...to think £100 for a colleague's evening wedding is too much?

[ChicagoBare]

In the past we've given £100-£150 for close friends where we've attended all day. This Saturday we're going to a colleague's (of mine) evening do and DH wrote a cheque for £100 to put in the card I bought which I think is too much. We can afford it, but I think it's more than 'normal' and would sooner give £50 or a bottle of nice champagne. DH thinks I'm being ridiculous as the bride's father (groom is my colleague but we know them both) is minted and wedding will have a free bar so we should pay our way. No travel or hotel to pay, bar a £20 taxi. Thoughts?

I think it's fine. If you can afford it, it's nice to be generous.

It really depends, doesn't it? It's certainly not too much under all circumstances, and the bride's father's finances are irrelevant (I'm surprised that made its way into your reasoning).

My own internal guidelines say that money for a peer (as opposed to a junior e.g. son/daughter of friend) is slightly awkward, I'd either buy something from the gift list or find out where their honeymoon is and give foreign currency.

Well, it all depends on where you're from. Personally I don't like gift giving at weddings and would always rather give cash, and give approx 150 euro.

If you can afford it, I don't see why not, but for an evening guest I imagine most will say give less.

I'd take £20 for a colleagues evening bash tbh probably less and a bottle of wine

"Tiny Swarovski crystal would be something I'd hate to be given. I wouldn't even be able to regift it as I wouldn't give something I wouldn't like to receive myself so it would straight to the charity shop. "

A gift for well-off people I think. People who don't want something useful. I'd hate to receive it as well.

A gift for well-off people I think. People who don't want something useful. I'd hate to receive it as well.

I see it as utter tat if I'm perfectly honest. It looks very cheap to me but I don't have ornaments (apart from a few pieces of pottery) on display. The less dusting I have to do the better!