My drunken bum of a husband has fallen asleep in the back of the car...I have left him there...AIBU?

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I tried three times to stir him to get him indoors but to no avail....I had real children to put to bed.

I have also locked the front door 'cos I don't want to risk being burgled -be woken up in the night-

AIBU?

Do not leave the front door unlocked that was meant to say

Must remember to proof read in future.

Why immediately assume he is a "tosser". The title could of been made in jest. The OP could be being unfair. Why is it always assumed men are at fault?

If this is a weekly occurance- fine. He's a tosser. If he's gone out for the first time in months and has had a few too many- non tosser.

Maybe i'm incredibly naive. But I assume OPs DP is in front of the house. Is anyone seriously going to break into a house with someone asleep in front of it? I doubt it.

Untrue panda. I often refer to normally sensible friends as drunken buns. Purely because it's such a difference from how they usually behave. Don't assume. You know what they say about people who assume...

Just the impression I got from the OP's post. Either way a blanket/duvet over him until he wakes up will keep him warm enough.

Incidentally I've known people to get burgled while in the house so unlikely but not impossible.

Either way I suspect the OP has gone to bed and so am I, night.

If you really can't rouse him then there is nothing else you can do is there? So, yes, leave him. But leave him a house key (not car key in case he wakes up still drunk and gets any daft ideas) and a duvet over him.

He'll live.

Oh for goodness sake! Leave him, leave the door unlocked, and go to bed.

You should wake him.

My ex used to do sport until late. I used to lock the door whilst he was out as I felt safer. He lost his keys....One night I fell asleep and completely forgot about him being out.

I woke up at 3 am to him hammering on the window....he'd tried camp out in the kids play tent but got too cold!! I thought it was rather funny. He didn't though. 😃

I would leave him.
I used to leave the ex wherever he decided to fall into a drunken stupor. No way could I physically move someone who weighed over 16 stone.

First few time I tried waking him, and this was filmed. So he couldn't say a thing. Then I stopped and told him I was no longer wasting my time trying in vain to wake him.

Never left the door unlocked either. There are some thieves that are called opportunist. Not all enter by force.

Dont leave house unlocked, leave him with mobile phone and text him to call when he wakes up to be let back in house.

In winter a few years ago a drunk woman died being left in a car didn't she? It was 2 degrees here last night. My DP isn't a drinker so not sure what I would do

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2449232/Nicole-Falkingham-left-freeze-death-Estranged-husband-speaks-out.html

I think one of the things that's different about man vs woman is that my DH has the physical ability to get me out of the car and 'drunk walk', carry, or drag me into the house. I do NOT have the ability to do that with him, no way. He's 6'5", I'm 5'5".

This, and also, men have been known to rape women who are passed out drunk, while the only danger to a drunk man would be hypothermia. Which I don't think is a big problem in May.
If something looks like sexism against men, it is very likely the result of kind people opposing sexism against women. It is not our fault that men choose to rape women, while the other way round almost never happens.

Where would he be if he wasn't married? Probably outside the place where he got drunk. In the same situation but without a cosy car to sleep in.

A blanket is really all he can expect.

When my ex did this, I had to leave him there as he is 6' 6" and I am 5' 2"! I did take his keys off him though, which meant he couldn't get into the house, but that was because his car keys were on the same ring and I couldn't get them off. I knew if police spotted him he'd probably be arrested if he'd had the keys on him.

I put a sleeping bag over him and a blanket, and left water out. I know a woman who died when sleeping in her car after she lost her house keys on a drunken night out. She died of hypothermia - it wasn't even that cold out - so I was careful to make sure ex was warm enough.

I tried to wake him several times - what more could I do?

"Yeah, if a police officer doesn't have an ounce of common sense. Presumably the husband doesn't have the keyssince he's passed out in the backseat. No passing police officer would stop and rouse someone in the backseat, just to check their blood alcohol level. It just wouldn't happen."
actually it does happen, a friend of my dh was pushing his moped home from the pub, he had had to many to ride but he needed it for work the next day, so he thought he would be sensible. Police stoped him to ask what he was doing ( they thought he had nicked it) and when he explained they breathalysed him. Arrestedand a 12 month ban!

Drive him into the wilderness, steal his shoelaces and let him find his own way home.

Minerva that's a completely different situation and totally irrelevant.

My ex husband once passed out drunk in the porch - I left him there.

Once, someone else drive him home Saturday night/Sunday morning in our car and sheepishly knocked on the door to say H was drunk and had been sick in the car.
I left H in the bathroom and locked the car.
I took our son out for the day on Sunday and ignored H.
I also ignored him on the Monday morning when he went to go to work in the car and found it reeking of vomit.

I have no patience whatsoever with drunk people.

If he had access to keys, no matter where in the vehicle he is then technically drunk in charge. Passing police officers WILL check people sleeping in the car, firstly to ensure that they are ok, if they are ill or need help, and yes, if that person is under the influence they will be breath tested

No. My DH fell asleep at a wedding once. I locked him in the car and continued my night!

Google Bon Scott...

What happened to Bon Scott was a very sad tragedy, but could (and has) happened to people lying in their own beds.

I saw it on police camera action! (Or similar) They woke a guy, breathalised and arrested him.

Ok OP. So what happened? He must have woken up by now! Did he spend the night in the car? Did he get arrested? Did he wake up in the middle of the night and knock on the door to be let in? Was he raging mad or sheepish and ashamed?

Paul that is exactly what happened to someone I know. He had had a couple of drinks so did the sensible thing and slept in the back of the car instead of driving home. Policeman knocked on the car door woke him up and did him for drink driving. He lost his license. So yes. It just would happen.

But the difference is he got in the car of his own violation, rather than just being a drunk passenger left in the car, as explained in worra's post.