To think that tired people should go to bed?!

[IvyLeaf]

Yes it's DH. I'm so bloody fed up of him snoring on the fucking sofa, not watching what's he's put on and refusing to go to fucking bed! I end up coming to bed myself just because he's pissing me off so much.

AIBU to think that if he's that tired that he's fucking snoring that he should just bugger off to bed like a normal person??!!

[purplemunkey]

Yep, this drives me nuts too. 'I'm just resting my eyes' is always his response, even though I've just finished switching off the telly, tidying and locking up for the night before nudging him awake to let him know I'm going to bed. Resting his eyes, my arse.

[MissBattleaxe]

This drives me mad as well. I don't want to spend an evening next to a heavy breathing snorer who denies he's sleeping then asks "what happened in the end?"

[Jengnr]

If I fall asleep on the sofa and my husband wakes me up amd tells me to go to bed it pisses me off no end. I'm not doing any harm, half the time I'm not even asleep and it's like he just doesn't want me around. Not cool H.

[Dumptrunks]

So glad I'm not alone! I end up watching what he wants, he falls asleep and starts snoring REALLY LOUD! Try and turn over the TV so he obvs wakes up instantly OR I sneak off to bed and leave everything on then he wakes up and decides to join me but starts brushing his teeth in the ensure.and wretching ( likes brushing his tongue and practically putting the toothbrush down his throat) really loudly and wakes me up. I long for the day we have enough bedrooms to sleep separately,mi hate the safa :)

[Dumptrunks]

Sofa*

[PinotPony]

I could perhaps tolerate DP doing this if he hadn't been out with his mates until 1am the previous night and he wasn't snoring so loudly I can't hear the tv. But he was and he is so I don't!
DP: "Darling, let's watch that great film together." [snore]
Me: "FFS! You're asleep!"
DP: "No I'm not"
Me: "What just happened in the film then? Huh? Huh?!"
DP: [snore] [fart]

[paxillin]

I quite like snoozing in the middle of the herd, so to speak . Gives me a feeling of safety. Unfortunately, so does dh and we only have one sofa.

[BennyTheBall]

On my wedding day, my dad gave me fantastic advice which I have always followed,

'Don't make silent demands'

Whilst I used to think this was the perfect 'one line for a happy marriage', when mine get married I am going to say,

'Don't allow sleeping in front of the TV'

[BarkGruffalo]

Are you me, OP? Makes me want to smother him with a sofa cushion.

[NellWilsonsWhiteHair]

This thread has reminded me of the ex I used to live with. She had a later natural bedtime than I did, and used to take it as a personal rejection if I wanted to go to sleep. Sulking if I said I was going to bed... Prodding me awake on the sofa when I was falling asleep through the film she wanted to watch when all I wanted to do was climb into bed...

I am so SO glad to now be living by myself (well, just me and DS) and not have to care about what anyone else thinks of my sleeping arrangements. A bed all to myself! until DS clambers over me at midnight A bed to myself and nobody to tell me when I may or may not get into it! Living the dream.

[BoatyMcBoat]

DH does this too. It's not like he's got some terribly physical job and he's spent all day shifting huge piles of earth or anything. He does get us all up in mornings. But he goes back to bed as soon as dd has gone off to school, gets up again a couple of hours later, tends to snooze for at least an hour in the afternoon and the again most evenings. He must get about 12 hrs sleep a day on average!

When he snores on the sofa, I just call out "you're snoring" and he shifts about a bit without waking up, and the snoring stops. (Until it starts again, but I'd have had at least half an hour's peace.) Try it.

[MissingPanda]

I fall asleep on the sofa usually due to either not having slept in my own bed the night before or having slept badly because I have to be up early. I get tired generally between 5 and 7pm which is too early to go to bed so curl up for half an hour/an hour. I'm single though so don't have a DP/H to annoy.

The worst is when I do a long day so start at 7.30/8.30am. By about 8.30pm I want to go to bed but can't because I don't finish until 10.30pm. It's such a relief when 10.30 comes and I can crawl into bed

[Bogeyface]

I have just emailed H a link to this thread as a hint . He rolled his eyes but is now in bed so I count that as a win.

I have had

I am not asleep
I was resting my eyes
I am just watching this (I occasionally pause "this" so he can see how long he has been "watching" it for!)
I am going..... half an hour later .....I am going!
I am just finishing my drin........snore
I wasnt snoring
Its only 8/9/10pm

And its nothing to do with his shifts, he has always done it for as long as I have known him and he has worked office hours, pub hours, early shift....., its like he needs to have a good 2 hours on the sofa to work up enough energy to get to his bed!

[IvyLeaf]

Well, I've been busted since this was posted on Facebook and somebody shared it! He spent all evening determinedly NOT snoring (but still with eyes closed ) and has accepted that I have a point!

Now to name change... Again....

[Smudge612]

OMG, I have this all the time - it drives me mad! OH will fall asleep whilst I cook dinner, wake up, eat it - put the football on - fall asleep. I don't get it, (I don't know why it bothers me so much either) if you are tired - GO TO BED!!! He also gets really grumpy if I wake him to tell him to go to bed. "why do you have to bother me, I'm not harming anyone, leave me alone" !!!

[fragrancemeister]

My Dh does this all the time,guaranteed snoring within five minutes of him finishing a meal,drives me to distraction,especially as he tends to put a DVD on that I have no interest in and he falls asleep with remote control in his hand( obviously I must need to see this film while he sleeps)just leave him to it an beggar off to bed.

[Marmite123]

YANBU!

My DH does this all the time and to add insult to injury periodically wakes with a start and says "turn the telly down darling!"

This never goes well for him...

[Margaretwwl]

We're both guilty of this. DH on Sun mornings, while waiting for us (me) to go out, or just after lunch (but before he goes to work). I have 40winks so try not to sit down after I've eaten! I think it's the gluten...

[RubbishMantra]

I'm guilty of this. Especially when I had DH, I'd curl up and drool on his shoulder. He'd gently wake me up when he was going up to bed, and I'm a grumpy person when I wake up.

Now he's not here, I wake up cold and confused. I just love that feeling of drifting off to sleep, and will try to prolong it as long as possible. Especially when I'm in a "carb coma", which I anticipate tonight (Italian sausage pasta) Might eat it in bed, on a tray.

[whois]

This thread has reminded me of the ex I used to live with. She had a later natural bedtime than I did, and used to take it as a personal rejection if I wanted to go to sleep. Sulking if I said I was going to bed... Prodding me awake on the sofa when I was falling asleep through the film she wanted to watch when all I wanted to do was climb into bed...

My DP does this :-( All I want to do is go to bed so I can get enough sleep before getting up for work. He goes to bed much later, is a total night owel but also gets up at least 2 hours after me!

So I either get moaned up for not wanting to watch a film or I get moaned at for falling asleep on the sofa. I don't want to watch a fucking film, I want to go to my bed!

[Gileswithachainsaw]

Oh god my dp is like this too. if he sits down he falls asleep. tells me to leave the dishes he will do them then at half ten they are still frickin there while he's either dozed off on the sofa or sitting bleary eyed at the computer . he's been known to fall asleep standing up on buses ffs.

but will he actually go to bed at a reasonable time? will he fuck. he may come up with me around 11 but he will watch his phone fir gid knows how long. amd usually Wakes me up dropping the bloody thing on the floor as he's dozed off watching it. the flickering also keeps me awake sometimes. so dropped phone' check

pneumatic snoring -check

flickering phone waking me up- check

sometimes if he sleeps on the sofa I can still hear him snoring. pmus I swear he's dead cos he has everything so fucking loud ot keeps me up thru the floor I have to go down amd ask for it to be turned down. and yet he's the one who's knackered

oh and perhaps If you washed up after dinner instead of 11 o clock at night you might actually get a chance to clean up properly rather than me having ot to do in the morning.

[flingingmelon]

No no no. Both DH and I regularly nod off in the living room. I'm tired! It's just a nap. I'm not bothering anyone.

My only issue is that DH insist on yelling 'go to bed!' at me but gets annoyed if I wake him up.

Grr.