To want my own 5 mins of fame

[Onthedowns]

I have an issue with DSsis which I am not sure is my own head or not. Everything I do she has done or outdone me houses children. This last bit had irritated me so I need to know if it's in my head? Some examples we moved just over a year ago decided we would put our house on market, DSIS wasn't moving for another year then I said to her the for sale board is going up the next minute she's moving talk in the family turns to her move, said we were going to a certain destination on holiday after she then books. Got engaged 2 months after me then got married 6 months after me. I have recently had my DS 8 weeks ago she didn't want any more children for a while (has two) within last few days is now pregnant, talk now turns to her and new baby. I get on with her really well but do feel put out is it me?

I think it might be you overreacting. I can see how it might be a bit irritating but realistically you are probably close in age and so doing the same things at roughly the same time- getting engaged, getting married, getting pregnant etc. With the holiday- maybe she just really admires your taste.

Funnily enough though, I have the same number of children as my sister. I dreamed one time that she was pregnant again and I woke up thinking "now I'll have to have another one".

I can't say for sure if she's doing it on purpose, to "one up" you - but if she is, could you see that as something to pity her for, instead of letting it upset you?

The best thing for you to do is to live your life, and be happy - don't let anyone take that away from you.

It's probably not just in your head, because siblings are often naturally competitive, even if they don't intend to be

It is your problem that it has become an issue, though. Just get on and enjoy your life, and choices, and leave her to hers.

Congratulations on your baby.

I know I should rise above it! But having only just had my son who was premature and in special care. It's always felt like she doesn't enjoy the attention being on me

Well, she didn't just fall pregnant in the last few days

No about the time my son was born why?

Yabu

And sound a little jealous

You really think she got pregnant to overshadow your son's birth?

Because you said she was pregnant within the last few days

That's the thing I probably am jealous because it feels like everything I do is overshadowed other people have made a few comments too. No it's early stages of pregnancy

I think Imitation is the finest form of flattery may apply in this case.

I'd get on with whatever life plans you have, enjoy the experience and dont give any headspace to what she is doing. It must be exhausting trying to keep up.

My SIL does this. Got engaged (very hastily) and married right after we did, then bought a house after we did and moved literally 2 minutes down the road from us, out of all the possible surrounding towns to live in... and now all anyone can talk about is SIL 'getting broody', conveniently just as we are about to have a baby. It does annoy me but there is literally nothing I can do about it!

A friend said to me I should pretend we're moving to Outer Mongolia, wait til she copies us and then tell her we've 'changed our mind'