To think that tired people should go to bed?!

[IvyLeaf]

Yes it's DH. I'm so bloody fed up of him snoring on the fucking sofa, not watching what's he's put on and refusing to go to fucking bed! I end up coming to bed myself just because he's pissing me off so much.

AIBU to think that if he's that tired that he's fucking snoring that he should just bugger off to bed like a normal person??!!

[Everylittlething87]

This drives me crazy, we've had the argument on a few occasions. With him saying 'why does it bother you so much?'

[3littlefrogs]

Please get him to see his GP to rule out sleep apnoea. The excessive snoring and tiredness are classic symptoms and it is a potentially dangerous condition.

[Oysterbabe]

Yabu. I like dozing on the sofa.

[MumsTheWordYouKnow]

Wonder why they don't all just go to bed and watch TV in bed, much easier. I watch programmes on a tablet all comfy in bed and the very odd time I drop off early I'm in the right place 😀

[Slackalice42]

I am 33 weeks pregnant still working full time and I get up at 6:30 to cycle into work (it is quicker than driving as I get a ferry in so means I get an extra 30 mins in bed and I enjoy it). DH thinks I am unreasonable going to bed at 10pm and refusing to let him watch Law and Order Special Victims Unit in bed - no he doesn't get up at 6:30. Honestly when he comes to bed after 10pm and wakes me up I really just want to stab him in the eye. Fortunately I have a very deranged Maine Coon cat with a foot fetish so as I get up in the morning I sneakily lift a corner of the duvet exposing DH's feet which the cat then bites. His shouts of rage are music to my ears!

[LifeIsChaos]

I wish I could just go to bed when I'm tired. Two small dc stop me from doing that with the incessant chat, required school runs - 6 a day each way. Then dh wants to chat about his day....

By the time I get to bed I'm too wired to sleep so average 3 hours straight before I wake up after I eventually get to sleep.

[LifeIsChaos]

If I fell asleep on the sofa I would appreciate a blanket thrown over me and a glass of water on the side.

[Trooperslane]

I always never do that.

Sorry DH.

[elh1605]

Loulou2kent- I'm the same. Hubby gets the lie ins, I'm up with DD and regularly fall asleep on the sofa especially if I cuddle in too him!! I'm quite often in bed between 9-9:30, hubby frequently tells me to go to bed. You can guarantee that if I go to bed after 10:30 DD will be up 5:30!!

[NorksAreMessy]

I am the opposite.
I start sneaking up to bed at 8pm..."I am just going up to watch the telly...."

[TattyDevine]

My DH is guilty of this usually on a Friday night. He knows he's not "allowed" to, and is likely to get a cushion lobbed at him

My parents are the worst for it though. They visit from Australia, so of course jetlag is a big factor for the first few days. So they sit there snoring on the sofa, then the next day they say "I did well, I stayed up till 11pm, though I did wake very early"...

No, you slept from 7pm, and you woke up at 3am because you'd already had 8 hours, you muppet, which will not help you get over your jet lag. Grrr.

Dad does it anyway even when not jetlagged, but only for half an hour after dinner. He's well practiced at answering a conversation even if he was too asleep to hear it. Trouble is, sometimes you weren't directing a question or comment at him, and he'll answer it anyway. So I'll say to my DH "Thanks for getting the front tyres done, they definitely needed it" and Dad's eyes will spring open and he'll say "oh right, I see". and we'll be just like

[BuggersMuddle]

We both do this (although unless there is wine / a bad cold, neither of us particularly snores - heavy snoring would be worry).

It doesn't bother me particularly except that neither of us wakes readily, so we've both had to chuck the blanket on and leave them to it the odd time. All programmes that start after 9pm are recorded

DP does need less sleep than me though, so is known for both battering about a midnight (moreso when I have a 5am start and he is 'trying' to be quiet ) and faffing around with phones at 6:30am (regularly, when it takes me 30 mins to get ready to face the world in the morning and him 2hrs+ ). On the latter point, he has at least discovered headphones and that watching YouTube in the loo means he's less likely to be sworn at .

BuggersMoggy will come and sort things out though if we both fall asleep on the sofa. A persistent paw to the face often offends if both humans are asleep simultaneously.

[CharleyDavidson]

DH used to work 8-5 and cuold stay awake til really late/early in the morning. Sometimes falling asleep on the sofa and not coming to bed at all.

For the last few year's he's been switched to an early shift. So he's out by half 5 and home by 3pm. So he's often found snoozing on the sofa at 5pm when I get in from work. I get that he's been up early and done a full day's work. And he has actually (finally) got around to going to bed about 10 rather than 1am/2am. But it makes it feel like a monumental waste of an evening for him to spend it mostly snoring on the sofa.

I'm definite pretty sure that he has sleep apnoea as I have to nudge him sometimes to make him breathe properly again. But he's doctor-averse and won't go to them 'just' about snoring. It does my head in. If he would try and lose some of the weight he's put on since we got married (when he wasn't particularly svelte even then) then I think it would make a big impact on his quality of sleep. But no. He doesn't want to know and says he doesn't care. And at 6'3" he's too big for me to cart off to the doctors for his own good!

[Buddahbelly]

I see your dh snoring and I raise you a dp who is trying to cough up a furball by way of letting us all know he has a sore throat coming on. .

I blame Mil entirely for the way he is, fafs over him still to this day making up home remedies that often involve turmeric, eye of a newt and a dog's pube if he so much as sniffles in her presence.

Thankfully ds has turned out like me and hates people who faf, so just gets on with it. At 3 years old he now rolls his eyes at his dad when he starts coughing!

[MooPointCowsOpinion]

Clearly we are all married to the same man.

I've learnt to live with it, I just change the channel and tell him to shush his whining and go to bed if he complains. His snoring used to be terrible, and he was checked for apnoea, turns out he just needed to lose a bit of weight and now the snoring has stopped.

[thelostboy]

It's not just men.......

[greenbloom]

I am the opposite and a complete expert in daytime napping in bed. I've done it since I was a teenager. I love my bed.

[CharleyDavidson]

I cannot fall asleep on the sofa.
Not at all.

I do, however, love my bed. And I love nothing better than retiring early to snuggle in with my kindle and read before it's time to sleep.

DH and his late night's used to leave me lots of time for reading.
Now, with his early shifts and his 9/10pm bedtime's he's in bed before me. And snoring in my ear while I'm reading or wide awake and feeling fruity!.


Do you also have DHs who, if they haven't dropped off in the first minute or two of going to bed, declare they Just.Can't.Sleep!

I can't fall asleep that quickly and love the time to relax and think.

[Emptynestx2]

OMG I could have written this post! It drives me insane, I can't hear the TV for the snoring but he's not tired and not asleep!! It's like living with a child who won't go to bed. He is completely exhausted, works long hours, eats too late and then sleeps on the sofa. He does have sleep apnea but won't go and see about it.

[msgrinch]

"I do not allow this".... Wtf?! Who are you to tell someone what to do in their own home. Bloody hell if dh told me what to do/ i told him there would be no relationship. Unclench its his house to.

[unimagimative13]

I'm now laying in bed on my own because DH is snoring on the fucking sofa! It's like this thread was made for me!

I feed DS at 6/6.30 and he falls asleep- I ask him to go to bed but he's SNORTED all the way through Emmerdale, coronation street and eastenders.

I leave him now as I know I can get some peace in bed without wanting to put a pillow over his face.

I'm going to screenshot the OP and send it to him. This is a REAL problem and I didn't post it!

[BennyTheBall]

Lol, I showed my dh this thread full of (mostly) women that hate their partners snoring on the sofa. It's an epidemic of resentment.

This is why I don't allow it

[unimagimative13]

My sofa is ruined, we've been sofa shopping and I refuse to buy squidgy lounge day bed type sofas that encourage sleep.

[MrsMook]

I know that if I'm tired enough to lie down on the sofa that I'm doomed. I don't do it often and it's when I've just put the DCs to bed and my childish rebel instinct wants to stay up for some child free time.

DH is the main culprit. His major trigger is Russia Today Kaiser Report. Just as the nasal ranting gets going, DH gets grunting and snoring too. Should I attempt to switch the TV off, he wakes and tries to reclaim interest. (DS has obviously inherited this trait in the form of hearing the microwave thus rendering me unable to make porridge while he's still asleep; a shame as he's a blooming nuisance trying to help once he's risen. But I digress...)

I've learned to laugh gently when I hear the words "I'll be up in 10 minutes"

[BluebellGal]

My dad did this, used to annoy my mum and I vowed not to marry someone who snores and falls asleep on sofa mid evening. Then I married DH and he is now exactly the same. He makes me watch C4 news for 1 hour then falls asleep on sofa before it's even finished. For some reason, it annoys me even more that he falls asleep sitting upright and then denies being asleep once he wakes up.