Unreasonable punishment to force a child to eat cereal covered in ribena?

[AliceScarlett]

That's unreasonably harsh right? Poured it over instead of milk, but why not just throw it away and start again?
Then mocked when started crying because of nausea.
Is this a reasonable punishment for wasting food and then not being able to eat it?

Sorry, odd thread, just can't get my head around it.

It sounds like you are seeking counselling and that it has initially made things hard, but hopefully it will get easier as time goes on.

True, Amelia, true.

No I don't have my own kids (ttc). I was talking in therapy about where my chronic feelings of shame come from and this memory presented itself. Hate feeling humiliated.

Sorry to hear other people have had similar experiences. Parents eh.

They're lovely over in Stately Homes.

Force feeding constitutes as abuse. I'm sorry op

ovaryhill I agree, if there was one thing I knew I wouldn't do it was turn food into a battleground, and if that means offering something else, I offer something else.

I certainly never had anything as awful happen as in the OP, and my parents were lovely, but my grandmother was, I believe, emotionally abusive to my sister and I and part of her issues were to do with food and being fat and it has had a lasting effect on us.

I just don't understand the rationale, if a child in my care accidently idk tipped their juice into their dinner... Then it would be a shame, but also an accident and I'd sort them out something else. If it become a regular occurrence then yes I would say juice after dinner or whatever. But to stand over them and force them to eat it.... Why cause so much distress over what 50ps worth of food? Maybe she enjoyed the control.
I'm so tempted to ask her about it but I very much doubt she will remember and I'd feel bad bringing it up.

You shouldn't feel bad bringing it up you've got every right to. You might not get the answers you want though.

We had a shitty childhood, I've confronted my parents about some of the things they did. My dad either denies it, or he says he never should have had kids he couldn't cope, or he claims he was right and would do it all again. He's got bad mental health and is a drinker.

My mum accepts things were bad but to this day she panders to my dad just like always.

I doubt I'd get any answers. She won't remember or if she does she will either say I should have eaten it because its wasting food. Or, more likely, she will turn on the water works and I'll be the bad guy for "raking up the past".