To feel a bit uncomfortable with new potential friend?

[orangetupperware]

Met someone briefly last week at a local group. She got in contact through FB saying it was nice to meet me and I replied in kind. Then she messaged me and said would I like to meet for coffee. OK, fine I said and arranged to meet her this week in a local cafe close to work (I can bob out for half an hour or so). All fine. Sent me a few messages about nothing in particular, I replied to a few then let them tail off (I have a young family and do not have time to spend on my phone messaging every five minutes.

This morning she has requested my telephone number in case she needs to contact me if she is late for our coffee date later in the week. Fine. Now she has texted me asking if I want to meet today as she 'needs to get out the house'. WTF? Am I being unreasonable in thinking this is way too much too soon? I know she has just moved to the area, but surely she can find something else to do instead of bothering me. I am of the slowly slowly school of friendship. She's not young either. Should I be running for the hills as I already feel pressured?
I don't know yet what we have in common or if I want to be friends with her and this is all very offputting.

I don't get this polite polite thing of edging around and being never pushy. She's trying to make friends with someone she thinks she likes. If the way she does that isn't to your liking give nice clear no thanks signals and she'll find someone who does. But this mixed message thing where you accept invites because you feel obligated only makes it worse.

I hate feeling like I've twisted someone's arm when all I did was ask to meet for coffee.

Sorry op just seen your final post. I guess you just have different styles which is fine and you see that.

No room for polite. Just do what feels right- say no if you feel no

Forgot to update yesterday. I met her and she's nice and polite but a little self-obsessed. She is very good at talking but not so good at listening. And it seems she looking for a new BFF because she's not liking the people she's hanging out with at the moment. Apparently (jokey manner but dead serious was how I read it) we could meet for coffee weekly as it's close to my work. Cue lots of backpeddling on my behalf and explanations about how busy I am. Am going to let this one drift away. Spidey sense was right.

Good move OP. Life is too precious to spend it weekly listening to someone go on about themselves just for the sake of being sociable! Did she accept that you are busy?

I hope so, BillBrysonsBeard, although she did take my email address (it seemed churlish to refuse to give it). I tried to encourage her in some other areas she mentioned that would increase her social interactions with others. But was wary of being sucked in as a problem solver (one of my other failings).

He sounds like the type that takes over someone then when they see sense or someone else comes along she drops like a hot potato. But paints herself as the victim. She'll suck the life out of you given half a life.