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AIBU?

To think that tired people should go to bed?!

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IvyLeaf · 16/04/2016 22:28

Yes it's DH. I'm so bloody fed up of him snoring on the fucking sofa, not watching what's he's put on and refusing to go to fucking bed! I end up coming to bed myself just because he's pissing me off so much.

AIBU to think that if he's that tired that he's fucking snoring that he should just bugger off to bed like a normal person??!!

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SingingMyOwnSpecialSong · 16/04/2016 23:17

DH lays on the floor of our tiny living room to talk to the dog and falls asleep after a few minutes of complaining he is 'so tired' and 'can't move'. It is very odd and irritating to watch TV with a person star-fished on the floor, snoring. If baby DD cries I nearly fall over him getting out of the room to go to her. I have on occasion shut up the house, thrown a blanket over him and gone to bed. He usually takes about 10 minutes to realise and then makes a racket getting himself to bed, thankfully in a separate room due to his sleep issues.

ManneryTowers · 16/04/2016 23:20

Ahhh I am SO with you OP! DH has yet again fallen asleep on the sofa after putting some crap on the telly he wanted to watch about two hours ago. I've had wine, finished my book and had a shower since then and am now happily tucked up in bed. The fecker poor man will be "do tired" tomorrow. As you bloody well will be when you sleep crumpled up on a sofa instead of in your extremely expensive bed that YOU insisted we buy!!
Grr. Rant over.

ManneryTowers · 16/04/2016 23:27

On a similar note. My dad once fell asleep on the sofa once when my parents came to stay for a few days. I got up the next morning to start breakfast and he stumbled out of the sitting room, fully dressed and gave me the fright of my life. I was irrationally really, really pissed off that he'd spent the whole night on the sofa rather than in their bedroom. I can't explain why!

GinBunny · 16/04/2016 23:30

I have to turn the volume up on the telly to drown out his snoring, but the instant I turn over the very boring documentary that is probably the reason he's fallen asleep in the first place he sits upright and says "I was watching that!"

MrsJayy · 16/04/2016 23:31

Do you want to watch this dear aye aye stick it on Zzzz drives me nuts

TondelayaDellaVentamiglia · 16/04/2016 23:35

dh so does this....it makes me want to kill him dead

plus he's not a good sleeper, so in general his sleep limit is 6-7 hours, so if he snores on the sofa from 7-10 then he's got a whole night ahead of him and only three hours sleep left to use up, he WILL argue black is white that
a)he's not asleep
b) he doesn't snore
c) he's not going to be awake all night
d) he WAS watching that.

we've been married for years now and he knows better than to keep me awake...I can sleep ten hours plus and still have an nap and a lie in so he will get up and come back down stairs in the early hours but it vexes me!

mrslol · 16/04/2016 23:38

So so agree OP. I've currently come to bed, (even though I'm not even tired!) because I can't stand watching him doing the opposite of multitasking by letting the iPad slip from his hands over and over again while claiming to be watching Match of the Day. Eh, that iPad went black about 10 minutes ago, you are not reading anything on there chum.

Beedoo123 · 16/04/2016 23:40

Same here... And if I wake him he's so grumpy!!! I just sneak upstairs and enjoy having the bed to myself

BennyTheBall · 16/04/2016 23:42

I can't bear this and do not allow it.

The SECOND dh starts nodding off, he has to go to bed.

I do not want to be an old fogey, looking at my husband asleep on the sofa with his mouth agape.

jobrum · 17/04/2016 00:14

Noooo! Yabu! I am the fall asleeper and we don't mean to do it! It probably doesn't help that according to dh, dm and absolutely anyone else who has had to wake me up, I am vile when woken up. I can be quite enjoying something on the tv and then open my eyes an hour later, in an odd posistion and still holding a glass.

Your dh is probably a lovely man who really did want to watch all of the tv programme!

Seren85 · 17/04/2016 02:57

DH does this. He works weird shifts so might be beyond knackered on a Saturday night but fighting it because he's finally home and its Saturday. Waking him and suggesting he might want to go to bed leads to "are you trying to get rid of me?" Well yes love because you're snoring your head off and clearly should be in bed! That said if I'm super tired and fall asleep downstairs then decide to go up I then can't get back to sleep so I can't blame him!

CrackerChops · 17/04/2016 03:37

Bloody hell, it's annoying, isn't it? I just don't get it at all. When I'm about to fall asleep on the sofa in front of the tv, I immediately have to go up to bed, full stop. I like everything switched off and silent, because there is nothing worse than falling asleep in front of some quiet, gentle programme about ancient Egypt, and then bouncing off the sofa in shock when you are woken up by a loud, brash infomercial about the "Pulverizer 3000 jetwash system" at 3am in the ruddy morning. "CHECK OUT THE POWER ON THIS! ONLY £400, YES, £400! LOOK AT IT!!!"

NoCakeLeft · 17/04/2016 03:53

Tired people should indeed go to bed. Unless they're my 15 months old DD and they have runny nose. Then they should stay up and keep their parents up.

Notimefortossers · 17/04/2016 03:54

My DH works 12 hour days 4 days a week, which I appreciate is tiring. But then he stays up till the wee hours on his days off researching watching shit on his tablet, moans all weekend about how very tired he is and gives me no help with our 4 DC. Go to bloody bed then!!! I wish he'd fall asleep on the sofa

WalkingBlind · 17/04/2016 04:16

Bloody hell, are you me? I had no idea this bothered anyone else My DP does it every day and it drives me round the bend "no I'm not tired" or "but I'm watching this programme" or "I wasn't even asleep". Liar.

Sumsnet · 17/04/2016 04:58

I think I know why this is so annoying.

Personally I think it's because it's quite childish for an adult to refuse to go to bed because they 'don't want to'. After getting all the kids to bed j don't want to chide an adult into bed and lock up after them, it's also extremely intrusive having an adult take up the whole sofa and snore loudly in the living room.

Having said that I don't wake DP up. He does quite a dangerous job and needs all the sleep he can get.

HermioneJeanGranger · 17/04/2016 05:14

YANBU it's bloody irritating and bad manners. Fair enough if you nod off accidentally, but you should at least go to bed after someone has had to prod you awake for snoring!

IpreferToblerone · 17/04/2016 07:22

Mine does it too, drives me bananas. especially 'cos he argues he wasn't actually asleep .... Just dozing !

IvyLeaf · 17/04/2016 07:33

jobrum yes he is indeed a lovely man. But he's not watching anything because he is ASLEEP! Why don't sleeping people go to bed? Just why? I can understand shift work, I'd probably even work to forgive it. DH works a 9-5 and has no bloody excuse!

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SerenityReynolds · 17/04/2016 07:33

sumsnet you hit the nail on the head about it feeling a bit like dealing with another toddler. If my DH is dozing off, or has complained about how tired he is, I suggest he goes to bed. The first thing he does is glance at the clock and declare "I'm not going to bed, it's only half ten". It's like he has this stubborness that won't contemplate going to bed before midnight, no matter how shattered he is

DragonMamma · 17/04/2016 07:43

I'm the fall asleep-er in our marriage. In all fairness, at weekends it's likely to be wine induced sleep at around 10pm. DH doesn't seem to mind, but he has the patience of a saint.

I don't tend to go to bed because it's Saturday night! I don't want to be in bed at 10pm! There's no logic in my thinking, I know. I try and have a power nap in the afternoon to combat this but that doesn't always happen.

MaddyHatter · 17/04/2016 09:47

DH works days, he does 7-5, we put the kids to bed at 7.30 and you can guarantee by 8pm he is asleep on the sofa and SNORING.

He will wake periodically to rewind what he was watching, then fall asleep in the same place... wake up, rewind, snore, wake up, rewind, snore.

I will only disturb him if the snoring gets so bad i can't think straight, but will eventually go to bed about 11 and leave him there.. he usually comes up at about 1-2am, makes an unholy row and then bitches he only got a few hours sleep when he has to get up at 5.30am.

NO, you SLEPT for 6 HOURS on the fucking COUCH!

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RunRarebitRun · 18/04/2016 20:05

I'm guilty of this. I get to a stage where I'm too tired to get ready for bed.

aspoonfulofyourownmedicine · 18/04/2016 20:09

YANBU my husband does the dame to me and it drives me mental. He started doing it at my parents, mid conversation with my dad at like 7pm.... really gets on my nerves. "Go to bed if you're tired" "but I'm not tired"

Beagle84 · 18/04/2016 20:16

I'm afraid I'm guilty of doing this all the time, I fall asleep on sofa and then OH wakes me and tells me to go to bed then I end up getting annoyed that he's "trying to get rid of me" lol.

I always fight it because I know by the time I go upstairs, get in my pjs and wash face and teeth I'll be wide awake again

That's my excuse anyway lol

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