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to be cross with 'dog people'

128 replies

kensausage13 · 20/05/2016 23:27

Ok so ill probably get burned for this but anyway...here goes...

Picnic with DP and DS at a local nature reserve, which is popular with families and dog walkers etc. Please note that there are signs everywhere saying that dogs should be on leads.

We're all enjoying our food on the grass in the sunshine and all of a sudden a massive, smelly, soaking wet dog lumbers over and proceeds to lick me and my DS and trample over the picnic. Said dog's owner scurries over, laughing and seeing that we had aghast looks on our faces said "oh dont worry...he's really friendly!" to which i replied "I couldn't care less if he was bloody lassie...get him on a lead!" Dog owner then throws me a filthy look, tuts, and leads soggy dog away saying "come on darling, clearly not everyone here likes dogs"

Now, im not anti-dog by any stretch, but AIBU to think that this is bang out of order and 'dog folk' should realise that not everyone loves their hairy beasts, especially when they are dripping pond water over their scotch eggs?!! Wink

This isn't the first time i have experienced this type of arrogance either. Like people letting their dogs sniff about at my DS when he was tiny in his pram...or letting them jump up when going to their houses.

Opinions please? Smile xxx

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kensausage13 · 21/05/2016 00:16

Lockheart there are no embellishments to my story im afraid. It is a very common occurance...but like i said earlier, perhaps ive been unlucky...or just live near a bunch of twats!

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LikeDylanInTheMovies · 21/05/2016 00:18

Some people are selfish twats, their twatishness will manifest itself differently in whatever situation they are in:

If they have kids they won't care how their child's behaviour impacts on others and let them run wild.

If they are out in a car, they will drive in an aggressive manner because they 'have somewhere they need to be'

If they want to play music watch TV at full blast in the middle of the night they will, because they don't give a shit about neighbours who want to sleep.

AND

If they have dogs they won't give a fuck what their dog does in a public place.

MrsRyanGosling15 · 21/05/2016 00:19

Harriet, why the need to be so rude? And why are people accusing the op of lying? What actual proof do you have tgat the op is making anything up? Of course yanbu. That would really piss me off.

MadamDeathstare · 21/05/2016 00:31

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fatmomma99 · 21/05/2016 00:45

Originalfoogirl - you do get I'm not the OP????
The OP was in an area which had signs saying dogs had to be on leads.

In my post I said I walk my dog in a "wild" area and picnic-ers have to access it by walking a mile (I didn't specify distance in my message, but it's around that - it's a 20 -25 minute walk with no child) through an area which has signs saying dogs have to be under control (not even on leads) to get to the spot where I walk, where there are no signs saying anything about controlling anything.
And I know the farmer and get on with him well. He won't shoot my dog. Who does chase cows, but somewhat ineffectually.

When we got our dog we were foster carers, and often had children parachuted into us with no notice, so my dog is fantastic with children because we made sure she was before we got her. I absolutely understand that not all people like dogs and many people are scared of them, but I am 100% confident that my dog wouldn't hurt anyone.

I often come across people who are nervous or scared around dogs when I'm walking mutt-face, and when I do, I control her and I usually invite the scared person to touch her and say things like "can you feel how soft her ears are" to try and support them through it. I don't push it, but I do reach out. I'm not an insensitive cow. (well, actually, I am) Likewise, if I can see a scared child, I call out to reassure the parent before we get close.
But that's walkers, it's harder to gauge when it's a picnic because greedy- guts spots it from afar way before I do and rocks up looking perky and peckish.

But, I say again, my post is different from OPs. Picnic-ers where I dog-walk means they've had to trek to get there, so whilst I'll be as considerate as I can, I don't actually give a fuck because (a) I am 100% confident my dog won't hurt anyone or steal any food, so any fear that she will is in the mind of the other person and not based on actual fact (b) most of them leave their crap behind, which I clear up on their behalf and (c) most of them only come there once, and why should we turn our lives upside down for someone else's one-off event.

But it's ok. You don't have to like me or my dog.

RockMeMomma · 21/05/2016 00:50

Yanbu.

KindDogsTail · 21/05/2016 00:57

You are not being unreasonable to be upset over what happened to you, but of all the dogs in all the parks this is not happening all the time. Probably no more often than a cyclist nearly running one over in the park, or disgusting bits of food, or broken glass or other nasty things being put about by humans.

ChipsandGuac · 21/05/2016 02:14

We once had a picnic and a young kid came over and stole a sandwich. AIBU to think you should all learn to control your kids?

Oh yeah, the vast majority do. Just like dog owners.

Luckyfuckyducky · 21/05/2016 02:34

You know you're not being unreasonable, but frankly I spend 365 days a year in the park with my dog, winter, snow, rain, sun, etc. She doesn't encounter picnic 'ers very often. So if she does then so what she come says hello. If you were the only person to use public parks they'd be shut down and turned to housing years ago, so be thankful we make use of it, and keep it for your yearly occorance.

maybebabybee · 21/05/2016 02:36

Oh ffs, not another bloody dog thread. Hmm

MrsRyanGosling15 · 21/05/2016 02:47

Lucky why do you think anyone would want to say hello to your dog? Hmm

LikeDylanInTheMovies · 21/05/2016 02:50

Get used to it. I guess they will keep on cropping up for as long as there are a minority of selfish and irresponsible dog owners out there.

Like yer man Jesus said 'the poor you will have with you always' if he'd been an regular on these boards, he might has added 'and debates about irresponsible dog owners, disabled parking spots, breast vs bottle feeding and benefit bashing on mumsnet'

Italiangreyhound · 21/05/2016 03:15

YANBU. And I love dogs.

JohnThomas69 · 21/05/2016 03:53

Jackanory has entered the building. Yawn right enuff. Now where's the bloody exit. Zzzz

kali110 · 21/05/2016 03:58

Surprise, it's only been a week without a dog thread!
This one is nearly identical to last weeks!
lock i have no idea where half of these mumsnetters live either!
I've lived in a few places now, big towns and never encountered this Grin
It will go the same way though.
People will tell the op ofcourse they are right, why can't people keep their dogs on leads 24/7, then why do people need dogs at all and then it will be several posts slagging off or blatant abuse towards dogs.

Ofcourse the owner should not have let the dog do this though this is not every single dog owner.
The same as just becAuse one parent let their child run riot around my old work whilst there were people carrying hot food and drinks does not mean that every single parent is the same.

I'm not a dog owner either, just get very sick of the constant threads slagging of dogs ( and cats).

Costacoffeeplease · 21/05/2016 06:35

These threads are so bloody tedious and predictable - it's always huge smelly dogs, never a dainty chihuahua - always a picnic on the ground, never sitting on a bench or at a trestle table - always a 'coochy coo' owner, never a bald, tattooed bloke

Bingo

nmg85 · 21/05/2016 07:00

As a dog owner YANBU. Dog on lead means dog on lead. Even if wasn't dog on lead you should have it under control enough to not have this happen.

GinIsIn · 21/05/2016 07:18

Oh good, another dog owner bashing thread..... Hmm

maybebabybee · 21/05/2016 08:08

it is a very common occurancein mumsnet fairyland

maybebabybee · 21/05/2016 08:09

Strike through fail!

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kensausage13 · 21/05/2016 08:13

Wow! Who'd have thought a new poster would be made to feel so welcome on mumsnet?! I completely respect difference in opinion, however personal comments are uncalled for and just plain nasty! Not to mention the numerous accusations of lying!

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Costacoffeeplease · 21/05/2016 08:21

Wow! Who'd have thought a new poster would jump straight in with this for a first post

Stratter5 · 21/05/2016 08:21

Dog threads are always a bit, umm sensitive.

FWIW, we have two very beloved dogs (they are the only furry animal I'm not allergic to), and I would never allow either of them to behave poorly. If you can't control your dog, you don't let it off lead.

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kensausage13 · 21/05/2016 08:27

Stratter5 lol clearly! If id have known that it was such a sensitive issue, i think id have kept my opinions to myself. Touchy subject!

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MrsRyanGosling15 · 21/05/2016 08:32

Costa do you think maybe you could provide a list of acceptable 1st topics, for the OP and all new posters. Maybe you would work with MNHQ and have it listed in site stuff so all first time posters can read it before annoying all you 'experianced' posters. So sick of seeing all these MNers telling or insinuating what people should or shouldn't post. Its just makes you come across like nasty bitches imo. And this may be a bit out there, but if you don't like something, why waste your time reading it or posting on it?

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