To ask if you would be miffed over this?

[FlyRussianUnicorn]

Friend of over 25 years is getting married in a few weeks.

V last minute, small ish ceremony of 50 guests. Said she wasnt having bridesmaids etc. Except i saw on facebook a "bridemaids trips away for Xs pre wedding celebration!" i wasnt even invited.

We have grown up together, see each other every few months.

Would you be a bit pissed off?

I think YABU.
You don't see her often so I assume you're not part of the full circle of grit, just her. How do you know that the trip wasn't arranged By her friends/bridesmaids? You need to get over yourself.

YABU, I think. There are many people I grew up with. My best mate from my youth - daughter of my dad's best friend, her mum and my mum became best friends, we almost lived in each others' houses, her family was my family etc. Well, she ended up living in the country, I lived in central London, we kept in touch a bit. I always had news of her via my parents, and we still all got together at Xmas, and so on.

Meanwhile, my life went on and I made new friends, from work, from where I socialised, neighbours, and so on. Those friends were current friends, they were the people I was sharing my day to day life with. She wasn't. I didn't expect to be invited to her wedding. I didn't invite her to mine. We were still happy to spend time together when the families got together at Xmas, and had the occasional fb chat.

Her sister had a much bigger wedding - 200+ guests; my parents, siblings and I were invited, along with many other 'old family friends'.

You're not best mates any more, not in that way.

Was it somebody else's Facebook post? Maybe they've over embellished their own wedding involvement?

If you contact friend to find out you'll look bitter. I don't see the point. I wouldn't want to go where I wasn't wanted. Life is too short. Let them crack on with it. It's sad when friendships evolve and move on but it does happen.

I don't get this.l had so many friends at that stage there was no way l could have them all as bridesmaids. I had friends from my childhood that l loved dearly and really wanted at my wedding but went out with the crowd who were living in my new town for my hen. Its impossible to pull all your friends together at any one time. You are invited to the wedding. Go and enjoy it. Saying you are in a huff is ridiculous and l don't get people encouraged you.