 14:29

Lucky I didn't miss the point. You said so what if he goes over to say hello. As if what's the big deal in that. I'm saying clearly there are plenty of people who wouldn't want you dog going over to say "hello" to them when they are having a picnic.

Luckyfuckyducky · 21/05/2016 15:01

Such is life Ryan.... I said she wasn't being unreasonable, but really is it a massive deal? I use the park every day. We all have to rub along together in life, people get so irate about the most minor of incidences. I tend to apologise first if my dog goes to say hello to someone, then call her back. If there's a sign for dogs on leads, I put her on. Mostly she's off so she can exercise. I pick up her poo. I'm not a crap dog owner, but just sometimes she might say hello to someone that doesn't want her in their space in a public area, and the tone that person uses to me, might well get an apology but a very shrift 'no need to be rude' too.

Capricorn76 · 21/05/2016 16:15

Yay another dog bashing thread! It's been about a week now. Listening to exaggerated tales of near rabid dogs and their simpering ineffectual owners never gets old.

jonsnowssocks · 21/05/2016 16:43

lockheart I live in France; I would invite you over to see the set-up for yourself (given that my thread yesterday is probably one of the apparently over-embellished ones that has bothered you so much ), but your posts are absolutely charmless so I'm not going to.

OP, YANBU. Unfortunately some dog owners think their precious beasts can do no wrong. I have a super-friendly Lab which I have to keep on a lead around picnickers etc as she'd be up in your face and scoffing your lunch in seconds, and I am well aware that not everyone is as enamoured with her as I am!

jonsnowssocks · 21/05/2016 16:55

Capricorn, another charmer I see.

I'm new as well and find all this bitchiness really unpleasant, and somewhat confusing. No one is forcing you to read certain threads, and I'm sure it wouldn't be too hard to skip past them if you weren't interested. It seems to me like certain posters are just looking for an excuse to take their bad mood out on others.

Lockheart · 21/05/2016 16:57

It's OK jonsnow, I have a passport and don't need an invite from you to visit France

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