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In light of a mumsnetters new found fame.....

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Catvsworld · 11/05/2016 13:41

Your most grabby stories

I will go first my son who was 13 at the time was invited to a theme park I didn't think nothing of it and said he could go but he would pass my number to the boys mum to sort out how they are getting there meet up times ect

The night before I get a text saying just to let you know it will be £80 for the following

Ticket
Fast pass
And lunch

Before I could respond I then got a text saying I understand you will have 3 spare seats in the back could you pick up .....and ........and ........ Followed by there address its all been sorted wtf

I had to tell my son sadly he wouldn't go as she invited him and we didn't have £80 spare and even if we did have the money to go no way would we be paying for a fast pass and definitely wouldn't be leaving a hour early to pick up the other boys as they didn't even leave near us let alone near each other o sadly it meant the other 3 boys couldn't go but why on earth she felt she could arrange lifts when she hadn't asked me and for boys I or my son didn't even no

Grabby birthday lady

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DailyMailShite · 11/05/2016 19:24

DHs brother and wife arranged a fancy wedding but came to DH just before to say they needed to borrow quite a few thousand pounds but promised they would pay it back very soon.

Despite suggesting they could pay it back slowly several times they didn't bother. Instead they chose to go on a big holiday and to have some building work done.

They act like it never happened. This was quite a few years ago but I'm still bitter

Greedy fuckers. That's my kids money.

IsItMeOr · 11/05/2016 19:24

Dancing your sisters are very strange. I cannot fathom why they would want to steal from you/exploit you.

clam · 11/05/2016 19:24

My BIL actually tried to assault me because they weren't chosen as godparents.

I'd definitely want to leave my kids with him

Off-topic, but that's not the role of godparents.

As you were...

thisismeusernameything · 11/05/2016 19:25

My real MIL not step MIL (who is lovely) is the grabbiest person I have ever met, I spent £120 on meat for barbecue. She got all huffy when I insisted I take what hadn't been cooked home because she wanted to give it to her waste of space, can't be arsed to work SIL and daugher

On another visit we took some cherries for her to try from our garden. She announced that she would use them to make a pie for her waste of space SIL.

Every time we go there we take her to an all you can eat buffet (revolting but her choice) so she can stuff her face. I always order soft drinks for us. She always ordered several wines. She never contributes a penny.

This is just the non long and boring stuff really. If I told you the whole story, you'd be calling me a troll.

CocktailQueen · 11/05/2016 19:28

At bill time grabby woman then annouced we would split the bill; bearing in mind she had spent twice as much as anyone else none of us were impressed but agreed.

She then proceeded to pay one quater of the bill, as her and her husband counted as one person

But why did you all meekly agree and let her get away with it??

MiddleClassProblem · 11/05/2016 19:32

thisismeusernameything is it wrong that I don't think it's that bad?

clam er not what you want in a god parent role though

Becky546 · 11/05/2016 19:33

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ZippyNeedsFeeding · 11/05/2016 19:33

My SIL decided she wanted to go back to work when her youngest was tiny. Fair enough. She decided that MIL would look after him, so she just started leaving him with her. MIL was 76 and in the final stages of lung cancer. MIL wanted to go shopping once, so she asked SIL to take her, which she did. In my car. She filled the car up with diesel and insisted MIL pay for it, then didn't return the car until there was no fuel left in it.

When MIL died, she started leaving the child with me. She never asked me, just left him. I stopped coming home in between split shifts, so she started leaving him at my place of work (commercial kitchen, really not safe for a small child). I stood up to her and told her it had to stop so she just left him wandering around the village by himself while she was out. By this time he was 5. One day a neighbour found him in the sea and pulled him out. Did the fork out for proper childcare? Did she fuck! Now I laugh at her own children using her for free childcare- she must have taught them well!

thisismeusernameything · 11/05/2016 19:41

No, this stuff really isn't bad but its the constant favoutism towards her daughter over her son. She thinks that because we do ok, we should pick up the slack. She takes the piss out of my DH constantly and has demanded we replace her lawn this year as she can't afford to. We are minted apparently. Seriously, we really are not.

Its many, many little things all rolled into one. Of I laid it all out, a, I'd need a whole thread b, I'd be accused of making it all up and c, I'd end up as a headline in the lazy mail.

SingingSamosa · 11/05/2016 19:44

Zippy

quietbatperson · 11/05/2016 20:12

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Catvsworld · 11/05/2016 21:16

How this for grabby

my ex who is a twat told me he was not prepared to give me money towards our little boy as he felt I couldn't be trusted so I was to produce a shopping list of what I needed £30 worth a week

Well when ds what about five I think it was summer it I can recall I get a phone call from tesco saying

"What shall I put back as the shopping has come to £31.67p and I am only paying for £30 worth or if I wanted I could reimburse him the £1.67p when he dropped off the shop"

As if he was doing me a fucking favour

I tell you he's so fucking tight it's a wonder he dosent collapse in on himself

From that day I told him I would get my won shopping thanks

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ThisIsNotARealAvo · 11/05/2016 21:38

When I was younger I went on holiday with a friend to a large city in the US. When we arrived the hotel had given us a very small double bed in a tiny room. My friend said it was too small to share for a week and asked for a larger room. The only one they had was about £100 more which I couldn't really afford but she said she would pay for it. During th holiday I kept offering to get drinks, coffees etc as she was paying for the room, and spent at least that muchWhen we checked out they had charged the extra money to my credit card and she never paid any of it! So I had paid for loads of meals and drinks to try to make it fair and paid for the room as well.

I was only about 19, and put up with a lot more crap then. If it was now I'd just keep asking for the money.

AlpacaPicnic · 11/05/2016 21:43

Catvsworld
And you let him go?! That charming sounding gentleman? You fool

BuddhaBelly · 11/05/2016 22:16

I was given some lovely and expensive baby stuff by a friend when we were TTC. Unfortunately we had 3 m/c within 10 mths so we offered our now estranged BIL and SIL most of the items on "loan" with a view to it coming back to us when we needed it. But instead they used about 50% of it never returned it and sold the rest at a car boot sale! Cheeky fcukers

muminthecity · 11/05/2016 22:24

My DD was invited to a friend's 10th birthday party recently. The invitation said that they'd be going to the cinema after school. When I text to accept the invitation I was asked to provide £10 to cover the cost of the cinema ticket and snacks. I was a bit as her DD had been to my DD's party just a few weeks previously which included an expensive activity with all food and drink provided all paid for by me, but thought maybe she was short of money or something.

When we arrived at her house to drop DD off she asked for the money immediately which I handed over, then she told me that actually they'd decided not to go to the cinema but to go for a meal instead. When I collected DD it turned out they'd been to wetherspoons for dinner where DD had had a kids meal. Kids meals in wetherspoons include a main, dessert and a drink for under £5. I never received any money back so she must've made a good profit that day.

MiddleClassProblem · 11/05/2016 22:32

And a drink!

RuggerHug · 12/05/2016 08:14

Whois no. Like I said I felt bad for her so thought it would come when she could afford it (hence keeping the receipts). She did WAY worse after that to me and her current fiance, which is how the penny dropped in my mind as to what she's really like. I've just written the money off. After reading these I know I got off a lot easier than most people . Why are people horrible to others sometimes!?

WhoAteAllThePies · 12/05/2016 21:29

Clam
From wiki A godparent, in many denominations of Christianity, is someone who sponsors a child's baptism, although the term was also used in a legal sense.[1] In both Christian and secular views, a godparent tends to be an individual chosen by the parents to take an interest in the child's upbringing and personal development, and to take care of the child should anything happen to the parents

WHy do people always try and one up someone with their specific understanding of a word?

clam · 12/05/2016 23:34

You're quoting wiki as some sort of authority??

You appoint guardians to take care of your child should anything happen to you. They may or may not be the godparent.

BerylStreep · 13/05/2016 00:13

Crikey - DH has 5 godchildren, so let's hope the parents didn't have the 'raise them if anything happens to us' thing in mind, rather than the 'bung a fiver in a card each year if you remember' thing that we had in mind.

I've never been asked to be a godparent. It might be something to do with my staunch atheist views.

BG2015 · 13/05/2016 06:33

I was bridesmaid for my cousin, she was having the dresses made and I had to pay for mine myself. The day following the wedding (we all stayed in a hotel) my aunt collected the dresses up and took them home.

I later found out they'd sold them!

WhoAteAllThePies · 13/05/2016 08:12

No I'm using my firsthand knowledge of the fact that is also used that way (for at least the past 30 years as the authority.

I'm quoting a well known and cited open source as you seem to be unaware that it is also used that way and WIki is a pretty good indicator of the current common vernacular. Unless you think it was coincidence that WIKI agree with me?

I mean, it's maybe not as well respected as poster on mumsnet named Clam but I'm going to take it. Also worth noting that a significant amount of users aren't English on this forum and so words might be used differently to the way use them. And that in different religions that aren't CofE it most definitely used that way.

Beryl you seem to have struggled with my post, I said also . So you're dh is probably safe. Bad luck if all 5 kids parents suddenly died though anyway.

ghostyslovesheep · 13/05/2016 08:40

we decided to get married abroad with no family - just us. This in mind we booked for a time we knew my mum couldn;t go but she was fine with it - until MIL and FIL INVITED themselves and DH (now ex) wouldn;t tell them to fuck off

so they come to our wedding - but they also invited 2 friends that lived near by (who neither of us had ever met) - so now we have 2 strangers at the wedding. " days before they decide they want a night out with us and the friends and would like to go to a show - guess who was expected to pay

After the wedding ceremony we went to a well know hotel for a meal - not one of them even got us a drink - we paid for our food, theirs and their friends

they have form for it - every birthday or anniversary (theirs) we would get invited out for a meal - and when the bill came they would both look at the floor/out of the window until we coughed up

the worst bit was my mum was really upset that they went and she couldn;t - she's accepted that we wanted to get married alone with no fuss - but her nose was well put out of joint that suddenly my future IL's where going

PlumPurple · 13/05/2016 09:10

My granny story:

My SIL had started a home based daycare. I had mentioned to her how my son got a load of new toys from friends and family for his birthday and how I had been clearing out his old toys. She asked if she could come by some time to get the box of old toys I left out. I had sorted his toys into boxes of old and new as I had been waiting to have a new toy box/shelf delivered. So came over while I was at work and didn't take the old box I told her I left in the garage. She took the NEW toys from his bedroom! She set them up at her place and took photos to post on her Facebook page of all the new toys "she" had just "bought" for the room. I told her she got the wrong box and she ignored my calls and texts. I went over and knocked on her door a few times but she ignored me then too. I haven't seen her much since then (around 2 years now) and my brother didnt believe me when I told him. I had to buy all the toys again for my LB.

Another grabby story. When I had my learners licence I was doing lots of driving classes and practise and dutifully filling out my log book. I had finished and was saving money to sit my test when my log book vanished! Lo and behold my sister who hadn't even owned a log book and had only done a few lessons came home with her full licence!! She had stolen my log book and palmed it off as hers! So I had to do all the hours all over again :(

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