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Original poster

to not stay in a 1 bed holiday cottage with 5 other people

64 replies

ethelb · 08/05/2016 22:10

Going for a wedding in an English town. Just been emailed about the 'fab' plan friends have come up with, to rent a one (double bed) cottage for the six of us. This includes two couples. And one bathroom. They 'may' be able to persuade owner to provide mattresses.
They also want to go for 3/4 nights when only one is necessary.
Aibu to say no fucking way?

OP posts:
FelineLou · 08/05/2016 22:13

You have chosen the correct answer. Most reasonable.

Floggingmolly · 08/05/2016 22:14

They're having a laugh, surely??

SingingMyOwnSpecialSong · 08/05/2016 22:14

Will the owner actually let them, may invalidate their insurance if they do. We looked at booking a one bed cottage recently for us and toddler DD and they were very specific about how old she had to be for them to allow it.

Also it sounds hellish Grin

shamelessmailhack · 08/05/2016 22:18

Nooo. Don't do it. I had a short break in a one bedroom apartment with three other girls. Two in the bedroom, two sharing a sofa bed. It was a bloody nightmare, and the apartment was designed to hold four people! The main thing was differing bed times and waking times. I was woken up at 7am (hungover) by my friend making a cuppa. There was also a total lack of space for suitcases, and the bathroom soon got damp and gross.

rookiemere · 08/05/2016 22:22

Ha ha ha. Not a chance. We go 2 bedroom every time and that's just for the two of us and DS. Can't stand not being able to sleep.

Original poster
ethelb · 08/05/2016 22:22

I'm hoping the owner says no fucking way. But I think DH and I are being waited on to confirm.

The thing is we haven't actually had that much info about what is going on and where. I think we are expected to attend surrounding 'events' to the main one (which involve dressing up I piss you not) but don't have any solid deets as I think we are expected to hang around being louch and laid back. I'm not louch and laid back. Im an introvert who needs my own space! And was planning on visiting other friends in the area anyway.

The bit that pisses me off is that we are all 30+ and the core grp expect us to pretend we are all existentially ravaged early 20 smthings (we met as students) and will pull cats bum faces for the next couple of months about me saying no to their totes rad (read crap) 'plans'.

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VimFuego101 · 08/05/2016 22:24

No way on earth I'd pay for that! Book a travelodge...

StillRunningWithScissors · 08/05/2016 22:29

Can you tell them you've already paid a deposit on somewhere (say it's a small studio, no room for others)? Be vague about the details so you don't get caught out.

StickTheDMWhereTheSunDontShine · 08/05/2016 22:30

YANBU.

Most of you will be sleeping on crap sofa beds, if you have a bed at all.

Dontlaugh · 08/05/2016 22:35

But surely you can make your own accommodation arrangements, if you're in your thirties? No cats bum faces needed usually amongst adults of that age, I would have thought.
If it were me, my arrangements would involve something 4*, with ensuite and probably breakfast, especially if I had no children and was earning.

ABCAlwaysBeCunting · 08/05/2016 22:36

Hahahahahahahahaha!

NO FUCKING WAY.

Pipbin · 08/05/2016 22:36

Fuck that shit.

That is my considered and well thought out opinion.

Mumoftwoyoungkids · 08/05/2016 22:39

I'm with Pipbin.

Dontlaugh · 08/05/2016 22:39

I suppose my concern is that you seem to be held hostage to your friends plans, even in your thirties. Most individuals at this stage have worked out the words "that doesn't suit us", "we have other plans" or my favourite: "no".
If I felt so obliged to friends at this stage over and above my own preferences (I am also an introvert) I'd have to wonder just how friendly they were.

FirstWeTakeManhattan · 08/05/2016 22:40

I can't count the ways I would say fuck off to that.

mayhew · 08/05/2016 22:42

My solution to any plan like this is "sounds great but my insomnia means I need a peaceful room.....etc" ie the "it's not you its me" defence.

NicknameUsed · 08/05/2016 22:44

I agree with Dontlaugh. Surely you are big enough to find a Travel Lodge or hotel and do your own thing? There is no need to be rude about it. Just say it doesn't suit you to share with so many people.

Berthatydfil · 08/05/2016 22:50

Ok your choices are to say one of the following
I /dh cant take that much time off work so we will make our own plans
I/dh have very important event going on around that time so can't commit until closer to the date so we will make our own plans
I/dh have terrible snoring/flatulence/sleep walking/night terrors so can't share as it will keep you all awake
I/dh have terrible bad back and can't sleep on makeshift beds anymore
Or
that doesn't work for us so count us out

DoreenLethal · 08/05/2016 22:51

Oh gosh no, i need my space.

Akire · 08/05/2016 22:52

Sounds nightmare don't do it. Especially with two couples they will get the bedroom and possibly living room on mattress. Two singles will be in hall or wedged in dinning room if it's big enough to have one.

Dontlaugh · 08/05/2016 22:52

Honestly
Why would anyone lie about flatulence to escape a sleeping arrangement?
A slur that will forever stick? Seriously?
Be honest, say you've made other arrangements and you'll meet everyone at the events arranged. Full stop.

Fiona80 · 08/05/2016 22:53

How would that even work with sleeping arrangements and getting ready?

Whoever thought of the idea is mad in the head. I need my own space, no way could I do that. Have been away on family holidays with other friends families but would know that we have our own space ie our rooms at hotel for privacy and have never got an apartment even though it would be cheaper to share.

Just say you have already booked somewhere else. Attending weddings is stressful enough.

DoreenLethal · 08/05/2016 22:53

If you met as students, chances are one of you knows some maths and 5 into one bed just doesnt go.

Arfarfanarf · 08/05/2016 22:54

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PurpleCrazyHorse · 08/05/2016 22:57

"Sorry, DH and I are booking a hotel"

No excuses needed, you're all 30-somethings

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