Cheeky requests that make you want to scream

[MeMySonAndl]

What is wrong with people?

This morning, a friend I have not seen in almost 2 years called me. I didn't see the call until lunch time, rang her back and send her a text but didn't reply.

She has just texted back saying that she needed me to give her a lift to the mechanic (WTF?)

Had another one this week, when I had to tell "no" to another mum 14 times as I couldn't have her kid around and take them to an activity because I was working.

She took offence that I couldn't understand that she couldn't take him herself because she was working. Why on earth does she think that I should take time off and earn less money to entertain her kid???

Anyone here remember the Mexican house thief story? That always sticks in my mind as the cheekiest thing I've heard

My DParents had a friend who was a bit "usery" (we laugh about it now)

He was always 'popping round' (ok, he was going through personal issues, and my DParents are involved with the other members of the Church so they rally round)

Then it got to family events like my DMums Birthday, he invited himself (ok it's one extra meal to provide, but even so) and gave her a present of a manky old dinner set (from his house move) and because my Mum hoards things, she kept it

Then he had to find temporary care for his fish. Not goldfish or tropical fish, but bloody huge Koi type. So my DParents had a 6' long tank parked in the lounge with their electricity to work the filter and all.

When he eventually turned up to collect them, he asked if they wanted to buy the tank and fish (erm no, )

you're assuming that the women in question realise their OH is going to abdicate responsibility

Not at all.

How often do you see on here women complaining about their partners and then go on to have more children with him?

It is about personal responsibility. If he won't take responsibility after the first child why the hell go onto have a second, third or more? The woman in effect becomes no better than the man

Organon you seem to be making the woman responsible for the man's behaviour, and also to assume that 1. contraceptive accidents don't happen 2. women have the financial option of leaving, even when they've got a child 3. human beings are robots and always logical.

YABU.

Dh and I lived in various European countries before DD came along and we had expensive dinner parties and house parties. Dh was involved with a group of predominantly French friends he met in England when he started in his former job about 2 years after he met me. So several years down the line when we moved abroad, we started throwing parties and these people and partners came to the parties. They travelled to our house, yes but for the most part, they would arrive almost empty handed, never a bunch of flowers or token gift. Never a follow up thank you. We used to spend tons of money on the parties as it was a very boozy time with a glut of food - barbecues with a variety of barbecues vegetables, meats, salads, cheese, desserts etc for 30+ people, full roast dinner and dessert for 25. Then croissants on tap and pain au chocolat for all the next day or slap up English breakfast etc. One year we did a lot of vodka/red bull, one particularly insidious -slapped, who was shagging a married man- woman in the group accused me to another guest of being stingy because we used a non brand red bull equivalent. I budgeted for the party and I was so shocked at what she said that I remember the cost being just over 600 euros for the evening and that was more than 10 yrs ago. The irony is Red bull was not licensed in France, so you couldn't even get it. The floors were tiled and they had such little respect for me that they danced inside smoking, flicking fag ash on the floor and even stubbing butts out, one time there were spent condoms in the bathroom bin from a hook up between a guy with children and another guest. They stole and opened expensive bottles of wine from the wine cellar because they couldn't find the 25 bottles of Beaujolais Nouveau I'd bought and I didn't notice for hours because I was catering. They had absolutely no respect for me or dh really as well. The last straw was when dh offered to take a couple, who lived near us to the uk for the weekend. They went to stay with friends, us with my family. Door to door taxi service. This wasn't the first time, the previous time they never offered to pay half or even provide a token gift as thanks despite never having put us up at their place or even invited us over for a meal. They were the sort of people, who descended on us empty handed and unannounced on several occasions and we ended up going out to the butcher and buying expensive cuts of meat and preparing wonderful meals, getting out 4 bottles of wine and them staying over to avoid drink driving. Anyway, we needed £1 for the Dartford crossing and I found £1 in my purse. She also found £1 and gave it to me "for the return journey". When we dropped them off, there was no thank you gift or offer to pay half the travel expenses despite us having to stop at the florists on the way to get some flowers for the friend who was putting them up . And the red mist descended. I gave my dh a deadline to sort it out and get some recompense from them. He actually waited until past the deadline and too late as she got an email from me a few days later describing the inequalities in the relationship. Admittedly the mail would have been better sent to dh as it was quite long and described all the shit she and her partner put me through - she was one of the people, who flicked fag ash etc etc. She circulated my mail to the head woman in the group, the hyena queen (HQ) and the HQ sent me a despicable email in return basically telling me in a really nasty manner what a waste of space I was and that none of them had ever liked me. On reflection, I tried far too hard with that group, the harder i tried, the more they disliked me. They must have been really jealous, we lived in a lovely houses and my life to an outsider must have seemed so easy and perfect. In reality, it was complicated moving countries every approx 3 years - different languages and it took a lot to get that house nice - I decorated it all myself because it hadn't been done in years, had to give up the chance of a traditional working career in England etc etc. And we moved every 3 years so the process of decorating, integrating and language learning started all over again.

I am not making women more responsible.

But women are fools if they go onto have more children with a man who has proved himself not to be a good father already.

I don't believe they are all contraceptive accidents.

They can't leave for financial reasons? But they still are able to open their legs to be impreganted by a loser man. Don't buy this

Not logical - if you don't want to live logically then keep having babies with stupid men, they will face the consequences

Clean I am shocked by yours. On the first one I can't believe she took your shifts (that you'd booked leave for) and then expected you to look after her dd.
on the second one...Please say you said something? That is shocking! !

Jane they all sound awful. I hope you had proper friends through all this.

Surely the winner has to be the famous MN Mexican House Thief.

I once offered to help a good friend from uni move from Exeter to Cambridge as I had a car and she didn't (and her family all lived abroad). It wasn't until we had the car fully loaded and she had handed her keys back to the landlord, she told me that she wasn't picking up her keys at Cambridge for two more weeks!! She (and all her belongings) lived with me for two weeks and in that time she didn't buy any food or drink, as she was a 'poor' student and I was working although she could still afford to go clothes shopping while I was at work. I haven't spoken to her for 6 years now!

Stealth I do now thanks.

'She texted me once to say "is miniowls free this afternoon?" as though she was going to invite him over And then promptly saud she'd drop her ds round to play with him! She had to go shopping and "he'd prefer to come to you"!!

This week she texted me to say "miniowls says you're camping this weekend, hubby us away so I could drop my dc off to join you"!

She never turns up to collect until hours after she's supposed to.

When we went to the theatre she first assumed that my dh was going to look after her ds along with mine while we took the younger ones, then when told he couldn't as he was working from home and my ds was going to be doing something quiet...she brought an extra child along, picked our tickets up from the box office and nicked one of mine because she didn't have enough tickets. Fortunately I got away with sitting youngest dc on my knee but otherwise I wouldn't have been able to go in!!!'

Why on Earth do you enable this?

Anyone else desperate to know about the Mexican house?

It's easy to find using search function, Mummy.

Mexican House Thief story in brief.

Woman owns a holiday home in Mexico.

Wanky and pushy next door neighbour nags for a holiday there and owner says ok, just the once!

House owner's Mother or relative later went to the holiday home to find neighbour and family already there, police get involved etc..

He'd copied keys and had unknown holidays there without the Owner knowing.

WeareEternal I think was the name of the Poster.

Is lost in classics please send nice ham and Pom bears

Stupid autocorrect naice ham!

The Mexican house their is one of the best threads I gave read, I was open mouthed for days. I might have to search girl it and read it again now. That and the woman who was uninvited to her fiends wedding but asked to decorate the venue free instead.

This is Mexican house Thief story

My next door but one neighbour is the ultimate in cheeky people.

in the 4 years that i have known him he regularly asks to borrow things, but he thinks that once permission have been given on one occasion that allows him to take the items whenever he pleases.
This includes him just going into my garage/shed/house and helping himself when he wants something, without asking.
I have asked him not to do this many, many times, but he still does it.

It all came to a head in October.

We own a house in Mexico, it is my favourite place in the world and isn't just a holiday house, to me it is my home. We have our clothes in the wardrobes, our food in the cupboards and family pictures on the walls.

We do however, occasionally allow close friends and family to stay in our house, because we are nice like that.
Two years ago SIL, her DH and their DCs went for a holiday there, they managed to get flights for a couple of hundred pounds and were really excited/proud of their amazing cheap holiday.
After they got back they came round for a barbecue, the neighbour 'popped over to say hi' ( which he always did just as we were sieving up the food) he was very impressed to hear about SILs super cheap amazing holiday and really enjoyed looking at her pictures.

The next morning the neighbour came round and told me that he was really impressed with SILs amazing holiday and had looked at the cost if flights to Mexico when he went home.
He told me that he had found some cheap flights and asked if he and his family could stay in our house.
I tried to be tactful and told him that we don't really like people staying there as its our home and not just a holiday house, and that we only let SIL go as it they don't have much money and if was their first holiday in 8 years.
The neighbour then spent the next couple of weeks begging me, telling me how they are broke and can't afford a holiday this year (they live in a five bed detached house and drive a merc and a BMW and he has a very good job, oh and they had already been abroad twice that year)
Finally I gave in and agreed. They went and had a lovely holiday.

Fast forward to last October.
My best friends mum (who I have known since I was 10 and who I call mum) went out for a holiday with her partner.
They had been there for a few days and came home one evening from a day out to find luggage in the hallway and some random people asleep in the beds.
BFM didn't wake them as she was afraid they were burglars as she snook out of the house and phoned me to ask if I knew what was going on and who they were. I obviously knew nothing so BFM called the local police.

The police arrived and woke up the random strangers and asked who they were and what they are doing in the house, they told the police that they are friends of the owners and had permission to be there. BFM told the police that they were lying as she had spoken to me, she was my family, and we had no idea who they were.
The random strangers and their children were escorted out if the house and taken to the local station. All the while ranting they they had permission to stay there and that it was BFM who they should be taking away.
I helped that one of the pictures on the wall is one of me my best friend and her mum, so it was obvious that they knew us.

The police called me and I confirmed what BFM had said, that she was they one with permission to be there and I had no idea who the random strangers were, and certainly hasn't given permission to anyone else as I only allowed family to stay in my home.

The policeman then told me who the people were.... It was the neighbour and his family!!
It turned out that he had made copies of my house keys and had visited my home for 6 holidays in the last two years!!!!

The best part was that after the police sorted it all out and let them go the neighbour and him family still expected to be able to stay in my house!
BFM had the locks changed and told the neighbour where to go.
But on the last day of her holiday they neighbour turned up to check if they were gone yet, because he wanted to move him family in as soon as she had left!

When the neighbour got home he came to bang on my door and rant about how I had ruined his holiday and how terrified his children were. How thanks to me they had be forced to stay in a horrible hotel and then he tried to present me with a bill for the hotel!
Basically he believed that because I forced him to stay in a hotel I should be responsible for the cost.

I was livid and told him that I gave him permission to stay in my house one time, not to use it as their own personal holiday home, and if anything I should be billing him for staying in my house.
He actually tried to act like he had done me a favour as he saw it that he had been 'looking after' my house while he was staying there.

We haven't spoken since, unless he wants to borrow something.

I now have someone that I pay to keep an eye on the place, just in case someone decided to take a free holiday again.
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Holy fuck

That is unbelievable! I actually wish that they'd been charged with something by the Mexican police, they certainly deserved to have been!

Gold star award for cheeky fuckers to that one!

Ah, the Mexican House Thief thread! Halcyon days!

What about the thread more recently where the OP hosted a family of 4 for two weeks at their home near an annual sporting event? They provided free lodging and copious amounts of food and drink for the entire two weeks, but the guests brought no gifts or offered any meal out/contribution to food. One morning a day or two before the family left, the OP asked them to pick up a loaf of bread and some milk on their way back from somewhere. The cheeky fuckers asked for re-imbursement! The OP didn't have much cash on her so gave half the amount but there was about 3 quid (??) outstanding. The guests sent their bank details a few days later, asking them to settle up what the OP owed them for the milk.

Last I heard, the OP had (on sterling advice from MN!) sent a "disappointed you're such free-loading wankers" email to them, but heard nothing back.