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to not stay in a 1 bed holiday cottage with 5 other people

64 replies

ethelb · 08/05/2016 22:10

Going for a wedding in an English town. Just been emailed about the 'fab' plan friends have come up with, to rent a one (double bed) cottage for the six of us. This includes two couples. And one bathroom. They 'may' be able to persuade owner to provide mattresses.
They also want to go for 3/4 nights when only one is necessary.
Aibu to say no fucking way?

OP posts:
TestingTestingWonTooFree · 08/05/2016 23:00

Yanbu. I'm about to share a 2 bed, 2 bath flat with DH, dd in travel cot, DSis and DBil and I'm a bit worried about being cramped.

BlameItOnTheBogey · 08/05/2016 23:02

The worst wedding ever went to was one of DH's friends in California. We'd reserved a lovely room at a boutique hotel and I was really looking forward to it. Then his other friend got in touch and said that they had found a brilliant cottage and did we want to share it. Not to be rude, we said yes. It was a one bed. And he snored like a train. And they rowed ALL weekend. I have never been so glad to leave somewhere.

Don't do it OP.

Oysterbabe · 08/05/2016 23:03

Yanbu. If I go away with friends I always, always ensure I have a room to myself. I'm too old to bunk.

PacificDogwod · 08/05/2016 23:03

Are they hoping for some kind of orgy?! Confused

What on earth - no way, José.

LyndaNotLinda · 08/05/2016 23:04

Just say you're taking the opportunity to splash out. Or have a bit of romance. Or eat toast in bed without cleaning up crumbs.

Really, it shouldn't be a big deal

TheCrumpettyTree · 08/05/2016 23:05

Say no and suggest booking a bigger cottage. Hmm

Or stay in a hotel.

Ludwaysl · 08/05/2016 23:06

When I was at uni 18 of us stayed in two rooms, there was (drunk) bodies everywhere, we split the bed so three could get on the mattress and three on the box springs. That was s brilliant bight and one I'll remember and laugh about forever.

Do I want to repeat it as an older adult, no fucking way!

BeckyWithTheMediocreHair · 08/05/2016 23:07

God, no. Find a nice hotel and sort out your own accommodation.

GarlicShake · 08/05/2016 23:19

I went to a wedding where accommodation was 'sorted'. Turned out they'd got the hotel to let us sleep in reception. Never again. I was too old for that shit by 25 at the latest.

You are absolutely NBU!!! Find a B&B or something, just for yourself. And have a good time :)

WizardOfToss · 08/05/2016 23:29

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Unicow · 08/05/2016 23:57

Laugh and say "and let you all witness our dirty weekend? No thanks!"

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 09/05/2016 00:08

Is it unreasonable to not want to stay in a 1 bed cottage with 5 people. Erm can an Elephant jump.

Iflyaway · 09/05/2016 00:20

I'm an introvert too and no way I would want to do that or even go to a wedding when I have kids/life/work way past uni days...

Better to have a whip round for them to have a Caribbean wedding....

they'll be divorced soon enough anyway

cynical, moi?! Grin

Iflyaway · 09/05/2016 00:26

Not to be rude, we said yes.

This is our problem, isn't it?

Time we found a gracious way of saying no thanks, sorry....

ADishBestEatenCold · 09/05/2016 00:58

Why do they specifically want to rent a one bedroom cottage.

Is there some sort of shortage of appropriately sized accommodation in the town?

TendonQueen · 09/05/2016 01:17

As Lynda says, say you're going to go for something a bit luxurious instead rather than roughing it on mattresses. But you're sure they'll have fun! You can catch up at the events. Just text them soon before it all gets out of hand.

TheABC · 09/05/2016 01:31

Another one here wondering why it has to be a one bed cottage. Surely you are all at the point where you can afford your own rooms? In the meantime, just say:

"Thanks, but we want a bit of privacy, so we have booked xyz".

FishWithABicycle · 09/05/2016 04:57

Yanbu just say no thank you.

Baconyum · 09/05/2016 05:05

Any decent legally operating landlord will say no anyway. It will affect their insurance (and let's face it there's more chance of damages occurring with 6 people in cramped accommodation and probably drunk at some stage!) plus iirc it'd be against fire safety regs for this type of accommodation.

But regardless tell em to grow up and be sensible!

Mistigri · 09/05/2016 05:38

Why would the owner even allow this?

Anyway, you'd be mad to agree to this unless it's the only way of affording going to the wedding.

I don't think you even need to give a reason - just say politely that you've booked or intend to book elsewhere.

Specky4eyes · 09/05/2016 05:39

My idea of absolute hell.

I don't share with anyone not even DH if I can wrangle it and if people don't like it then tough.

If they don't like it then that is their issue. You are allowed to do what is best for you without your friends putting the guilt trip on.

Are all the other's up for it?

KeyserSophie · 09/05/2016 05:46

As an owner, I never allow more than max occupancy (8) with the exception of babies/ toddlers in travel cots. Tbh it's not about insurance but more about wear and tear on the property with furniture getting dragged around to accommodate everyone plus people trying to scrimp on budget by dossing on floors tend not to be planning the most neighbour-friendly holiday.

Cindy34 · 09/05/2016 06:39

Book a room at the wedding reception venue, or nearby hotel (staggering distance) if they are doing the reception at a venue without accommodation (why would anyone do that!).

Long gone are the student days of cramming in as many as possible.

YNBU at all.

eddielizzard · 09/05/2016 06:40

urg sounds awful. i bet secretly a couple of them are desperately not wanting this either.

don't do it. you will hate. i would be honest. say i need my space!

DinosaursRoar · 09/05/2016 06:59

Another one saying no excuses needed a breezy "thanks for including us but DH and I are going to book a hotel and not stay that long. Looking forward to catching up!"

No need for angst, you are in your 30's, saying no to stuff is fine!