To think I can swear on Facebook if i want to?

[doubleginplease]

Ive just been told off by my DM for saying 'fuck' on Facebook in the context of 'thank fuck for that', because she knows people who are on my Facebook friends list. My mum is a friend on Facebook too.

AIBU to think at the age of 34 I should be able to say a couple of swearwords on Facebook?

I'm currently looking for staff. I wouldn't bat an eye at 'thank fuck for that'
Racist, disablist stuff , pictures of endless drinking sessions etc - that would be a no no.

Also my niece who endlessly posts 'my boss is a wanker' on her open Facebook page - she's often looking for new jobs

I swear on Facebook.
FIL complained.
I told him to defriend me of he didn't like it.
He did.

IF he didn't like it

Yes they do Pototoes I have a doctor friend who frequently refers to Jeremy Hunt as Jeremy Cunt!

I have the same problem with my DM OP.

She starts giving the cats bum face if anyone swears, unless it's Ricky Gervais calling people cunts for hunting, then she shares it.

I don't think you're being unreasonable saying FFS, it isn't anything to worry about. And yes I am a fully paid up member of a profession fuck knows why anyone thinks this would matter, who has heard many a lawyer and accountant swear. And dentists. And architects. And Doctors.

Caprini- I am not surprised. She's got guts though I have to say.

I have said to my mum 'i am 34 I can say what i like on Facebook mum, you can always delete me' her response 'I've brought you up better than that- don't respond to me again i don't want to hear it. i won't be looking after DD if you don't show me more respect'.

I was offended by my Dad's UKIP and 'Britain First' posts so I defriended him. I don't get why my mum thinks she can't do the same.

So do I delete everyone that my mother knows on Facebook? How am I going to do that without offending everyone especially seeing that Im about to have a baby and they will all be looking out for pictures.

Just a thought, I do PAY my mum to look after my DD so its not free childcare she's threatening to remove!

Funnily enough Im a HR Manager! And if anyone came to me and asked to start an investigation on a employee who said 'thank fuck for that' on Facebook that wasn't anything to do with their company, I'd tell them to find something more productive to do! Obviously calling their managers names and the slandering the company is different

But this is talking about recruitment vs investigating an employee. A cursory check of social media is standard in my industry and if statuses with swearing appeared they'd warrant a little more digging.

Don't get me wrong, it isn't the be all and end all, but it's a consideration even if a sub-conscious one.

My Dentist DH swears all the time, not to patients admittedly

and therein lies the rub.

Treat social media as public.

^I'm currently looking for staff. I wouldn't bat an eye at 'thank fuck for that'
Racist, disablist stuff , pictures of endless drinking sessions etc - that would be a no no^

How would you know? Are you saying that you do check a potential employee's social media? If so, are you saying that lots of bad language in the feed wouldn't colour your view of them in the slightest?

Potatoes- but the people on my Facebook aren't from my work and I'm clearly not in your industry!!! They are mutual friends. I can't for the life of me think which industry would not hire someone on the basis of saying fuck on a social media site- which industry is it?

If a hiring manager came to me with a concern they'd used the 'fuck' Id say exactly the same thing. Im yet to work in a company which has different policies for recruitment and

and it wasn't a status it was a response to a comment made on a photo.

You can pick who sees your posts OP, I have excluded vast swaths of people!

*recruitment and employment in general.

Wow. You have to pay your mum to look after your baby. She actually wants paying for having the joy of being with her grandchild. That's so weird.

Yes, I might. I've had CVs with Twitter and Facebook details listed.

Someone who's feed consisted entirely of endless aggressive profanity would bother me.
Someone who, against a backdrop of thoroughly average social photos and chit chat, occasionally swore,, wouldn't bother me in the slightest.
Of course it wouldn't.

Simple - just hide your posts from her.

Just seen the threat of not looking after your child - even though you pay her.

I'd put her straight in nursary. That would really piss me off some one using my child as a weapon

I swear a lot in rl but I still blench when friends do it on Facebook. There's a difference imo, it just seems more childish written down.

I have checked Facebook and twitter before for direct hires just out of nosiness but
theres saying 'fuck' (My husband joked my plane ticket to our holiday was one way- i responded 'thank fuck for that) and then theres "fucking cunt, what a twat, blah blah blah".

Lighthouse- I know i know. I do it for several reasons, so she couldn't turn around and say I was taking the mick out of her, because DD genuinely has a nice time there and she retired just before (not to look after her but because she was going to anyway) so i felt guilty about her having to ask my DF for handouts. Its probably about what she would have got for working in retail anyway after tax and NI. Perhaps I should just put her in nursery- i wonder sometimes!

Of course you can swear on fb if you want but if you know it upsets your DM and her friends then either de-friend them or put them on a friends list that doesn't get sweary posts.
You can't stop them being offended. Saying 'I'm an adult and it's my right' won't make them feel any better about it. And if they judge people for swearing then they will judge you.

*At the age of 34 you should understand the difference between 'can' and 'should'.

If it offends your mother you should show her basic courtesy and respect and try not to.*

This really made me laugh. I know my Mum doesn't like me swearing so I certainly wouldn't be swearing on her wall. Anywhere else I have no problem with that. Just like doubleginplease says, I know some very educated people who swear like nobody else.

One more time.

"A cursory check of social media is standard in my industry"

"Don't get me wrong, it isn't the be all and end all, but it's a consideration even if a sub-conscious one."

"I'm not saying that you won't get the job, I'm saying that it's certainly a con to be taken into consideration and all other things being equal, you'd lose out."

"it should be treated as public rather than private and as such, anyone with a professional aspect to their life, should act on it as they would like to come across at any other point"

I'm not saying that you will be hired or permanently on the brew for the odd 'fuck' on Facebook. I'm saying that your social media will likely be (very briefly) checked and if the first things that pop up are littered with swearing, the check will get a little deeper and it will be a (however minor) con against hiring you.

I've just asked around the office who uses Facebook and the general response was "do I fuck". My boss used the gem, "No, but IT monitor your LinkdIn and if any of you cunts update it, I'm firing you before you jump ship!" I absolutely believe the first part.

I work in a large (PLC) business consultancy company. We deal with very large contracts. I am an IT specialist but tend to liaise with clients more. Some coding but I spend too much time trying to keep up with the newly qualified bods in that area!

Your social media can only be checked out, if your privacy settings allow it.

Caprinihahahaha - I wouldn't hire someone who publicly corrected someone else's grammar. No one should have to work with people like that.

This ^^ one million times over.

Why are we seeing so much more of this lately? It's rude and just makes the person doing the 'correcting' look like an arrogant fool.

I agree with that one!

Caprinihahahaha "An highly professional corporate industry." Massive lolz.