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AIBU - Wedding Special!

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Fyaral · 15/04/2016 16:01

DP's best mate is getting married tomorrow. Its been a bit of a shambles but I am v close to sacking it off altogether.

We have never recieved proper invitations as they were too disorganised so this has all bern over text and fb message.

DP and groom have been mates since uni. Groom has been crap at meeting up for a while even though we live quite close. I don't know them well but have driven them around city in past as they don't drive.

Originally we were invited to the wedding then it changed to dp invited to whole thing and I could come to everything except the ceremony as the room was too small. Whatever. I would meet dp straight after then we would go to reception.

On Monday, dp asked if I had put in food choices. I was confused as had not been asked at all. Dp texts to confirm I am invited to reception and they say no, only evening starting at 8. This is definitely a change from before.

So... AIBU to think they are rude gits and go to my mates birthday instead which will be much more fun?

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Fyaral · 16/04/2016 10:44

Ha yeah. Mumsnet loves a bit of twisty knickers over the petty stuff. I look at a lot of threads like ShockHmmConfusedGrin

I am hungover today thanks to bag of cider and I have an appointment with a researcher who posted on mumsnet for subjects to experiment upon a while back.

Considering driving to the club so I can't drink and spare myself the agony that comes from the cheap 'vodka' industrial alcohol they sell. I need a slap don't I?

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Lunar1 · 16/04/2016 19:08

Looking forward to hearing how the wedding went!

leelu66 · 16/04/2016 19:21

Good plan to cut them out slowly. Life's too short.

PegsPigs · 16/04/2016 19:27

Looking forward to flaky groom + sufficient dinners for guests update!

NotReallySureNow · 16/04/2016 22:06

No way would I go to that and I had almost the exact same situation- I was welcome st the evening only. I refused to go. Don't give them lifts any more either!

Encourage your DP to go alone and write it off.

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Fyaral · 17/04/2016 09:53

So my night was awesome.

I curled my hair and put on so much eyeliner it was difficult to move my face. I gothed up and wore my spiky platform new rock boots.

I got to the pub and there were about 40 of my mates there from over the country. We drank cider and made merry.

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vEGANvERA · 17/04/2016 09:59
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NicknameUsed · 17/04/2016 10:02

How did the wedding go?

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Fyaral · 17/04/2016 10:14

We got to the club and played silly games in the smoking area before going into dance.

We were all outraged that a quadruple vodka and coke had gone up to SLIGHTLY OVER £3!!

We danced to 90s shitty rock and classic metal. Most memorable was a semi successful mashup of we will rock you, killing in the name of and firestarter.

I rolled in at 3am and the wedding crowd were all tucked up and asleep. I drunkenly shhhhed the cat and tried to sneak upstairs in my very unsneaky boots and then passed out.

I had an excellent evening.

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Fyaral · 17/04/2016 10:17

The wedding apparantly was a bit shit. The ceremony was nice but quite short. The meal was ok and they had chip butties for later. There was a meal for everyone.

But it was mostly family and people staying were the only mates. There was no dancing in the evening. No dancefloor. Quiet music and everyone just sat around talking. They came home at about 11 and went to bed.

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FishWithABicycle · 17/04/2016 10:26

So your invitation was for a couple of hours of sitting around with quiet background music after the real guests had eaten dinner. Hmm. Glad you had a better option!

YouTheCat · 17/04/2016 10:34

Sounds like your evening was way more fun. Grin

leelu66 · 17/04/2016 10:52

Good miss there, OP.

I wonder if your absence from the evening do was noted by the b&g and if they will comment.

SolidGoldBrass · 17/04/2016 11:30

snort Most excellent result for you there.

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Fyaral · 17/04/2016 12:34

I am currently at the wedding brunch in a spoons. Just sat with dp and mates while bride and groom sit with family. I gave an awkward congrats and they kind of smiled and then avoided eye contact. Groom came and sat at our table for a bit but didn't speak to me. This is not unusual for him though. He is quite shy and doesn't really speak to me even when he is at my house. I don't know bride well at all so not surprising she isn't talking to me.

I made sure dp didn't write my name on the wedding present. Passive aggressive.

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leelu66 · 17/04/2016 20:56

Avoiding eye contact shows they know they did wrong, imo.

Any plans to marry your DP, Fyaral? Grin

RaspberryOverload · 17/04/2016 21:06

Sounds like your night was awesome Grin Wouldn't have minded a night like that myself.

Definitely trumps the wedding Grin

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Fyaral · 18/04/2016 12:36

No plans to marry yet but I will have fun when we do Grin

Apparantly they said to dp at the wedding that they prioritised +1s for those who had travelled far and because I live here it was fine to leave me out Hmm

Also best man was not actually best man and there was no best man or bridesmaids. Not sure if this was a change or I just got wrong end of the stick. Not best man stayed with groom night before wedding and with us after. Groom wanted help with wedding stuff and someone to game with apparantly.

I got glitterbombed at the club and I am still glittery today at work.

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