Last night was parents evening, and ds's teacher said there was a recent incident in the playground where a couple of other boys were upsetting ds. Apparently ds put on a tiara and was acting very "girly" with his friends (also girls, don't know if relevant) in a funny way, not a taking the piss way. Ds generally likes a lot of stereotypical girly things anyway, it's just him. Anyway, these two boys started name-calling and upset ds and his friends according to the teacher.
I said that sounds like ds, and asked her what happened after. She said she told ds that if he's going to act like that, he has to accept that he'll be picked on.
It bothers me a bit but I don't know if she IBU or not. Surely she should be telling the other kids they can't pick on people? No matter what. I spoke to ds and told him a lot of boys grow up hearing "boys don't cry" or "you throw like a girl" and think that being girly is a bad thing, and he shouldn't expect everyone to have the same attitude as him towards it. But I keep thinking, ds didn't do anything wrong, the other kids did. Why is the teacher telling him he has to curb his behaviour and not the other boys?
AIBU?
Is my son's teacher being unreasonable, not sure.
GeezeLouiseBelcher · 29/04/2016 05:45
I've spoken to ds again about this. His version of his teacher dealing with it was "she told me off for drawing attention to myself". I asked did she tell the girls off. He said no. I asked if she told the boys who were picking on him off. He said just the main one (ringleader) and he was made to apologise to ds.
Ds then said that a couple of the other boys are low level bullying him. Saying things like "oh no not you" if he speaks to them, talking about him within his earshot on purpose etc. 
I'm going to make the school deal with this properly on Monday. Little shits. Advice welcome
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