AIBU to have thought this was a shitty excuse?

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I'm pregnant and my due date is in two days. We have one son, Franklin James Wilder. Our surname is a religious building. I LOVE vintage names. Husband less so but he liked Franklin when we chose it and frequently calls him: Franklin, Frankie, Lin and Frankie-Jay when around his East London mates who all have kids called Charlie-Jay, Tommy-Lee, Sammy-Joe and names similar. I've never minded the Frankie-Jay thing and thought it was cute. He chose Franklin's middle names. Now, we are having a little girl. We have a name, Gertrude Isabelle Laura. He loved it and chose her middle names. He also mentioned calling her Gertie-Belle, Tru, Gertie and Gertrude. I love this name. Today, he has come to me saying that he doesn't want to name her Gertrude anymore. When, I asked why, he said that I'm worried about what my mates will think. We should call her Lily-Mae or Lola-Rose instead. She needs a proper girly name. This has wound me right round the bend. When he said it, I just walked off. I think this is a rubbish excuse. His mates wouldn't say a thing! Most of them call Franklin, Frankie-Jay but a quite a few call him Franklin.

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You realise you have outed yourself to anyone who knows you, right?

Gertrude is really quite an ugly name - I think it is as a pp said, it was a name to describe someone unpleasant when I was growing up.

Ok let's forget the name is Gertrude for the moment

It is up to you what you want to call your Dd

Your dh should not be changing his mind so that he looks good infront of his friends

If he said actually I don't like Gertrude and I would rather it was something like Lola then it's different

YABU. She will be called Putrid Gertrude at school...

Don't do it. When you say 'we' chose Franklin's name, did you mean 'I'?

Wilder is not our surname!!! Wilder is one of Franklin's middle names. The names listed were some examples of the types of names his friends kids have. He does actually like Gertrude which is what annoys me. It's more about saving face in front of friends. And to anybody who thinks Gertrude is too old lady, look up Gertrude McCoy!

Well, ahem, although my Mumsnet name is Gertrude I agree it's not quite in the category of old lady names that have come back into fashion, it's a bit like Albert, it's not quite been reclaimed. I do agree it's lame your DH has changed his opinion based on what his mates might think though. Matilda?

So you have an almost unanimous YABU but you are going to ignore it? That was fairly pointless

Matilda's far too common where we live.

I had a great aunt called Gertrude, born in the 19th century. She hated the name, she thought it was ugly and harsh. My GM (her sister) was called Millicent. Much nicer...

Sorry op but I don't think that name sounds very nice. I just picture some sticky, butch woman instead of a sweet little girl.

There seem to be an awful lot of really odd posts in baby names at the moment.

Gertrude is really horrible -very ugly and clunky sounding. It might be vintage but that doesn't automatically make it nice.

Lol that someone should change their child's name because mumsnet said so .

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The surname isn't wilder. That's one of the middle names. Says so in the op.

I like Gertrude. I think your name choices are good. If he has absolutely decided against it, could you swap around the order of the names so it isn't the first one any more?

Gertrude is awful. Your DD won't thank you for it. There's 'granny chic' and just terrible.

Lily-Mae's are everywhere.

yes i think there's a good chance your DD will change her name when she's older unless we are missing a trick and it really becomes the new 'it' name. Why not peruse for other unusual baby names?

Lily-Mae and Lola-rose are heinous names. Gertrude is a bit hmm but better than those horrors.

i should say, the gertrude in the nickname is from a really ugly but love-able mongrel in jilly cooper's rivals...

I'm bored of old fashioned names most of which aren't nice at all.

My mum is called Gertrude, Trudi for short or Gert/Gertie by her brothers and sisters, she says she doesn't mind her name but when in a more reflective mood she will ponder as to what possessed her parents to give her that name, she maintains it was because they had ran out of ideas (she's the 8th of 11) each to their own though Op.

NOT Lily-Mae...dare I say too chavy?!

I don't think your DD would appreciate it when she's older - there are plenty of retro (early/mid C. 19) names that are kinder on the tongue - thought about Edith/Edie, Lillian, Gracie, Martha, Josephine, Evelyn, Mattie, Stella, Estelle, Essie, Etta, Eliza?

No to Lily May and Lola Rose, done to death. I don't mind Gertrude but it isn't my favourite. Baby naming is just so difficult. DH and I couldn't agree for ages.

There's a chance your daughter will not thank you for her name in times to come. I don't think Gertrude is the worst I've heard but she's going to have to be a cool character to pull it off. If she's like my own daughter and a shy pie, she might curse it to the depths of Hell.
Don't get me wrong I like unusual names's - my daughter's isn't in any top 100s I've seen - but give a girl something to work with eh? She's got to live with it, not you.

I'm not a fan of Gertrude, but not wanting to name your child a certain name because of what your mates think is a bit 14yo boy if you ask me.