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It's me, crunchy, attachment, church donut mum. Fancy an update?

162 replies

ASAS · 15/05/2016 20:01

Thought in thanks for everyone's time on my thread I'd give a quick update.

Apparently there's a crew of ladies in my church who tell me I've to show respect/shhhhh people/tell people not to sit near them and basically just make everyone feel unwelcome.

Unsure what the solution is but hopefully we can all find one.

Anyway, thanks again for every response on my initial thread.

OP posts:
MrsTerryPratchett · 16/05/2016 01:10

I'd feel like I was denying him his right to his faith. Isn't he small child?

ChaseAvenal · 16/05/2016 01:37

Half of Littlecuntchy's 'likes' list might have well have been c&pd from my MySpace page when I was 14. Grin

There's an episode of Will & Grace where a character is described as "crunchy and groovy", only time I've heard it before...

I also now want a Crunchie.

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TheFullMinty · 16/05/2016 04:21

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ThisShitIsBananas · 16/05/2016 05:53

"Some Crunchy Parents are into:

Attachment Parenting
Co-Sleeping
Baby Wearing
cloth diapering
Elimination communication
natural birth
home birth
water birth
delayed cord clamping
breastfeeding
extended breastfeeding
delayed vaccination
selective vaccination
vaccination exempt
holistic medicine
alternative health
Veg/Vegan
Tree Hugging drug free Hippy Mama
Homeschooling/Unschooling
Natural Products
Toxin Aware
Plastic Free
No Cry It Out
No Spanking
Peaceful parenting
Minimalist
Free Range Children
Child Led learning
TV Free (Not my family!)
Limited Media
Eco-Friendly Home
Buy WAHM
Buy Small Business
Buy Local
Travel Green (On foot or Bike or bus)
Organic Gardening
Buy Organics First
Poison Free Homes
Midwife Care
No Circumcision
Handmade
Activism
Human Rights / Animal Right
Active Parenting
Respect for Nature
Out Door Learning
Sustainable Living
Squat birth
Breast-crawl
Montessori schooling
Placenta encapsulation/eat
Mason Jar Love (this one makes me giggle!)
Baby food making
Toxin Free Mattresses
Very health aware
Essential Oils
Kombucha Drinking
Yogurt Making
Car seat specialists
Wool and Yarn Lovers"

I can't even.

DisgraceToTheYChromosome · 16/05/2016 06:25

Also clapping to hymns half a beat behind, which means that the absolution doesn't stick. Grrrrr.

RancidOldHag · 16/05/2016 07:26

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teafortoads · 16/05/2016 07:33

Can somebody enlighten me as to what crunchy is please?

Tiffanytwisted · 16/05/2016 07:36

Christ on a bike, I am neither crunchy or church going but some of you lot seem to be enjoying slagging the OP way too much.

RancidOldHag · 16/05/2016 07:40

"Can somebody enlighten me as to what crunchy is please?"

I doubt there's much to add to the links to the previous thread, linked by WTF in her post at Sun 15-May-16 20:20:32) and the one in wherethewildthingis's post of Sun 15-May-16 20:56:58, plus leotwist's definition at Sun 15-May-16 21:04:54 and ThisShitIsBananas's list at Mon 16-May-16 05:53:27

SqueegyBeckinheim · 16/05/2016 07:47

Please don't drop microphones, they're delicate and expensive and dropping them on the floor often damages them beyond repair.

DurhamDurham · 16/05/2016 07:49

If I remember the original thread it all started because you son was wandering around near you in church and an older lady didn't think it was appropriate.

Self reflection was questioned in this thread. I'm happy to confirm that after reflecting so much on being called out as disrespectful that I doubted everything from my parenting skills to how I dress, I've vowed never to out the blue snap at someone I don't know as I've an idea how hopeless it might make them feel

So all of the above came about because of that one incident? You need to be more chilled and less crunchy. Seriously overthinking things, it must be exhausting.

But thanks for coming back to update, that's v thoughtful Smile

WhiskyTangoFoxtrot · 16/05/2016 07:54

"If I remember the original thread it all started because you son was wandering around near you in church and an older lady didn't think it was appropriate"

Not quite. Her DS was sitting quietly. She then moved him to next to a toddler and they started playing right in the middle of the pews. And yes, they were frowned at. Possibly because both DC were sitting reasonably well until one was deliberately taken to play in the quieter area, and possibly because there was a child-centric area that (once they had started playing and therefore were no longer following the service) they could be taken so others were not disturbed.

And yes, OP does come across as rather brittle in both threads (and rather lacking in awareness).

herecomethepotatoes · 16/05/2016 08:00

It seems the mean girls aren't limited to church.

This thread is mostly just mocking and "seeing how much I can prod" an OP who is clearly a bit head-mental*

Maybe lots of you don't tend to be the main mean girls (the ringleaders), you're the ones who wait for the biggest bully to make a move and then jump on board.

Either the OP is feeling pretty lousy after reading the replies or has a thick hide.

*no offence OP. You are though. You might be lovely too. They aren't mutually exclusive.

acasualobserver · 16/05/2016 08:03

Please don't drop microphones, they're delicate and expensive and dropping them on the floor often damages them beyond repair.

Also, it is especially annoying for your audience when you return to the scene of the crime to pick the microphone up again. The rule is: you drop the mic, you leave and don't come back.

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 16/05/2016 08:09

"Head mental" Hmm
I think the op knows exactly what she's doing

shockedballoon · 16/05/2016 08:14

Is crunchy like crusty? I've heard of 'crusties' in relation to hippies - as in the dreadlocked smelling of patchouli & the scent of a charity shop, dog-on-a- string types. The sort that have 'indigo children' Grin. Commonly seen at Glastonbury by the stone circle tripping their tits off banging bongos while the sun rises...

Is crunchy the domesticated version of crusty?

This thread is weird!

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 16/05/2016 08:16

head-mental

Nice Hmm

icanteven · 16/05/2016 08:30

I think OP is going to extraordinary lengths in her mind here to avoid thinking "Shit - I need to keep better tabs on SC (Spirited Child) so that he learns to behave himself in public."

It also seems that one lady asking her to keep her child quiet has now evolved into a whole contingent of Wicked Old Women.

Attachment parenting a is a red herring here as it bears no relation to letting your child run wild in church.

I imagine the OP is American (or reads a lot of American Christian parenting blogs) from her language etc.

MardleBum · 16/05/2016 09:30

Elimination Communication

What's that then? Talking shit?

MintJulip · 16/05/2016 09:53

I dont understand they tell you - you to have to sshhh people?

Confused, over all it sounds like an awful church, totally belying the tolerance and warm heartedness that Jesus encourages.

I would find another church.

MintJulip · 16/05/2016 09:54

I dont know what crunchy is but I find in this sort of muddled context, its an awful word, I have horrid images flashing through my head about crunchy people. Yuk.

leotwist · 16/05/2016 10:18

It's surely not a coincidence that, after reading this thread last night, I had dreams about hens in a yard pecking the weakest one to death. Sickening.

Janeymoo50 · 16/05/2016 10:22

I've just opened a Crunchie (mini one), to have with my morning cuppa.

I'd forgotten them (from Easter Egg Hunt).

I'm slightly cringing for you op, sorry.