Reception aged kids in pushchairs?

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Maybe I just have my judgy pants on, maybe they have a really long walk. But AIBU to think school aged children are generally too old for a pushchair?

Ds's buggy means he can go to all the quiet places he loves to go to. It means he gets more exercise as he can walk knowing that at anytime he can have a rest and know there is a safe place available for him. It means he can go more than 5 minutes from the house or car. When we are out on our walks we never get any comments or judgy looks so all the judgers must still be in bed.

My three year old (4 in August) is in a pram for the school run. It's 5 miles there and back and I don't expect her to manage it twice a day. The other two are fine because they only have to walk one way but she'd struggle with ten miles a day! She looks huge in the pushchair but I don't give a shit, I prefer it to having her scream all the way home. She'll walk in September when she starts school though.

I used to judge it with my first but now I realise there's all kinds of reasons people do it. Could be medical, possibly they're just walking a very long way. Keep your beak out, it isn't affecting you.

He really does dixie. You haven't seen it. Not all his behaviour, obviously but a lot of it? Yeah. He doesn't do it anywhere else, it isn't the same as his other behaviour. Even his doctor laughed and said yeah kids will be kids. He only started doing it when he turned 8 too, if that is relevant?

No he isn't usa based, uk/canada, dual citizenship, been treated in both countries.

And yet you are the one being nasty lilac or why are your posts the only ones getting removed? No one elses are. All I have done is told you about my own family member who suffers from it and how he behaves. I have not once suggested that all others with it are the same way and would never be unsupportive to anyone who has a child with special needs. What kind of professional are you that you can diagnose a child you've never met? We'll trust his actual doctors thanks. You are the one thinking blanket terms apply to all children and suggesting that just because we are aware that a few kids do something we are assuming they all do. Not the case at all. I highly doubt you work in SEN or you wouldn't be so judgemental yourself of anyone asking questions, you would be eager to educate and do so kindly.

There have been many posts deleted on this thread. Not just lilac.

You might want to double check that Alexa444.

Fair enough sparkling, they are not all lilacs. I apologise for my mistake.

My DD does things with a wee cheeky smirk sometimes. She does it because she is developmentally delayed and she likes attention.. and because she has ASD she doesn't know how to get attention in a healthy way like other kids. She can't tell when I am angry and is very shocked to be told off. So many better ways to interpret behaviour in a child with ASD than that they are taking advantage of it and have a 'shit eating grin'. Really. No wonder people are hostile here.

At first I thought you might be being goady but I don't think so now.

Most people with kids with ASD have at least one relative who isn't understanding and makes all sorts of judgements and we just have one here on thread.

Young children differ vastly in how much they can/ are prepared to walk. I don't think it's an issue.

It isn't an issue.

Even if it is its not the OP's issue either.

I used a buggy for my DCs at reception age in the past. It was quite a long walk to school and sometimes they were tired. Sometimes they didn't bother getting in it and wanted to walk. Sometimes i was in a hurry to get back. Sometimes i had to carry shopping and it was handy. I honestly don't get what some people are seeing wrong with it and it never occurred to me that anyone would have even noticed I wouldn't. Maybe i'm just oblivious to other people's goings on?

These days i thought everyone was much more into letting other people parent how they want. It seems that's not true sadly. When DD4 starts reception i'll probably take the buggy with us in case she wants to hop in. Having read this thread i'll be feeling a bit concerned in case everyone's thinking we're 'lazy'.

Ok, I nievely, posted this yesterday as I sat outside school having walked there early. I saw a handful (2-3) empty push chairs being pushed into the school and genuinely wondered why those children wouldn't be walking or on scooters etc. So wondered if I was BU to think this. Some pointed out politely why they still use a buggy. Brilliant. Some were plain rude.

I fairly mindlessly wrote the post so not the best worded, BUt certainly NOT with the intention to hurt or wind anyone up.

Will go shut my ears in the oven Dobby style....

Ds does things that he knows I stop him doing and then grins. He does this because he is unable to communicate what he actually wants. He also grins and ( to those who don't understand ) looks like he is very happy when he is actually anxious and getting distressed.

Oh and on the not paying full attention to writing OT I meant only on the school run. My reply on page 3(?) says I'm not against a push chair.

And obviously it's better than a car.

I wasn't going to post in this thread, this whole subject is done to death every week but on the subject of smiling:

People grin when they are happy, you see this all the time. so if someone comes up to you and they are angry, then grinning should make them happy and everything is okay.

That is normally the logic in play.

It's the kind of social communication mistake that is so misunderstood when it comes to things like ASD.
It shouldn't be misunderstood but people are arseholes who have very little interested in even trying to understand.

Posting mindlessly in AIBU is never a good idea.

Duely noted Sparkling

SpiritedLondon Wed 04-May-16 22:57:35

"Ps my sister teaches reception and she's had kids rocking up who use dummies and are still in nappies ( no, they don't have SEN), can't use a knife and fork, do up zips or buttons etc etc. Bit hard to understand the rational reason for all that!"

Seeing that some conditions typically get diagnosed very late how can your sister possibly know this?

Note the 10 years waiting time (from first seeking medical advice) I quoted re dd's condition: and her condition is not very rare.

DD grins because she thinks me being cross is a big game as she can't understand body language. So she think she has done something very clever by making me cross.

Dobby noooooooo! Don't do that lol that movie messed me up. I cried buckets over that scene.