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To take Dc(1) along to a party DC2 was invited too?

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grumpalumpgrumped · 15/05/2016 08:37

DS2(4) has a party invite today, Dh has been called into work, my parents are away.

Will to take DS1(7) along, with his Ds, some snacks and a book. He knows he can't join in, eat the party food or get a party bag.

Was going to text the mum but don't want to put her in an awkward position?

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Original poster
grumpalumpgrumped · 15/05/2016 08:38

Wibu not will - Stupid autocorrect

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reallybadidea · 15/05/2016 08:38

Can't you just drop DC2 off and come back for them later?

Original poster
grumpalumpgrumped · 15/05/2016 08:38

Will of course text her if the consensus is that this is ok and check

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CodyKing · 15/05/2016 08:38

I've don't this - most normal parents understand that you have other kids to look after - where's the party?

rosepetaltea · 15/05/2016 08:38

What sort of party?

AtSea1979 · 15/05/2016 08:39

Is it at a house? Can't you drop off?

scottishegg · 15/05/2016 08:39

I would text she maybe happy for him to join in, if not then there may be the possibility of leaving him there, I think 7 is plenty old enough to be left if the other mother doesn't mind.

RougeEtNoir · 15/05/2016 08:39

Will DS2 not be ok to be left at the party?

Original poster
grumpalumpgrumped · 15/05/2016 08:39

Don't think he will stay on his own, no one else drops off and leaves yet and he has asthma and allergies so don't feel it's fair.

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Brainnotbrawn · 15/05/2016 08:39

Do you have to stay or can you drop and run. I would take him off for a treat somewhere if you can leave if not well you have no choice. Just make sure he stays away from the party.

bakeoffcake · 15/05/2016 08:40

Where is the party? If it's in a public place it would be ok for him to go along but obviously not join in. If it's in her home you do need to text her and explain the situation. I'm sure she'll be fine with it.

roundtable · 15/05/2016 08:40

Text her saying what's happened and that you can either bring sibling who will entertain himself/eat own snacks or regretfully you won't be able to attend due to unexpected childcare issues.

You can't just turn up with him imo.

Hope you get it sorted.

Original poster
grumpalumpgrumped · 15/05/2016 08:40

Hall party, hmmmm what to do.

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HandWash · 15/05/2016 08:40

If you're are staying anyway then I can't see it making much difference. 7 is old enough to understand you can't join in.

Where is the party? If a hall with plenty of space then I'm sure it'll be fine.

Coconutty · 15/05/2016 08:40

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PeaceLoveGonk · 15/05/2016 08:41

Yes text the party mum.

cheeseandcrackers · 15/05/2016 08:41

I can't see any parent having a problem with that

ohnoppp · 15/05/2016 08:41

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Muskateersmummy · 15/05/2016 08:41

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest if a mum did this at dd's party. In fact it did last year. I always have a spare party bag made up just in case this happens.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 15/05/2016 08:42

I know you say he will sit reading a book but he'll be mightily tempted to join in. That would piss me off if I was party mum although of course I wouldn't say so!

I'd leave the attendee and pop put with ds1, at least for a while.

Misty9 · 15/05/2016 08:43

I would just text and ask in advance. If it's in a hall then I'm sure the more the merrier!

Original poster
grumpalumpgrumped · 15/05/2016 08:43

Will text her and explain and see what she says. DS2 is so excited.

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Gizlotsmum · 15/05/2016 08:43

I would send a quick text, I wouldn't have a problem with that if it wasn't a pay per head thing. I would emphasis you didn't expect him to be included

KnockMeDown · 15/05/2016 08:45

I have done parties at home where parents have brought older siblings along, and I wouldn't dream of excluding them or not feeding them. However, I would definitely appreciate knowing beforehand if extras are coming.

If the party is somewhere where numbers need to be known in advance, then it's more tricky.

Bottom line is definitely let them know beforehand.

crankyblob · 15/05/2016 08:46

I also think it would be fine to text her! It wouldn't bother me in the slightest and I would always have a spare party bag available anyway

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