Mother in law inviting herself

[Curvylou11]

I wanted to start a new thread to carry on the subject of my MIL. I didn't want people to have to read the whole topic again as this is something else that has bothered me a lot.
I have cooked Christmas dinner for my MIL and FIL for the past 17/18years, but the past few years she has started to invite herself, take it for granted, I was planning to just spend it with my dh and dc last Christmas until she said she would order the Turkey, luckily for me my oldest dd has a house of her own now and has invited us. This is my break, I will never spend Christmas cooking again, I will go out to a restaurant the year after

I'm sure there was another thread about a MIL and Christmas recently.

Seems very odd.

YABU where is the Christmas spirit? everyone is welcome around the table at Christmas time in my eyes, apart from maybe Jimmy Saville obv

reading between the lines I feel this isn't as much about Christmas as it is about whatever was said about your brother. I think for your own sanity I would wait until you are calm and next time you see MIL calmly tell her that what she said wasn't ok. i wouldn't mention Christmas. If dd invites her this year (saying you are going too) then no discussion is needed at all. Maybe your dd is even starting a new tradition. If there are no other Christmas plans next year you can state how nice it was for you not having had to host the previous year and thinking about it, you now consider yourself retired from officially Christmas cooking.

So you cook a roast dinner (albeit an elaborate one) for two extra people once every 365 days and you need a break. There has to be more to this!

Simple. DH cooks, MIL attends, you sit watching dull films and eating Celebrations / drinking Baileys (both excellent Xmas pastimes). .
Everyone wins.
Merry April.

Honey, from what I remember of the OP's other thread, the 'insult' to the OP's brother was that her MIL said 'What a pity' in a tone the OP perceived as sarcastic when the brother complained of only getting a few hours' sleep.

OP, you do brood on things, don't you?