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To call up maternity unit and let them hear the meltdown they've just caused my wife.

253 replies

MissusWrex · 12/04/2016 14:10

Ok well I wouldn't really do that but am feeling very angry right now.

This is my other half's account. She has autism spectrum disorder and dyspraxia.

We had a cesarean section booked for this Thursday. This morning we recieved a call asking us if we could move it up to tomorrow.

We had a discussion about it, checked whether we could change childcare etc. and my wife agreed after she'd worked it through in her head.

We got everything packed and ready. Sat down five minutes ago and received another phone call.

Our appointment had to get changed to Friday. We were given no choice about this, couldn't change back to our original date. Just a sorry, it's got to be Friday now.

We can't get childcare for Friday though I appreciate this isn't the hospitals problem.

What I am very angry about though is that now my heavily pregnant wife is having the mother of all meltdowns upstairs. She is screaming, banging around and I'm just praying she isn't hurting herself. I can't restrain her obviously and she is immensely strong during these episodes which are actually exceptionally rare these days.

It has been a difficult and complicated pregnancy.

AIBU in thinking that maybe they should have just given a little extra consideration given her disability and not changed dates twice in the space of a few hours?

Should I call PALS, I just want to let someone know what this has caused.

OP posts:
herecomethepotatoes · 15/04/2016 14:39

Huge congratulations to you, wife and daughter.

Hopefully this thread has opened some people's eyes to what an autistic meltdown really is and that disabilities don't a bad parent make.

Sadly, there's no cure for ignorance. Just be happy it's the minority and get back to your family.

Cake
Libitina · 15/04/2016 14:40

Congratulations!

BikeRunSki · 15/04/2016 14:42

Congratulations Family Wrex!

I have RTFT and have learnt a great deal about Autism, and attitudes. Certainly, a hospital would have had to account for a patient's physical needs, so should also account for a patient's psychological needs. I'd just bring it up with PALS - all's well that ends well, but this may not be the case for the next person.

Snowwhiteandrosered · 15/04/2016 14:48

CongratulationsFlowers. I'm so pleased everything went ok for your dw. Welcome to Baby Wrex too.

AugustaFinkNottle · 15/04/2016 15:07

Congratulations, delighted for you both! So glad to hear it was a positive experience.

flirtygirl · 15/04/2016 16:18

A huge congratulations to you both.
Enjoy all those newborn cuddles.

Theydontknowweknowtheyknow · 15/04/2016 16:27

Congrats Flowers on little BabyWrex.

scotsgirl64 · 15/04/2016 17:39

Draylon...Brilliantly put...The NHS is a treasure we CANNOT afford to lose

FelicityR313 · 15/04/2016 17:44

Congratulations to you both.

blueobsessive · 15/04/2016 18:08

Many congratulations family Wrex. Enjoy!

FloatIsRechargedNow · 15/04/2016 19:04

Adding my congratulations to the Wrex Family

septembersunshine · 15/04/2016 19:36

Congratulations on the birth of your son. So glad that the C-section went well for you both and your new addition is doing well! Enjoy all those new born cuddles :)

AlwaysDancing1234 · 15/04/2016 20:01

Congratulations on your new addition to the family. Have fun enjoying lots of cuddles, hope you are both not too exhausted Flowers

ohtheholidays · 15/04/2016 20:16

Congratulations to you both Smile Flowers Hope Mummy and baby are doing well.x

Ludways · 15/04/2016 20:48

Congratulations to you all ThanksThanks

LondonNicki · 15/04/2016 21:44

I have since read and discussed this with people and I am deeply sorry for my insensitive and admittedly ignorant comment. I wish much joy on this little family and they sound like wonderful parents.
I'll hold my hands up and I'm ashamed but I am more educated now on the topic and glad it was flagged to me.

Lots of luck and years of happiness to you xx

Unicow · 15/04/2016 22:01

Huge congratulations

AnotherStitchInTime · 15/04/2016 22:59

Congratulations, so glad it went well Flowers

Dollymixtureyumyum · 15/04/2016 23:21

Congratulations Flowers

FloatIsRechargedNow · 15/04/2016 23:29

What a gracious admission from Nicki, I'm sure I'm not alone in forgiving you.

Samcro · 15/04/2016 23:30

i have been lurking on this thread

CONGRATULATIONS

Chinks123 · 15/04/2016 23:36

Smile LondonNicki and sorry if my post to you was Abit harsh, I was in a grump and thought you were being rude but I could have "enlightened you" in a kinder tone. X

LondonNicki · 15/04/2016 23:52

I was being rude but I spent some time googling autism and the effects and have learned a lot so thanks for the wake up! Also spoke to a friend with a child with autism so I hope I have more appreciation.
Just so happy for this lovely couple and their wonderful news :-)

summerdreams · 15/04/2016 23:59

Wow congratulations Flowers

piesoclock · 16/04/2016 10:52

Op I'm absolutely thrilled to hear of the safe arrival of your son. Flowers and rainbows to you and your wife!