AIBU to have thought this was a shitty excuse?

[annabelismad]

I'm pregnant and my due date is in two days. We have one son, Franklin James Wilder. Our surname is a religious building. I LOVE vintage names. Husband less so but he liked Franklin when we chose it and frequently calls him: Franklin, Frankie, Lin and Frankie-Jay when around his East London mates who all have kids called Charlie-Jay, Tommy-Lee, Sammy-Joe and names similar. I've never minded the Frankie-Jay thing and thought it was cute. He chose Franklin's middle names. Now, we are having a little girl. We have a name, Gertrude Isabelle Laura. He loved it and chose her middle names. He also mentioned calling her Gertie-Belle, Tru, Gertie and Gertrude. I love this name. Today, he has come to me saying that he doesn't want to name her Gertrude anymore. When, I asked why, he said that I'm worried about what my mates will think. We should call her Lily-Mae or Lola-Rose instead. She needs a proper girly name. This has wound me right round the bend. When he said it, I just walked off. I think this is a rubbish excuse. His mates wouldn't say a thing! Most of them call Franklin, Frankie-Jay but a quite a few call him Franklin.

I love the name Nancy.
And Ali shortened from Alistine, or Alice.
I like Esther and used to like Isabelle and Olivia a lot.
Gertrude is a lot to lumber a child with. It sounds harsh and comes with 'connotations.'

Gertrude Isabelle Laura Gurdwara

Gertrude is just so grim, shameful and sniggery, it's not fair to inflict on a child.

I get why you like vintage names and really like Franklin, but there must be something nicer?

Lily-Mae and Lola Rose are awfully clichéd. There's a jewellery brand called the latter.

If you call her Gertrude please don't be upset when everyone you introduce her to fleetingly winces as if in pain.

Nancy's my daughter's middle name. I've always loved it.

There've been lots of cool Nancys - Nancy Astor, Nancy Mitford, Sid and Nancy...

I love Franklin. I also like Gertrude and I don't generally like old lady chic (don't get me started on Amelia and Millicent).

How about you compromise with dh on Gertie-Maeve or Trudi-Fay

Lol @ Maureen making a comeback, Maureen-Mae Perhaps.

Older lady names I like
Maxine
Alice
Ruby
Marianne
Amelia
Beatrice
Margaret
Anne

Ewwww!! NOT Gertrude!

How about.....Brenda???!

Marianne is lovely.

No it's gone too far - there is no such thing as "vintage names".

suchafuss surely you mean Agnes?? Agnus sounds male??

Pictish is that a stork I seeing flying by then?!

How about Marilyn? Has the American feel of Franklin.

4/10 op

His alleged reasoning is a bit odd but he is essentially right, Gertrude is awful.

Greta, Frida, Rita, Nora seem like they might be up your street but are infinitely nicer than Gertrude.

What about Gertrude-Maureen-Mae? The best of all three worlds.

Lola-Gertrude
Brenda-Lily (that could work, but sounds a bit like a sanitary towel brand)
Gertie-Mae
Or maybe go a bit left left field and spell it Gurtrooyd?

What about Maeve? It's a bit like Mae but a lot more unusual and ticks the vintage box as well.

My Christian name is Emily-Kate although I only ever get called Kate and most people I have met as an adult do not know that is my real name. Randomly, I went to school with another Emily-Kate (assuming it was a 'thing' in the 80's) and work with an Emma-Kate. None of us are known by our full hyphenated names: I honestly see no point in doing it. Parents use them but nobody else once the children are adults, it's just a bloody faff when you have a form to fill out.

Not a Gertrude fan here I'm afraid. Dirty Gertie. And I also know a limerick from school about a Gertrude. She poohed.

Mathilda, Maud, Violet, Myrtle, Ivy...

No it's gone too far - there is no such thing as "vintage names". hmm

Of course there are - names that were fashionable in the past.

Ooh I love the name wilder!
Gertrude sounds like an ironic name. Always thought that about lily Allen calling her kid Ethel too.
Franklin is a fabulous name I think you can do better than Gertrude to compliment it - and I mean that in a nice way because I think your sons names are lovely and unusual but nothing he will get teased for.

If you like G names what about Gwendolyn or Guinevere.

Greta's not bad - wouldn't choose it but I don't hate it. Or Gretchen.

I've always liked the name Giselle because of the ballet.

Gwendoline is a terrific idea. DH could even call her Gwennie rose if he really feels he must.