To not make an appointment to view a house where there was a murder

[bewilderedfish]

We've been looking to buy a house in a particular area for a while and today a lovely house has come up for sale on right move within our budget (it does seem cheap for what it is so I was very excited).
The interior pics look beautiful, it's been refurbished inside and ticks all the boxes for us. DH and I were excited to call the estate agent tomorrow to book a viewing and I idly did a Google search of the address just for fun.
My stomach sank when It became obvious it's the house where a woman was murdered in a horrible arson attack 10 years ago. I remembered it clearly when I read the news reports.
The woman died on the stairs after being disturbed by the fire. The house was badly damaged as petrol had been put through the letterbox and lit. It's obviously been completely remodelled but Its put me right off.
I immediately said no, I wouldn't be going to see it. I could never live there. Not for any price.
I wouldn't sleep at night for reliving that woman's last moments and I'd never feel happy there. DH thinks I'm being ridiculous and he's really disappointed.
Am I being stupid?

It wouldn't bother me at all. It's the living you need to be scared of, not the dead.

I wouldn't want to live in it either OP.

I feel a bit uneasy staying in my grandparents house which was where my great grandad died a few years back, I know it's probably ridiculous but I can't shake the feeling for some reason

There's something very different about a house where someone has died peacefully in their bed, and a house where someone was murdered IMO.

There's a house near me when a guy murdered his wife and two of his four children. It was 15 years ago, but everyone local knows, and I drive past the house daily and know I could never live there.

Equally I could never live in the house that was converted from a doctors surgery where the guy was struck off for sexually assaulting his patients.

I have lived in an old house where children died in the 1900s (usually family life then) and that didn't bother me (I swear it was haunted which was an experience though!) but a house where someone was murdered is a no for me.

I agree with you OP. My sister had a similar experience last year. She found out that the previous owned had hanged themselves in a house she had made an offer on.

I understand people's argument when they say that the site of most houses have probably seen death and violence at some point. But a violent murder committed on your stairs is a bit different than something happening 100 years earlier in the same 'area' as your new build house.

I am quite sensitive and all I would be able to think about is the final moments of that poor woman's life and how scared she must have been. So YANBU in my opinion. Your H is NBU to not be affected by it, but he's BU for not respecting your wishes.

It's just the circumstances of the death that makes me uneasy. There was a lot of media coverage at the time and I can remember seeing the house now with the black smashed windows and tarpaulin over the front door. Ugh. No, I'd be laying awake at night imagining it all.

at Captain Crunch's post. That told you, bewildered.

As a fellow fish,and also being ghoulish and attention-seeking myself, I would say no way! Don't buy the house! This is how every single haunted house movie starts.

I don't think it would bother me

Then again I still live in the house where my husband killed his self and I found him

Some of my friends and widows I've met think I'm mad but I like my house

One bad thing happened in 12yrs of living there and many good things happened

Too soon too soon - in 50 years maybe but Yanbu - I believe in spirits X

Blondes -

And your attitude is healthy - I can't articulate why ops and your issue are not the same - but they're not X

After living in our house for several months the previous owner arrived to visit neighbours and see if there was any post (as he couldn't be bothered to change his address) he then proceeded to tell us his first wife attempted suicide 3 times in the house and succeeded the final time giving us a lot of specifics and where etc. It did make me panic slightly but we got over it and are still here 5 years later, it wouldn't bother me really no

If I knew all the details it would put me off. I would visualise her dying on the stairs all the time. When I viewed my house I had a sense the previous owner had died in it and I did ask the estate agent but she denied it. Shortly after we purchased the house and we'd moved in my next door neighbour took great delight in telling me that the previous owner had died in the living room and the police had to knock down the door. It didn't really bother me because I knew she had lived in our house for 50 years and had probably died peacefully, but with a murder I would feel differently.

My dp owns several properties, one of which is a lovely semi detached Victorian in a nice area but where the dad basically went psycho and killed his wife and kid - this was about 20 years ago I think. A few years back dp asked if I'd go and pretty it up a bit (rugs cushion etc) to make it look better for renting. I don't believe in ghosts but i was looking over my shoulder constantly the whole time I was there. I just about managed to put the stuff out for downstairs before I has to leave, there was no way I was going upstairs (he'd killed them in their bedrooms I believe). I didn't see anything but it felt eerie, although I'm sure that's only because I knew what had happened. There's no way I could've lived there though although it's been rented for a few years now and I've don't believe there's been any sightings!

NBU - that knowledge would tarnish my feelings about the house and I doubt I would be able to 'love it'. Also on practical terms, if you ever needed a quick sale /good price, are you likely to get it given the publicity around the house?

YANBU. I wouldn't look at it in case I liked it but I would constantly be thinking about what had happened especially when I went up and down the stairs!

It's been refurbished eat shit

I'd buy it ijf it suited otherwise. But it would need to be cheap as the same thing will come up when selling.

My house has some very old bits. Who knows what had haperned here ?

I probably would too

Blondes, I think when it's your own family it's a different situation. I know you stayed, and many wouldn't. My friends son died aged two in his bed unexpectedly. She never went back. She couldn't.

What happened there was horrible but it wouldn't put me off I don't think. although I hadnt seen it gutted by fire which might be different. If you see the damage it might scew things more than just knowing somthing happened there. Well it might.

The fire would put me off though, as stated above a serious fire in a property can lead to issues down the line

My house has obvious damage (still) where the previous tenants had a huge violent episode. When I see the damaged doors and walls I've not yet been able to fix, I think of it, and what the neighbours described them finding when they rang the emergency services. But no one died. If they had, I don't think I could live here. But I have anxiety.

Well ive managed to convince DH that we'd possibly have trouble selling in the future, it's also got lots of steps up to the front door so that might be a pain as we get older too 😉 there's no way I'm even going to look at it. Ill probably have nightmares tonight now anyway and I'm in my own house!