Babies and piercings

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I saw someone today who had an 8 month old little girl with her ears pierced. Am I alone in thinking that it's wrong to do that to a baby?

I know it's only a quick procedure but I'm a bit shocked that people still do this. AIBU?

Being a part of certain cultures doesn't automatically make it right. There are various cultural norms that most people would consider barbaric.
Inflicting unnecessary pain on a child too young to either choose or understand is, and should be considered in law, abuse. Referring to it as 'council' is unfair but it is most certainly accurate to state that it is an act of the stupid.

Lakiey I'm not new- but I don't spend my time trawling these kinds of threads or making rude comments about people I don't know, my head is not "full of air" nor am I trying to start a heated thread. As stated several times I was wondering on people's opinions. I don't think I'm the one in need of a hobby

Thanks vintage

Thanks vintage

It's wrong and it's so chavvy.

Got mine done aged 7 after begging for a couple of years.
Dad went ballistic
I loved them so much, was fully informed about the pain, responsibility for cleaning them etc.
I would never pierce a baby's ears.....however, my 4 year old keeps asking for 'holes' but I know there is no way she'd tolerate it all now, so I can nearly sort of understand the rationale for people getting it out of the way before the pain receptors are fully developed / little fingers unable to tug them out.
This doesn't detract from the fact that it's fucking barbaric, just trying to think outside my box.

I don't like earrings on babies but can't get worked up about it. DD was 7 when she had hers pierced in, shock horror, Claire's. It was perfectly fine and in 3 years hasn't had so much as a sore ear.

My 17.5yr old daughter wants her ears pierced. I've told her it's fine as long as she has somewhere else to live sorted out for afterwards.

Um. You sound normal........

I think it's horrible on babies personally. The "they won't have to get it done when they're older" argument doesn't hold up for me because it goes on the assumption that every girl wants their ears pierced which isn't true.

They're not your ears to pierce, it should be up to the individual to decide whether they want a body piercing when they're of an appropriate age to understand how it works. There would be outcry if someone went to get their babies nose or belly button pierced, but the ear lobes are fine for some reason?

I can't stand seeing babies with pierced ears, and, yes, I judge the parents as thick.

Are they thick or do they just have tastes that you disagree with? Surely all those Spanish parents can't be 'thick'.

madamedepompom agreed.

Spain - a country of thick parents

Or

Spain - a country where the parents go things differently to British parents.

Defo going for the latter.

Oh come along. Just because a tradition or culture says something is okay doesn't mean that it is. We all know this.

It used to be culturally acceptable to beat your wife with a stick, so long as it was no thicker than your thumb. Or to but a fucking bit in her mouth for gossiping. I think we have all got past that one now. Eventually hurting your children will go that way too, be it "minor" like piercing or smacking (don't think that is minor but never mind) or circumcision (or that either) or the more extreme end of the scale, FGM.

Good thing nobody is asking you then isn't it, Lakiey

How rude lakiey! Shall we all pm you before we start a thread to make sure it is up to your standards?? Why did you click on this thread except to be rude to Op?

The OP was just trying to start a bun fight, she knows these threads never end well and that's why she decided to start one. She may as well of done a baby name thread or parking thread. A quick Google search would have answered her question.

I clicked on this thread because some of you are so ignorant, you are insulting people's culture ear peircing is not cruel it can be a temporary thing.

Surely you're just adding to the bun fight with your comments?

I clicked on this thread because some of you are so ignorant, you are insulting people's culture ear peircing is not cruel it can be a temporary thing.

1. Not cruel? Tell that to a very young me who never had a choice and developed a fear of needles afterwards. Babies may not remember it, but I can't get my child's cries of pain from my mind from injections, never mind choosing to cause them that pain for no reason. Oh and my lobe piercings never closed back up even though I never wear them.

1. Culture does not always mean it's an OK thing to do.

1. Ignorance comes in many forms - those who have no issue piercing their very young children's ears in this country end up taking them to places like Claires, instead of a fully trained piercer and therefore causing even more pain than is needed just so their babies look 'pretty'.

1. What if that child grows up aboslutely against body piercings/modifications and has that choice already taken away from them before they could even give an opinion? A baby cannot make a choice, does not mean their parents should be allowed to do as they please.

No, you want the bun fight.

Google has nothing to do with it. This is called 'people chatting in an Internet forum'. Maybe it's a new concept to you but generally that's what people do on forums.

Go and find an argument elsewhere and stop being rude to op for no reason.

Another one here who's lobe holes never closed up. I got mine done when I was 8. As a adult I haven't worn ear rings for at least 5 years but the holes are still there. It doesn't bother me because at 8 years old it was my choice but I can imagine that if I had that choice taken away from me then I would feel differently.

Lakiey I wasn't starting a bunfight. If you read my first few comments I stated I wasn't aware it was one of "those" threads. Go and find that hobby you were talking about, I'm pretty sure frequenting threads with rude comments doesn't count.

*an adult

If you've had problems with your ear piercings that's too bad, you were clearly being cheap and got it done by someone who was inexperienced or you didn't look after you ears. My girls got their ears done when they were little, they didn't cry if you go to the right place they will give you numbing cream before and after the procedure and there is many types of ways you can get your ears pierced. I'm actually causing them less "pain" as they wont remember it. If my daughters decide they don't like the perching when they're older they can take their earrings out and the hole will close up. you do what you want to with your children and I will do what I want with mine, I'm not harming them and they are happy so you mind your own business and I will mind my own! . We will leave it here now.

Ah of course - you're being defensive because you had your infant daughters ears pierced. Makes sense now.