if I return this gift?

[MrsDeathOfRats]

Was H's birthday on Monday.
Dd (4) got him a cup as a gift as she knows he loves his coffee in the morning and he complains about the lack of cups in the cupboard (there are 6 cups - 4 of which are 'mine' in that they were gifted to me. We did have a set of plain mugs but hey have all but 2 been broken and he doesn't want to use my flowery/butterfly/personal mugs)

Now it's Thursday and each day he has either reached past the cup he was gifted to get one of the 2 others left or -like today - actually washed up one of the 2 others instead of use the one he was gifted.
He has form for this. I have bought him jumpers in the past and he will wait months before wearing them.
Bought him an electric toothbrush once - sat in the box in the cupboard for 5 months before he used it.

WIBU to send it back to Amazon? It hasn't been used. Is in the same condition it was when it arrived.

So as not to drip feed: things have deteriorated between myself and h this week to the point where I have instructed solicitors to divorce so I may be feeling extra emotions about this admittedly stupid situation

I think it WIBU but it is pissing me off

Op

Blimey, you've been through the mill. What an utter beast.

I think it's the grim realisation when you know it will never change and indeed just worsen as resentment grows.

Have a feeling my angry tears won't last much longer.

Strength for you

I literally spoke with my solicitor yesterday and instructed them.
They said they would send out a client care package outlining everything and I am to sign it and send it back. I gave them my mums address as they advised it would be logo'd envelopes etc so didn't want that arriving here.

My mum just text to say a large letter has arrived from a solicitors firm that was quick!!
I am going there tomorrow so I can read over it all then and sign and send back!

You know what, YANBU, I would find that incredibly hurtful on my dd's behalf.

Reading it actually made me feel really sad for her . She goes out to choose her dad a present and he can't even be arsed to use it. Shes 4 and if she's anything like my DD she'd be pretty pleased at having chosen something for her daddy. That's really shitty of him.

Ignore the other YABU posters because it feels to me that this is pretty much a final straw for you and by the sounds of it, I'm not surprised, you are better off without him, as are your dc.

Good luck and give your dd an extra squeeze - she sounds really sweet.

Good luck tmrw Op