To be really pissed off at DS

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DS is 9. A really early riser, he gets up about 6am goes downstairs, washes/changes has breakfast and watches TV until we get up about 7.30.

We have Amazon prime. There is parental controls (pin lock) on anything over their age range. .We've had it for over two years and had no problems.

Was watching TV tonight and DP asked if I'm watching Walking Dead again. I said no, clicked on it (it was on the continue watching section), last episode watched was the middle of series 2 (we've watched to the end of series 6)

Turns out DS has been watching one episode each morning before we get up . Not just once but nearly to the middle of series 2.

He knows he isn't allowed. He's asked before and been told no way (after I stopped laughing). He's asked for the WD comics and been told no.

AIBU thinking he's in the wrong here?! DP thinks it's obvious he would try and watch it and I should have been more careful with the pin, which on reflection was pretty easy to crack. Am I being naive to think DS should be trusted and not made to stay in bed each morning until we get up because he might put a programme on he KNOWS he isn't allowed to watch?

MetalMidget really?Oh my God that is disgusting!

Yeah, it doesn't make easy reading, and I say that as someone who was raised on a diet of 18 rated horror movies and Mortal Kombat! Not going to link any of the images here, but if you do a Google image search for Michonne Governor, you'll get an idea.

If you were to hide him for any gory bits... Well he would just want to watch people talking about which direction they're going to walk in so I guess it could work

This made me laugh middleclass! It's very true and I have no idea why I'm so hooked on TWD really

"?..But could I tell him what happens to all the walkers in the barn please? hmm"

I'm with you OP. This is not an unsupervised 2 year old drawing on a wall. He was given specific privileges, and he went to some effort to abuse them. At 9 mine are not walking to school alone or being left home alone yet but it's not a million miles off, and we are working towards giving them a bit more trust and independence. Part of that process is getting evidence from their side that they can stick to the rules I set out.

Fine to be unsurprised he's done it, but I would still ban him from early morning TV for a bit.

Thatbittrckedme... Have you read any of my other posts?
I've never seen TWD. I assumed it was just some kind of Netflix American drama from where his parents were watching it.
It sounds horrendous...Ive been educated. I would never watch it myself let alone let any child watch it.
As for prison break, probably yes for a 10 year old? But never ever alone. It's not gratuitous and it has plots that open up for discussion and the right and kind ways of doing things. But like I said, it would be together and if I thought something was there that shouldn't be, it would go off. It isn't centred around a predatory paedophile, it's about someone innocent who was sent to prison and about his brother a a few other good people trying to get him out. The paedophile you mention is clearly a horrible person in the film and is just a small side character.

"Child sneaks behind parent & breaks the rules and comes to no harm whatsoever!" - Not exactly a news story, is it?

I couldn't rise to being angry about it. Not even sure I'd punish (only person he could have hurt was himself, and evidently that didn't happen either). Change things so he can't do it again. Let him know what happened to the walkers in the barn & move on.

So following on from this what age would you let DC watch TWD?

Google seems to throw up anywhere between 13-18. The violence is the main issue, barely any sex, mild swearing, no drug use, strong female characters as a pro!

And also does anyone know who Negan kills?!

To be honest, you should have expected him to still do it BUT it doesn't make it right.

He deserves to be in trouble for it. And you're not being unreasonable for being pissed at him. You said no, he should have listened.

Sneaky little bugger!

Not before 16, (I'd prefer 18, but that's unrealistic).

But I'm old-fashioned.

He needs a punishment for defying you - no TV till you're up? He can read a book!
And you need to make your parental controls more effective.

Yes I've changed the pin. Lesson learned on not using the same pin for everything

I hope neegan kills who he's supposed to kill re comics (I felt there were a lot of signs in previous eps leading up to it) however as someone else's death was used elsewhere it might be that someone. They're my two most likely.

Also I would tell him about the barn, I don't think it's that different compared to what he's seen. And waiting for Sofia was looooong

So following on from this what age would you let DC watch TWD? I think it is a personal thing, op. You know your children, so you know what they can/can't cope with.

Also age I'd say 13 plus. By the time it gets grittier hopefully they'd then be 15 plus lol

If he has made it to series 2 without nightmares then what are you worried about? I'm genuinley asking this by the way not trying to be flippant. Isnt the damage already done, if there is any? He can't un see it now.
I haven't seen it and wouldn't want to as I have nightmares from this kind of thing and I'm well past 18!
So if he can watch it nightmare free what exactly is the concern? Does if have bad language that u think he will copy? Or are uou worried that he will replicate the violence? If this is the case, he's two series in now, have u noticed anything different?
I would punish the deception and secrecy, over deliberately breaking a rule regardless, I'm just wondering what the worry is over the zombie show in particular?

the harm I suspect is...

sometimes things come back to bother us later, even much later, that's where not having maturity really matters

It desensitises people to violence & gore & fear, normalises us to those things

It puts pressure on other kids, they feel like they should see it too.

Those are the arguments I would use in continuing to say no to further viewing.

Dixie Oh yeah, by the time they get to the prison things really start going down hill. Makes you long for the halcyon days of Hershel's farm...

Or when they get to terminus! Eeek!

I wouldn't be too upset with him for trying his luck. That's what children do, isn't it? They try out the forbidden fruit when they can get away with it. Of course he shouldn't have gone against your instructions. But even the most compliant child will disobey his/her parents occasionally. If you think he isn't responsible enough to watch TV unsupervised, then you could always ban TV in the mornings. But if you think the new pin and parental controls are sufficient, then you could apply whatever sanction you feel appropriate for the misdeed and chalk this one up to experience.

I'm actually a bit impressed with his ingenuity.